What is the purpose of getting married???

United States
August 16, 2008 11:10am CST
I just want to know what you think the purpose for getting married is???? I always thought is was a bond between two people that want something more than to be in a relationship.. Getting married is two people that are in love that want a partnership and want children together....
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@walkthetalk (1307)
• United States
16 Aug 08
You married your husband before you knew him. Now you are going through that part of your relationship.. Only your living together and married. You don't really even know each other. A lot of couples date or even live together for a year or longer. I Dated my husband for a year and we lived together for a year, and I was still scared of marriage. Your really young just to have jumped into marriage like you did. And you have so many doubts. Maybe the right thing for you would be is to start over. Date like you would have when you met. Maybe move back home with your mom if you can. It just seems like you have so many problems. And it doesn't seem like your very happy. That is the most important thing in life. Don't loose your life with the wrong person......:-)
@Galena (9110)
16 Aug 08
why would you marry someone before you know them? it's taken us nearly a decade to make that commitment.
• United States
16 Aug 08
No i wasn't saying that anything is wrong with my marriage.. I was just asking what people thought the purpose of getting married was... you have not right to tell me what to do.. I love my live, i love my husband.. My huband and i doing just fine as matter of fact. we are learning to talk more and discuse what we don't like and do like.. Thank you for the advice (which none was taken) have a great day and happy mylotting..
• United States
16 Aug 08
SHe was talking to me i only knew my husband for 5 months before we got married....
• India
20 Aug 08
to have children and continue your race and family
@Galena (9110)
20 Aug 08
oh, well if it's about procreation and not about love, I suppose I'd better cancel it then.
@Galena (9110)
23 Aug 08
of course, historically it was more political. but certainly in the modern day, I don't think children is a better reason for marriage than love is.
• India
22 Aug 08
marriage was never and would never be about love. it was and would remain just for the social acceptance quotient. two persons in love need not marry but two persons married are bound to develop feelings for each other.... i hope you got me
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
17 Aug 08
Marriage is all just paperwork! That may sound cynical, but in reality "marriage" was something started to make more money for religions and for the state. It is juts a piece of paper that gives you certain rights that the people who did not purchase the paper do not get. Has nothing to do with kids at all (if it did, don't ya think that god/creator would have designed us in such a way that we would not be capable of having children until we were married?)
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
17 Aug 08
Mariage was created by religion - just like the Bible - to get people to follow a certian path. People were in relationships and having babies long before anyone was being "married".
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I agree with you sedel. The bible was written by a group of men long after the earth was populated. Marriage is a man made ritual that began as a financial arrangement planned between families long before the couple were old enough to fall in love. Back in the day...love had absolutely nothing to do with marriage. The earth is now well populated so the entire adam and eve story is history anyway...even that had its purpose other than love. And if they were the first man and woman...who in heck married them??? I don't believe they got married...oh ya..God married them. right.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@Galena (9110)
16 Aug 08
I don't see what wanting children has to do with it. I have no intention of having children, but will be getting married next year. marriage is about two people, and two people only. about marking and celebrating their love and commitment to one another, and swearing an Oath, either to the law, or to whichever Gods you hold close, and to each other, that you will always strive to maintain and protect the bonds between you both. children are SOMETIMES a product of marriage. sometimes not. some are born without marriage, and some marriages never bear children. marriage is not about children.
• United States
16 Aug 08
thank you for the response and have a nice day happy mylotting...
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@Galena (9110)
16 Aug 08
that's a Christian opinion. like many people I am not Christian. and being married will give me no more inclination towards children. my Oath before my Gods is about binding my soul to my partners for all time. and we are the only two people entering into that contract.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I don't think a marriage will bond or cement a relationship. I used to think that when I was younger and before I got married and divorced. There are financial benefits in marriage that are not granted in live-in relationships. That's all, that I can come up with....it is has absolutely nothing to do with the strength of your love. Its all about legal and financial benefits. You can have a wonderful and loving relationship (more so than some marriages) with just living together for years and years. If you really, really love each other then marriage would just be something you do for the legal benefits. If those don't matter to you and you really, really love each other....It would not be important if you had that piece of paper or not. You'd still love each other.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I'm sure that is what marriage is supposed to be about. Unfortunately it often doesn't turn out that way. I'm a middle aged woman who was married for over 20 years. Then we divorced and I can say I'm happier in that decision than I ever was married. Don't get me wrong - I'm not a guy hater. I do have a guy in my life and we have lived together for 8 years now. But, I won't marry him. I see no point in doing so. We also work very hard to keep things separate so that we are not classified as common law. I think marriage is an old tradition that needs to die out. If you love someone you can stay with them for just that reason - love.
• United States
17 Aug 08
You are tottally right.. thank you for the response and have a great night and happy mylotting..
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
18 Aug 08
apparently this person has to do some research on the history of marriage...the bible even. Good lord, the bible was written long after man inhabited the earth and marriage was created after that. People that just read the bible blindly without doing any sort of research....puppets!
