Your Priorities

@MOMMASAM (1004)
United States
August 16, 2008 8:02pm CST
I believe we would all agree that our priorities need to remain flexible throughout our life. what was very important in our 20's, may be less so (or more so) in our 30's and 40's. and, even beyond ! what were your priorities in your 20's? how have they evolved with your current age? i had been told i would never conceive a baby. i was determined to accomplish this. i went to many doctors. i had many tests. finally, i went to a sufist in san francisco. after many tests and examinations, he announced i would get pregnant. i only needed to fast for 30 days. i did this and became pregnant the week after i finished this cleansing fast. how about you ? what's on your Survival List for today? or, this year?
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16 responses
@nic_knick (741)
• China
18 Aug 08
i am 27 this year. and i am going to be in my 30s. and i have no idea why time would elapes so fast. and i do not have too many life goals. i work and rest. and i wish i could find some body to get married in recent years.good luck to you and me.
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
indeed, the years go by too quickly. how on earth did i become 60 years of age? i remember my grandmother used to say that you should enjoy every day as it goes too quickly. she was correct and wise as most grandmothers are. yes, my friend, good luck to you. you may find the right person when you least expect it !
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• China
19 Aug 08
thanks. i have been so gloomy and upset during these years. and i know the reason why i am so unhappy. maybe i should listen to what u said here. enjoy every day in my life. thanks. happy mylotting.
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@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Hi MOMMASAM, When I was 20, all I want to do is to finish my course and geta great job..I did it and now in my 30's I wanted to go back to school and get another course, I wish to be stable again after quitting my job before my 40's..lol
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
this is a wonderful priority ! being able to attend school for additional education. to better yourself and your job. to retire in your 40's. WOW, that's a wonderful dream that could possibly be a reality. i pray you succeed, too.
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• United States
19 Aug 08
hahaha..yea, wish it will happen..lol! Thanks!
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@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Priorities certainly change as we age and evolve. In my teens my only priority was running as fast as I could away from my crazy azz mother. Achieved that one but ran into the fist and boots of a crazy azz husband. In my twenties my priority was to become a "real" adult. Learn to be self-sufficient and play hard. I sort of did both and got an education, two sons, and another crazy azz husband in the deal (he didn't have fists that hit though). In my early thirties my priority was to become financially secure, this changed after a shooting. In my late thirties my priority was to become physcially and emotionally healthy again, relearn to use the body I was left with changed though it was, get more education and become financially secure without benefit of male input. In my forties my priority was to rebuild my life spirtually, emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically from the ground up. Stumbled a few times but for the most part I learned valuable lessons through that decade. Now I am in my fifties, I will be 51 next month. This decade is for building my future. My priority is to build and replenish my retirement funds lost through bad marriages and bad decision making. It is to have fun in my work life using all the skills and talents I have learned along the way. It is to enjoy the grandchildren I am bound to have (first one due in October). It is to build on all the foundations it has taken this long to lay.
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
you have certainly lived through a nightmare in your life. it is wonderful to hear that you have taken back control by rebuilding what others have tried to destroy. but, they never destroyed the true essence of you. and you are living your life to the fullest every day to prove that. congratulations to you. you are truly an inspiration to all of us !
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@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
20 Aug 08
Don't know about being an inspiration, but thank you. Do know I am starting to appreciate life a bit more every day. Thanks for the BR also.
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• United States
18 Aug 08
My priorities seem to be all financial. I want to pay off my truck, get caught up on my rent and bills and pay off my credit card debt. And eventually maybe even buy some land. By the way Congrats on getting pregnant. I have a 4 month old little girl, Our first.
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
i think it's wonderful that a top priority for you is financial. too often, like in my case, i never thought about it at all and it came swooping down at me in a very ugly way when i got divorced. a credit card debt seems to take forever to pay off. best of luck to you in buying some land for your family's future !
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@TiffanieC (827)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I will be turning 30 in less then a month and priorities are something I've been thinking alot about and working on. God and my health are two that need to be much higher on the priority list then they've been in the past. Even though I really need to be making money... getting my house in order is now at the top of the list too. Once my house is in order I will be able to function much better.
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
i agree that priorities really come to light in one's thirties. we are always at "choice" to renumber our priorities. shift them around as they are needed. God and good health are top in my house, too.
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17 Aug 08
Oh yes I can see my priorities changing with age. In my teens it was all about friends, doing well at college and having a good time. In my twenties now my priorities are my career, family and unfortunately my health. I have some health issues which I am battling, and my fertility could be affected by this condition. My current priority is to remain in good enough health to remain employed and to have children in the future.
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
i am so sorry to hear you have health issues. you are wise to have a top priority of health. health affects everything in life. employment, insurance, family, finances, and even retirement. the list could go on and on. i pray for extra strength for you to fight your medical condition so that you may obtain your goals and priorities.
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@pkraj111 (2459)
• India
17 Aug 08
Well, I set different priorities for different purposes. So I will list down the priorities in order of priority Professional:-To get promoted to executive by next year Personal:- To buy a house and find a suitable match for myself in the next two years Educational:- To complete my PG in management by next year This is my current target list
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
these are all strong priorities. i hope you are able to succeed at them. it is good to actually prioririze your priority list ! best of luck to you in this achievement.
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@shana123 (2096)
• India
17 Aug 08
im just 20 so as of now im just concentrating on my studies and have decided to marry the one whom i love very shortly after my studies then job.. its all in GOD hands that what should happen in my future..
