How to be less shy when meeting people?

August 14, 2008 2:32pm CST
Hi- I am always shy when I first meet people, and no matter what I do, I can't shake it. It is starting to get annoying, so I am coming here for help. What can I do to be less shy when meeting people? That is my main problem, once I get to be around that person for a while I open up, but when first meeting someone and for a little while after, I just have nothing to say. Any help?
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@taface412 (3175)
• United States
14 Aug 08
I used to be that way and someitmes still am depending on my mood at the time and if I know other people around me. And anyone who knows me cannot believe this because I never shut up. Ever. So try this. I know it is scary especially if you are super shy. Look the person in the eye. It is very scary to do this at first. But if you do it and face the person you never know, you may find some confidence in you. Because not many people do this little tactic. and it does give you confidence and it also shows that you are an attentive person and also trustworthy. I am sure as a shy person you also are a people watcher. So use some of what you have learned. Are you funny? a story teller? a listener? a smiler? It just takes practice and pretty soon you will be out of that shell. For the most part now I can be thrown into any situtation and find something to talk about or relate to in the other person's life. Good luck and don't worry you will grow out of it.
• Ecuador
14 Aug 08
I am sure I will. Thanks for the advice.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
14 Aug 08
I do have some advice from you and I hope that it helps! The thing to remember is that this is the FIRST TIME that you are meeting these people correct? They do not know you yet; they don't know your insecurities or anyhting about you whatsoever. SO what does this mean? This means that you get to pretty much reinvent yourself each and every time you meet someone new! How great is that? If you are not happy with something you said or did one time in the past when you met someone new; then CHANGE it! The thing to remember is that whatever you believe about yourself will be the way things are. Take advantage of every new beginning when meeting someone new and allow yourself the freedom to be whoever you have always wished to be. As long as you never lie or be dishonest with people then there is no issue with you being this way.
• Ecuador
14 Aug 08
Thanks a ton.