Why do brown women want to be fair and fair women want to be brown skinned?

@Jenaisle (3803)
Philippines
August 16, 2008 7:26pm CST
I sometimes marvel at how women who are tanned skin look for ways to get a fairer skin. On the contrary, women who are fair skinned want to acquire that tan. A number of beauty products are selling like hotcakes because of these. What do you think is the rationale behind this? Is it only the demands of society or is it the way we perceive beauty? What are the beauty products that you used to attain your skin color?
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19 responses
• United States
17 Aug 08
I see this too. However, I see this with lots of different qualities that women have.I see that alot of woman with natural blonde hair like brown or black hair,as women with natural dark kair dye their hair lighter.This also is seen in eye color,hair style curly or strait,short or long,etc. I was very thin my whole life.Up until I had my fifth child approx 1 1/2 yr ago.Then I kept some weight and was very thankful for it.I was so tired of being thin.I actually always wanted to have more of a curvy shaped figure regardless of the woman that would compliment me and say how I was nuts for wanting to gain weight I think alot of the time is people wanted what they dont have,it's different,refreshing, new and exciting. I love to wear colored contacts. I am happy with my light broen color but I like to wear blue as well. I actually prefer it. I also change my hair color every couple of years.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
If that's the case with you, then it would be fine, because you do it not because you don't want what you have but because you want to improve on what you have. And that's good and positive. Thanks for sharing your vital contribution.
@babykeka80 (2089)
• United States
17 Aug 08
People always want what they dont have. It is not just true with skin color. Women with straight hair get perms or use curlers. Women with curly hair go get their hair straightened. Women with blue eyes get dark contacts and those with brown eyes get light contacts. It is funny you brought this up because a customer at my job and I were just talking about this the other day. Short people want to be tall tall want to be short. People are just never satisfied.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
You're right! That's why we don't often find happiness because we are not satisfied with the things that we have. Your examples are very specific and should be an eye opener for our readers. Thanks for replying.
• United States
17 Aug 08
People always desire what they aren't, or cannot have. Luckily I like having my fair skin, I can't see myself having a tan. I know a lot of women who just lay out in the sun for hours to become darker, I could never do that because that would have a bad effect on my future, I am happy that I like the way I look already haha. Though I like having fair skin, I still think women with dark skin are very beautiful, I am just happy in my own skin, as everyone should be!
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I like what you said that you're happy with your own skin and that everyone should be. It means you're an optimist. Cheers.
@Elixiress (3891)
18 Aug 08
I think that it is a matter of wanting what you can't have and changing your skin colour is something that you can't do. Well you can, but not easily. The only product I use to change my skin colour is a little bit fake tan on my legs sometimes as it makes them look more toned then when they are really white, also they are whiter than the rest of my skin, but most the time I just wear tanned tights as it is easier, less messy and streak free.
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@cjmobxnc (137)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Actually, in my way of thinking, it seems that we always want whatever we can't have. I personally don't use anything to change my skin color. My daughter was using a type of moisturizer that had something in it that would naturally darken a persons skin tone. I thought I would try it, and I ended up being allergic to something in it, and I broke out in hives. No more for me.
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• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I am also fascinated at some people (not only women) who would try everything on their skin just to be fair or vice versa. Hundreds of medicines, soaps, beauty agents plus the so many emerging dermatologist and clinics practically anywhere are catering for these people. Do they really have effect or all of those whitening agents would somehow be superficial and natural colors will be back again. Maybe these are just fads that they tend to look alike or be like those people they adore especially the celebrities on TV. I'm glad I'm happy with my brown skin and not in any way would I like to change it.
• United States
17 Aug 08
Well, I happen to like my skin color. I used to lay out in the sun when I was a lot younger (in high school and college) and I would get really dark because I have olive tone skin. However, when I saw a family friend who was in her 40's at the time and she had been laying out in the sun all her life and loved being dark, her skin looked tight and drawn and was like sand paper. She looked old and she was probably the age I am now or younger at that time but she looked a lot older. After seeing her, I made the decision to quit laying in the sun. I was 25 and I haven't laid in the sun since then and I have people who think I'm still in my 30's now and I'll be 50 in December. I'm not sure why so many women want to change the color of their skin. It's sort of like the women who like to color their hair because they don't like their color or they prefer a different color. The only time I think that's really nuts is when they change it to a color that is odd like green, pink or purple or when black women color their hair blonde. I'm sure they think it looks good but it looks funny. Everyone has their idea of what looks good and what doesn't but I know that most people I have talked to over the years think that black women, especially really dark black women, who color their hair blonde, look odd. It looks like they are trying to be white. I'm sure they don't see it that way but that's how it looks to others, especially white people. Please know that I'm not trying to be critical because, in the whole scheme of things, this just isn't too important. If coloring your skin or hair makes you feel good about yourself, go for it. I happen to like my skin color and my hair color. Fortunately, I still have my own natural color and only a very few strands of gray that I pray against every day. I've been praying Psalm 103:5 every day for years that my youth is renewed like the eagles and I still look young. Once I lose weight, I'll look even younger.
