If you child was add or adhd would you consider???

United States
August 16, 2008 7:22pm CST
If your child was add or adhd would consider coping with it with medication or would you try other remedies to help the child with his school work???? I don't have any children i am speaking on my own experience i have been adhd for y whole like when i was 14 i decided to get off medication to do it all on my own well that didn't so well i ended up hanging around the wrong people getting into the wrong think (drugs).... I was dating someone that very abusive and controlling and I ended up dropping out of high school because i wasn't doing good on my studies and i had a controlling boyfriend that wanted me to drop out.. I think that me dropping out of high school was a result of I not being on medication and being addicted to drugs.. I wish nowadays that i had stayed on the medication and finishes school... It really hard not being on medication and trying to concentrate at school... I would know from experience.. Now that i a older and on medication again i see how it works and i definitely needed it when i was a teenager... I wouldn't have don't some of the stupid things that i did... My mother didn't even say anything when i wanted to quite taking the medication she just said okay and now i wish that she made me take them cause i would have don't so much better in school... So if you had a child that had adhd would consider medication or try other remedies????
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12 responses
• United States
19 Aug 08
I am add, I am on meds. I have never thought of taking myself of the meds. I do now some people that have their children on meds that are natural and it seems to work for their kids. have a great night
• United States
19 Aug 08
thank you for the response and have a great night and happy mylotting... Its really hard being adhd and i have found that out being off meds and then going back on meds i understand that i need the medication to help me focus and concentrate... It also helps me to read better thats why i am on mylott all the time cause i love to read now before the medication i use to hate reading but not i love to read and i love to read peoples thoughts on things
@prettyD (123)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Yes, I will first go to medicaitons because that thing is so complicated to handle and i think an expert can pretty sure help me with it. Actually, I believe my eldest son is an adhd but that is only my presumption at this moment because i have not yet consulted as expert for it, honestly, i am yet in denial for this, but eventually when things will get into worst i would probably consult an expert for it.
• United States
19 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
17 Aug 08
For us, medication would be a very last resort thing to begin with. If my son was diagnosed, I would try the diets, tutoring ,etc and see if that help. If he had to be on the meds and one day said I want off, I would not just take him off. We we go to the doctor and wean him off, like you are suppose to. Then I would give him a certain amount of time to try being off the meds and if that didn't' work, we would put him back on. Maybe not the same meds, but something to help him be successful.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you very much for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
17 Aug 08
My son was diagnosed at 7 1/2 years of age, but I had thought he was way before then. He was doing terrible in school, getting into trouble all the time, and he was a terror at night at home. He had to try a few meds before he we found one that worked for him and let me tell you he is a different kid now. He still has his moments, but what kid doesn't. He went from c's and d's to A's and B's last year when he started the meds. He had trouble reading because he could not concentrate. Now he is getting really good at reading and even reads when he does not have too.
• United States
17 Aug 08
That is great that you are a parent that wants to help their child.. Medication works for some chilren and sometimes it doesn't.. Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Yes I would. I would get a couple of medical opinions first, but if medication available for the condition then I see nothing wrong with the child taking it. Just by reading your post, is enough to convince me how important it is to continue taking it. I think that now that you realize what happened to you, you can take the medication if still necessary and finish school. It's never too late and you seem to understand the importance of it. I wish you luck in the future.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Yes i do see the importance in finishing school... That is my main priority right now is to finish school thank you very much... Thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting..
@capirani (2739)
• United States
17 Aug 08
My son grew up ADHD. We didn't do the meds until he was a teenager because at that time all the info about it was that they would outgrow it by the time they were teenagers and if we could be patient, that would be better for him. It was not the right choice. But when we tried the meds, he took himself off of them because he didn't like them, even though he was begging for help. What finally did the most to help was following what is called the Feingold Diet. It talks of food allergies and chemicals that affect behavior and mood. When we began checking into that, we found amazing results. You can check out the list of foods and chemicals that are common causes of ADHD at my Squidoo Lens at www.squidoo.com/ADHDalternative. There is nothing to buy except a notebook and pen or pencil to keep a diary of all the foods eaten and chemicals exposed to. And it works.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you so much i will check it out.. thank you for the response and have a great day and happy mylotting...
