Do you give firends a preference

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United States
August 15, 2008 10:07am CST
Here on the Lot do you tend to give your friends preference when it comes to deciding on best response or rating them? Have you ever rated a friend with a negative? What would be the reason for doing so? Obviously they will never know who rated them badly. I know with me when I go to decide on best response, unless someone just blows me away with a response I will give best response to a friend who has written a good response and usually a friend that has responded to more than one discussion. I think it is just because I seem to know them better.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
15 Aug 08
I have rated friends with negatives before now, a few times in fact. Not because I am mean though but because they had asked me too, but I hated doing it because they had done nothing to deserve it! Other than that I have never rated any of them negative. I do not really say that I give my friends preference when it comes to best responses, although they usually do end up getting them because it is always my friends that respond to my discussions. I always look through all the responses and read them all a couple of times to see who has done the best.
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• United States
15 Aug 08
That is the key to my discussions. If you write well and capture the essence of the discussion you will get best response. If there is a toss up I will almost always lean toward my friends. Or I send them a friend request. :)
@Wizzywig (7847)
15 Aug 08
I haven't really been here long enough to know anyone well so I can be fairly impartial. I haven't given anyone a negative as yet but I usually rate anyone who's responded, with a positive...assuming they've shown that they have actually read the starting comment by writing a relevant response.
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• United States
15 Aug 08
I have given my fair share of negative ratings. Only to those who write about something that has NOTHING to do with the discussion.
@sunshinecup (7871)
15 Aug 08
No, not really. It's tempting because I worry about hurting their feelings, but I have to be fair. It's what I want from others for myself. A fair shot at it. But I do see many that do give Best Response to their friends, even if they just type one sentence and others put 2 paragraphs. When I see that I keep that person in mind and I avoid their posts. I mean what's the since in bothering you know?
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• United States
15 Aug 08
I really try to not give anyone a best response unless I think they deserve it. If it is a tossup though I do tend to lean toward friends. Usually what I do is if I give someone who is not my friend a best response I usually send them a friend request too. :) Seems fair.
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
16 Aug 08
I do not give Friends preference when it comes to deciding BR. I based it on how good or inspiring the response is. As for rating, I'll rate most responses Positive except for those which are off-topic or abusive.
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@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
18 Aug 08
I see. If it's a tie between 2 or more responses for BR, I guess I'll give friends preference too. At least I know who I am giving the BR to.
• United States
18 Aug 08
I am speaking more of responses where there is no Clear BR. When it is a tossup between 2 or more responses, how do you decide then?
@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
16 Aug 08
It's a bit unfair when asked to me Double. Usually its only friends commenting on my discussions, so it shouldn't be too difficult to understand why my responses and best response appointments for my discussions favour them instead of other members. But overall, I'll give best response to whoever has the best response in my opinion be they on friends list or not.
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• United States
18 Aug 08
True, mainly friends respond to our discussions. Mainly, though, I was looking at when there is NOT a Best. In other words when there are 2 or more responses that were really good and you can't choose between them. What would you do?
@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
15 Aug 08
Now that reminds me. I have a heck of a lot of unresolved discussions to clear I have been doing the ones with fewer responses and no i find I have all the others waiting - must get it done this week-end. Now for your question. I choose the best response without looking at who was the author. I read my discussion and all the responses and the one which is nearest to the discussion will receive BR regardless of whether they are on my list, what color is their star or how many posts they have. In fact yesterday I gace a BR to a very new user just becuase it was just what I was hoping to find in the responses. As for marking negative, I'm not fond of that and only do it if I see an affiliate link or something blatantly against the rules. If it is only a difference of opinion that does not get a negative from me as we are all entitled to have our own opinion. Hope that's helped and hapy posting!
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• United States
15 Aug 08
Shouldn't you be twiddling your thumbs right now. Get off the guest computer and back to work!!! LOL LOL Ok Yes I admit I read your discussion. Happy holiday btw. What is the name of the holiday? the only time I lean toward friedns is when nothing really jumps out at me as a best response. What I usually do is I will go in a read the responses and comment on them. Then I come back and read my comments so that I can remember what I was looking for in a discussion. Sometimes it may be weeks before I resolve a discussion.
@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
15 Aug 08
Well even if you tell onme all the responses over there were oon my side - so there! Great fun MyLot eh?
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• United States
16 Aug 08
You are funny.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
16 Aug 08
I have quite a lot of frinds here in mylot but i dont think i intreact with them much.. if i need any help regarding sorting out scam like that i ask them for help otherwise they mind their business and i do the same.. so for me even newbie friends i have here doesnt bother me to ask anything about the positive and negative marking or best responses personally so i dont go and speka to them about them, even myself im totally free i give the best responses to them people who really deserves it and positive ratings to the people who are fair enough in their response and discussions.. but i have seen many people fromt he same place as friends or friends after coming her ein mylot i dont whats going betwen them they just give best response to each other lol.. i dont like to respond to such discussions where the people who really work hard to give their best which is not considered...
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• United States
18 Aug 08
Yes I agree. This discussion was more for those discussions when it is a toss up between responses. When you are looking at 2 or 3 responses and think "Which one" You can do eany meany miny moe or what do you do at that time?
• United States
15 Aug 08
To me Best Response means just that, Best Response. I don't pay attention to whether a person is on my friends list or not, its just the response that impresses me the most in a discussion I start. Everyone who responds to my discussions has an equal chance of getting BR, to me its not who was on my list, or who has responded to my discussions more than once. If you have a well thought-out response to my discussion, and I feel its the best one, I will rate it as such. You never know, that person may come to be your friend later just because you paid that much attention to their response.
• United States
15 Aug 08
True. If a discussion captures my eye and the escence of the discussion they get Best response. The truth of the matter is that with the friends I have they tend to be the ones that know what I am looking for in a discussion. I think that may be why I tend to lean toward my friends. I have over 100 friends but there are a few, like yourself that I just enjoy reading the responses. They are well thought out and deserving of best response.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
While i have not personally met my friends on MyLot, I tend to lean over in favor of a friend if and when i give a best response rating. And yes I have the same reason which is that i seem to know them better since they are on my list of friends. It may be a funny thing to say but that's how i feel. However, i have often overlooked the need to rate but i will try to do it in the future.
• United States
18 Aug 08
When there is a toss up between each response I will almost always lean toward a friend. Obviously I have alot of friends but there are certain ones that i talk to the most.
• China
16 Aug 08
i have introduced two friends to mylot successfully, i don't know whether i can't get 25%f their payment.
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