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
i think we cannot succeed at any priority at any stage in our lives unless we have the love of God.
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@kezabelle (2980)
17 Aug 08
Well im not out of 20's yet im 24 my priorities now are my children and I cant see that changing ever, they will always be my number one prority and everything else I want or need to do will come second. They are only 4 and 2 years old so need me for a while longer yet as their needs come first to mine while they cant look after them selves.
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
oh, i agree. a top priority is to raise and love and nurturing one's children. this is a priority for LIFE. my daughter is 31. she and my son-in-law and my 81 year old mother have always been my top priorities. i feel what we pass on to the next generation is the most rewarding priority.
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• China
17 Aug 08
During past 12 years since I attended preliminary school, my priority is never else but score, I made great efforts to get the number 1.But now ,as a senior, my priority has changed ,I care more about my ablity, whether I can deal things in more effecient way and whether I can meet as many challenge as possible so I can taste more from bitter life and improve myself constantly. Plus, having a good boyfriend is also one important thing in my recent years,hehe.
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
having someone to share your life is very important. being secure enough to meet all challenges and to improve yourself constantly are also wonderful priorities.
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• China
17 Aug 08
I agree with you. I also believe that life is control by myself.In my 30's, almost is study at school. It's very interesting in my study life, I feel more relax to study lot of informations. now I still love study and teach students to get knowledge. my life is very normal and quiet. I like it very much.
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
19 Aug 08
studying and learning and teaching what we know. those are wonderful priorities at any time in your life.
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@Jenaisle (4139)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
My priority today is my family. I think they have been my priority even before. But yes, some things changed like I have to prioritize now exercise and dieting if I want to maintain my good health; whence before I eat anything I wanted. As one grows older, there are certain limitations to activities which require stamina nd vigor. Talk about getting old with grace..lol...
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
17 Aug 08
well, i am 60 and i know all too well the limitations that age provides to us ! you are very wise to look and plan ahead to keep problems from happening in the first place. nutrition is vital to good health. thanks for responding and continued good health to you and may you age with grace !
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@maapav (729)
• India
17 Aug 08
life - I want my live my life on my own terms
Yes, really priorities change in every phase of life. When I was a child my only priority was to get 1st rank in my class. I got married early and was a mother when I was 19 so my priority was my daughter, then my son came, now my priority was my children. But now I am in my 30s and my priority is now money as we have been cheated by our own in laws and I want to show them that we are not living upon their mercy and we can also live on our own. So as for today my priority is to live life on my own terms and earn money and prove myself.
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
17 Aug 08
what a wonderful story. although very sad, too, that your own in-laws have cheated you. but, through it all, you learned a valuable lesson. you can now live life on your own terms. yes, i feel you will be successful in teaching your in-laws that they did not stop you from being a wonderful mother and earning money. it's wonderful to be able to prove yourself, too, when you need to. thank you for responding and continue living life on your own terms. that's the best way to live life !
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@maddysmommy (16232)
• United States
17 Aug 08
In my 20s it was all about partying and hanging out with friends. I was working full-time, in a good job, earning my own money but wasting it away on booze, clothes and other meaningless things. I was in a relationship that turned sour after seven years and got me into a lot of debt, I was depressed and went on a drinking binge. If I hadn't met my husband then, I don't know where I would be now. Got married when I was 30, had our son when I was 31 and moved two countries in the process. We have been trying for another child for several years but have not been blessed. We will keep trying :)
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
17 Aug 08
it's hard to NOT reward yourself with things for me when you first begin working. and, yes, i wish i had all the money i blew on meaningless things. of course, at the time, i thought they were really important ! you are blessed to have found a good man, have had a child, been able to move around the globe. and, yes, keep trying for another child. i hope you are blessed a second time.
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@cripfemme (7710)
• United States
17 Aug 08
In my 20's school was very important. Now that I am in my 30's, I am 32 to be exact, I'm starting to think about returning to school to get a graduate degree. But mostly I am focused on becoming economically self sufficient and maybe engaging in some serious romance which has been missing in my life for the past 5 years or so. I think that by the time I turn 40 I will be really focused on wanting to have a family and do that whole thing with of course career and activism still occupying a lot of thoughts.
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
17 Aug 08
yes, an education lays a wonderful foundation for life. i think the graduate degree you are planning will make you more and more secure in the market. what are you studying ? sometimes people reverse things. they get married and have children and THEN begin thinking of a career. i have attended college while i was pregnant. it must be terribly difficult to mesh college and a family. i had many friends who worked, went to school part-time, and had a family. i think they were insane the whole time. thanks for replying and the best to you !
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• United States
21 Aug 08
In my late teens, my priority was to have a family. In my 20's, I had 2 children, and they became my priority. In my 30's, my priority became to devote more time to my marriage, not just the kids. In my 40's, I was looking forward to retiring, and doing the things I enjoy. As I approach 50, I finally got the chance to retire. Now, my priority is myself, making sure I give myself the chance to succeed at something I want to do, spending time getting to know the man I love, again, and making sure I have no regrets when it is my time to go. I am sure, at some point, my priorities will change again but, I am not there yet so...I am living for this moment, this day, this week and this month, as they come.
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
13 Sep 08
yes, do it all now i am 60. the pennsylvania dutch have a saying. the 50 is the sunlight and shadow of your life. i suppose this means you are half way there. you can see both the sunlight (your younger years) and the coming shadows (the years left to come). zen. living in the moment. living in "real" time is the best.