@succed (879)
• United States
17 Aug 08
=Yes meds can help but parent's responsible is to discipline's kids nowadays. I have never heard such adhd back then. While growing up with 10 siblings who each and everyone have different type of characteristic I would say active, hyper or squirmer, or wont even listen to my parents voice but all of that my parents were able to discipline us in a way of not getting what we want. Kids nowadays are very spoiled, too much toys, food, overnight stay with friends, non supervise with adult. We didn't have that before. We were never allowed to stay over with friends house or friends stay over with us even after we are adult. Toys are very limited, sometimes brothers share one truck toy, and sisters share a baby doll toy. When it comes to doing homework parents was with us. And if we were destructed by something or wont be able to do our homework parents would make us sit in a corner for long time, until we will agree to behave and do our homework. When we want something, parents would made us promise to do well at school or at home doing household chores, if teachers report that you dont do well at school our parents will sit with us and have a long conversation why? Our parents instill in us so much knowledge. We thought our parents are dont love us. Years passed, we thank our parents for being there and not using medication to make us behave. Right discipline is all these kids need. KIDS adhd could also contribute to advanced meds in modern time. In my opinion, DISCIPLINE, DISCIPLINE , DISCIPLINE, DISCIPLINE IS WHAT THEY NEED.
• United States
17 Aug 08
So are you saying that i need discipline... Hahah my parents disciplined me... Nothing has work but the medication... I don't think that children with add/adhd need discipline i think they need alot of love.... We are a different type person we are unique in our own ways.. One id good at something that the other is not.. I say that we are unique people thats what i say about add/adhd it makes us unique... Thank you for the response and have a great night and happy mylotting...
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I think kids are so over medicated these days especially the ones with "ADD" or "ADHD". Most of those kids are just kids. Kids are hyper! But I do understand that it is a real condition and is something that needs to be helped. My husband was on medication for a while but now he is in the military and cannot take it. Sometimes his absent mindedness drives me crazy! If my kids turn out to have it I would probably turn to other help before medication. But, I know a lot of the disease has to do with brain chemistry and medication fixes that. So, I guess I will cross that bridge if I get there.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great night happy mylotting...
• United States
17 Aug 08
I have 3 children that have been diagnosed adhd.Yes, 3.It can be very difficult at times.It was very hard for me when they were younger.Its starting to get better now that they are all hitting the teenage yrs. At first I was opposed to them being on medication.Regardless that their doctor recommended that it would be to their benefit,I strongly believed that medication wasnt the answer.I think because I had heard so many stories of medication being prescribed to easily to children.Some of which wasn't even really necessary.Therefore, I was scared. It did though get very, very hard for me. I felt like I was gonna go crazy.Then it started to show in school.Their grade stated to suffer and I started getting phone calls from the teachers for their behavior. After thinking about it and doing some talking to other professionals(counselors,etc.), I agreed to give the medication a try.Boy, was I glad I did! It made a very significant difference! My one daughter whos grades werent that good moved up to honor role! Now, I still believe it may be to frequently given out but in my situation it is just what they needed.So, I now believe it could be beneficial in some cases Now that they are older,things have changed.My one daughter has made some progress with her adhd.She has also had her medication reduced and no longer takes it in the summer only for school, and her dose is lower as well. I think it all depends upon the situation.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you very much for you response and have a great night and hapy mylotting...
@relundad (2310)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I think I would consider all avenues and hopefully be able find a workable combination of treatments that worked for my child specifically. Each case is different therefore would need to be treated differently. I do think that a lot of people don't recognize it as a real disease or condition and rather think that its just a child being a child. Which is so not the case as I am sure that you can attest. Sometimes the standard classroom is not the best scenario for them. Often times as parents we just think that our kids are acting out and never get them diagnosed. There are many adults that suffer as well, and without treatment their adult lives are just as scrambled. You can still get your GED, continue your education and your career.
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
i dont have kids yet, but i've been with kids with ADHD/ADD. Some of them are under medication, others are not. Others improved with a good treatment program such as therapy, even without meds. Others dont. If my child has ADD/ADHD, i will try first to work things out without the medication. If he can cope with school & with his social life effectively without any medication, thats great, but if not, Im not closing my doors to medications.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you very much for the response have a great night and happy mylotting..
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I have a child who has a mild ADHD. We give him more attention and show him that he is loved and cared for.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Thank you for the response and have a great night and happy mylotting...