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
17 Aug 08
LOL Well considering I am not Christian and don't believe Adam nor Eve even existed I don't think I'll worry too much about your opinion of my beliefs. Marriage began many years ago when parents basically "sold" their children to the highest bidder for either land or other property. It has evolved over centuries to what it is today. Even the wedding rings started out from how the "bride" was carted off wearing manacles when she didn't go willingly to the groom. It too has evolved now to be a simple wedding ring. Just as we women are required to take the man's name - in essence becoming his property. It took me alot of years and alot of reading to come to these truths.
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@shana123 (2095)
• India
17 Aug 08
Every man need a women in all aspects to fulfill their need like to love to share etc and similarly even a girl needs a guy.. to make this relationship holy and legal marriage was introduced between a single man and single women.Then they can multiply their generation ..and live happily.. thats how GOD blessed the humans to be..
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
my ideal purpose of marriage is... having someone to spend the rest of your days with :)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting..
• Indonesia
17 Aug 08
hmm i am not yet married, but for me personally i look marriage as the next step in our life... we are grow up from children,teenager who struggle with school and then have a job to make money and so as like much people we began thinking to have a partner in life... i am not sure or believe that all people married base in love... i knew some people married only for money or status... whatever the choices is i just wish people get married for being more happy
• United States
17 Aug 08
Me too... I wish people would get married for reason like they are happy and in love not for money... Where i am from there is alot of military and alot of these people here get married for the money its called a contract marriage... I hate meeting people that got married for those reasons only.. Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@roanne05 (1290)
• Oman
17 Aug 08
for me,,,marriage is a life time commitment that cannot be broken.it has its ups and downs and need to be ready for that roller coaster ride...
• United States
17 Aug 08
that is a great way to explain marriage Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting..
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
17 Aug 08
Hi, for me married is to find someone that you love and with who you want to built a common life, go over the problem toghether, grow up toghether, slowly discover eachother, someone to understand and that understand but sometimes doesnìt work but also that helps to grow up and more important it helps to learn from the mistakes... Nun
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
they married coz they love each other,they stay for each other until they grow old and having a family,and have children...
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I believe when you get married, you seal the bond that lovers currently have. Marriage symbolizes that the man and his wife wants to spend their lives together forever. Marriage is a way to declare to the whole world that the partners want to grow old with each other.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@gladeez (63)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Hi pixie! For me getting married is a very tough decision. It is the time when you are going to say goodbye to single hood and embrace the new pace wherein you have to deal with things from two person's perspective. It is saying good bye to being alone and saying hello to commitment and bond. It is a wonderful alternative to your empty home... Marriage is not just about love... it is more likely about being comfortable with a person... welcoming the thought of staying with a person not just for a year or so but for a lifetime. It's about finding the right person at the right time and grabbing the opportunity of spending your whole life with that person and that commitment.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I believe the primary purpose of marriage is to procreate and to help each other save their souls. there are plenty of secondary reasons and benefits to marriage.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response have a great day and happy mylotting
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
[i]Hello pixiedustforyou2008, For me the purpose of married is to settle down with someone you love. Share the experiences with your love one as you journey through life. The Bible say you have to leave your parents and to be one with your wife. It essentially means you'll have to be with someone to really experiences life. I think that's about it. Regards. [/i]
• United States
17 Aug 08
That is a great way to explain marriage... Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
[i]The purpose of marriage is to spiritually, emotionally and physically unite a man and a women together, as husband and wife, in a covenantal relationship between themselves and their Creator. Marriage is one of the most important commitments that someone can make during their lifetime. If you are considering making such a commitment, it is important to think about the type of commitment that you will be making with the person you plan to marry. If you are already married, you may find it helpful to reflect on the commitment that you have already made to your spouse. [/i]
• United States
17 Aug 08
Yes i am already married... I got married just four months ago.. Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
17 Aug 08
It is not all due to love. There are something also important in your life. You can get a lot form marriage. It can give you the feelings of warmth and safety. Actually stable life is quite comfortable. You spouse can help you both in your job or in your life. The life can be more colorful when you have a kid, who can bring hope and happy to you.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@rockkk (71)
17 Aug 08
well i think getting married is jus a way of losing our freedom and v wont be able ourself at all. so i don ve any idea of getting married and be a slave to my wife who jus ordersand v must obey her words and such a life is fit for nothing.so its jus waste of life i would say.
• United States
17 Aug 08
I don't think that marriage is about losing your freedom. i think it is about loving one another so much that you want something more... you don't lose all of you freedoms when you get married.. Men might thing they do but women think different... I don't think that i lost my freedom when i got married I have lost of freedoms i choose not to use them... Like i could go out if i wanted to but i choose not to cause i want to stay home with my husband.... Thank you for the response and have a nice day and happy mylotting..
@magna86 (1786)
• India
17 Aug 08
thats a trckky ques! i don wanna ans it lol!!!!!
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response anyway have a great day and happy mylotting...