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@SHAMRACK (8522)
• India
17 Aug 08
Dear friend, I hope they might be bored after a long time seeing either the fair skin or brown skin. May they need a change. Just kidding. I hope they all need a healthy and beautiful skin. May be just for being beautiful each person has their own concept, hence they may like their overall appearances to that way may as far as possible some may try their best to keep them beautiful as they think so.
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Human nature is such that we all want what we don't having thinking that somehow our lives would be happier if we could change a physical attribute. Tall people want to be shorter, short ones dream of being tall. Curly haired women want straight locks, those with straight locks wish for curls. Eye color, background, skin tone, etc are things everyone thinks if changed would make them happier. I suppose it also depends on what's in style, but people need to learn that happiness comes from within.
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@mimico (3618)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I guess this just shows that man is never really satisfied with what he has. It's not just with skin tone but also with our other qualities. We're not happy with our bone structure, height, hips, etc. We're not satisfied with our job. We're not pleased with our partners in life. There are so many things that we ought to be thankful for and yet we're constantly searching and asking for more. In a way, this can be good in a sense that we can transcend and become better. At the same time, it can also be seen badly because we take for granted some of the things we already have.
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@krc9248 (10)
• United States
17 Aug 08
We are never satisfied with what we have and want to chage it. I think society made us that way. We have been told that tanned skin looks healthier, so we go out to get a tan, then they tell us it causes skin cancer and wrinkles. So they come up with products to give us that "healthy tan look" witout the sun. We have been programmed to believe we are suppose to be tanned in order to look healthy. As far as those that are already dark skinned I can't comment on that. I did not know they were trying to go lighter skinned.
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@poona_m (336)
• India
17 Aug 08
Ever heard "Grass is always greener on the other side of the river"? Its a similar case. Its natural for humans to want what is not available and then try and get it. it is this tendency of humans that makes them excel over other species. consider place where all women are white. so all men have no other option but to have white women. but if one of them is brown then don't you think that she being different from all other women would get more attention from the men there? the same is applicable for place full of brown women. why do you think Asian girls are so much in demand in the western countries? that was the demand part of it. Now lets look at the supply part of it. If all women in a particular place are white then each one of them would be competing with each other for the attention of the best men. But only a few would win the contest. Now if you are a brown skinned girl among all the white women you are assured of getting the attention by the best men. And this is what every girl is trying to do. its not a mere social mindset but a natural tendency in any species. Attracting good mates is key to survival of the species and attracting the opposite gender by any means is absolutely normal for any individual in any species. Changing skin color is only one of the many ways girls do that, for that matter even the guys are not behind now days.
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@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
We can call it, no satisfaction attitude. We human beings are not really satisfied of everything that we had. We are always looking or dreaming about something new. When we will have it, we are not yet satisfied. Those women who are not satisfied with their skin color are striving to get what color they desperately want. And the cosmetics company are having a field day introducing latest products to gain a woman's addiction for fair skin. I am a woman. But you can never see me wearing a make up, lipstick or applying any whitening products to enhance my beauty. I am what I am. And even though I don't understand why other women crave another skin color, I understand and respect their wishes.
• India
17 Aug 08
well no body s complete in this world even MICHAEL JAKSON must be having some desires its just the human tendency that we always desire what we dont have its jus that we should remaim happy with what god has given us ....nobody can take place of a broun skined model walking on a ramp an viceverca..jus changing your colour delebrately with beauty products will defintly effect skin in longer run neither its the demand of th society nor its th way we percieve beauty ITS JUS THAT WE WANT TO DO SOM THING BECAUSE OTHERS R DOING TO BRING THEMSELVES IN TO LIMELIGHT.....
17 Aug 08
This is because the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. (I'm not sure if it's really the fence or whatever :)) People never get satisfied with what they have, they always think that other people have it better. They always compare theirselves with other people. And this comparison makes millions for these companies that make these products that promise people to have the things that they don't have like the color of the skin. Being fair-skinned since birth, I have also tried tanning products for a change. And it worked, I like the Jergens Moisturizer that tans your skin with daily usage.
@fearie (153)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
why? simple people always want what they dont have brown women want to be white and white women wanna be brown or have perfectly tanned skin it's really weird.. but people in general are like that we always want what we dont have
@shana123 (2096)
• India
17 Aug 08
beauty - beautiful
Its very difficult to understand about a women... i havent seen any women in my place who really wants to get tanned, but in my place i have seen much fairer girls wants them to get more and more fair and people with the small lips want to show with the lipstick liners that they have a big one.. and people with big ones want them to show as if they are with small one.. thats funny indeed.. i have met many skinny friends who actually eat more to put on their weight and many plumpy girls who wanted to reduce their weight they keep exercising and starving without food.. its all funny folks with girls like us.. lol Happy mylotting Jenaisle
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I'm dark skinned and I don't want to be fair. I love my shade of brown. I don't know what it is that makes us want to have something else other than what we are born with. I know I have always wanted straight hair because my frizzy hair is hard to manage.
@ltsaxcash (197)
• United States
17 Aug 08
The answer is simple. It is human nature to always want what you cant have.