MY SON IS 18, AND ALL GROWN UP ...:-) He was a drug dealer. O M G.

United States
August 17, 2008 7:14pm CST
When you turned 18 did you tell your parent what you did as a teenager? Or have you Ever told Them.? My son turned 18 in May, He told me all the bad stuff he done. I thought I'd die. A drug dealer. And how could I not know. In my house. We were close, we talked every day, and We didn't know a thing. It was pot. I'm glad that's all it was. Bad enough, But I did it to. He has stopped even smoking, because of his girlfriend. I would never tell my mom what I did when I was a teenager. I glad my son has that kind of trust in me. Did any of you tell your parent.? :-0
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@skaterx (530)
• Finland
18 Aug 08
I think most teens don't tell their parents things. They are kind of going through an exploration period in their life, trying to break free from their parents, trying to be independent and do things on their own. And that's why they are like that. I'm sure all teens get scared sometimes, and wonder if what they are doing is right or wrong, but most teenagers choose to talk to their friends or other teens. It's hard to talk to your parents, that's how it feels like to be a teen, unless you have a very friendly relationship with your parents. Most teens feel more like parents are mom and dad that set rules and tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but are there for you when you fail. It's a different relationship with friends, friends don't tell u what you can or cant do, they only give advice. But anyway, i think you have a very good son that he told you. It means he trusts you, and he's owning up to it, he felt wrong about it. Try not to be too shocked, it's good he is coming clean. It's just hard being a teenager sometimes, all the pressures, bad influences, our society!
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• United States
18 Aug 08
I told him whats done is done. He could tell me anything. He had a clean slate now. So he just told me everything. We really do have a trusting relationship. And loving. I'm glad I raised him like I did. Wouldn't change a thing...;-)
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@Azedbutt (23)
18 Aug 08
Well that is good he trust you and stopped before that could put him in real danger. I tell my mum whatever i do, believe it or not i don't do much evil stuff so i hardly ever have anything to hide. If there is anything i woul definatly disscuss with my mum.
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• United States
20 Aug 08
That's good that you don't do bad. Try to keep a close relation ship with your mom. I know you may not think so, But she will be the best friend you ever have if you let her. Or she should be. I try to be really cool with my kids so they will let me be there for them. Stay good and out of trouble. If you need to talk , I'll be here.......;-)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
I don't know if I can tell my mom the bad things I did, not even with my dad. I just don't feel comfortable expressing my sins to my parents.
• United States
19 Aug 08
I'm 36 now, and I never told my parent any thing. I would have told my dad. We were close, but he passed away before I got to tell him anything like that. My mom would still give me a good whipping probably. I'm not gonna find out.....;-)
@sunnflr (2767)
• United States
18 Aug 08
A little of the "bad" stuff I did has come out over the years, but since it was all with my husband it doesn't really matter. I guess it would be different if she'd found out I did stuff with another guy or something, but since we are still together anything I did was ok..lol. I'm glad your son is out of that now!
• United States
18 Aug 08
Yea, I'm glad he's out of it now to. He's turned out okay, Thank God. I know God had to be looking over him, and taking care of him. Kids are crazy, and their gonna do what they will. Just glad he made it........;-)
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@roberten (3131)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I'm still alive so, NO, they didn't ask and sure as heck didn't tell! You see, I enjoy being able to breathe! (LOL)
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Hi walk, I have not tell all my mom or dad everything in happen in my life as well as feelings..But, I have not done anything wrong or unusual..lol! Major decisions as working far, accepting new job, quitting job and all, they know about it!
• United States
20 Aug 08
I just can't believe you can't think of anything you did wrong as a teenager, come on, no one is perfect. You can think of something.......;-)
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• United States
20 Aug 08
[i]LOL! you make me think hard! hmmmmmm! ok, here am I ready! I ask my Mother extra money for allowance telling her I need it for photocopy or books and I used it to shop! It was not a big amount though but still I lie![/i]
• United States
24 Aug 08
Okay, so you lied and got extra money.! That's not exactly what I meant. But sense you already did it. What did you get. Hope you didn't waist it. Did you get something good?
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@gemini_rose (16192)
18 Aug 08
It is nice that although you did not know it at the time, he has come to you now and told you. What a bond he must feel to you and what an honor for you as a parent that he has done so. Oh my, there are so many things my parents do not know, so many things they will never know. Sometimes I wish I could tell them, but I know that they would not understand! I have four children, I try to let them know that I am approachable no matter how bad they think something is, my eldest is 16 and so far he tells me everything that goes on. Well I say everything, no doubt there are things he has not, but he tells me when he is in trouble or something is wrong so that is enough.
• United States
20 Aug 08
I agree, It is enough if he tell you when he need you. My son was always withdrawn and too himself growing up. It was so hard to get close to him. I cherish every minute with him now....;-)
@gemini_rose (16192)
20 Aug 08
My second son who is 8 is like that, it is hard work getting him to tell me anything. He is really hard work to get to open up.
@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Wow! It is a shocker to find out what kids hide from us at times. In another note your son waited till he was 18 to confess, maybe he thought you will no longer be able to punish him :) I wish you good luck.
• United States
20 Aug 08
I love him, and I'm glad he trust me enough now to confess. If you were 16 and doing that would you tell your mom.? I wouldn't. Most people don't ever. I didn't......;-)
@ShellyB (5243)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I agree :)
@3cardmonte (5098)
26 Aug 08
wow,you are lucky that your son trusted you enough to tell you that! i did so many things as a teenager that to this day i have not told my parents and i never will,some of those secrets will die with me!
• United States
29 Aug 08
Me to. I wouldn't dare tell my mom some of the things I done. She would still probably take a belt to me. I wouldn't take the chance..
• United States
19 Aug 08
NOOOOOOOO!!!!!! I want my mom to have a happy long life and that might kill her.
• United States
20 Aug 08
Thats funny. What my mom knows about my, she learned in my old love letters I left at her house... I really don't want my husband to see them......:-)
@nytrisco (567)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
You have a nice and wonderful son! telling you this is so hard for us teens (I'd done something but not this one). You have some good relationship with your son and you're so lucky!
• United States
20 Aug 08
So did you tell your mom what you did ? I am finding most people don't. I didn't. Me and my kids do get along really well.......:-)
• Philippines
18 Aug 08
In one point of my life I tried to keeping it all but when the right things came, I said it all and as usual my mom gets shocked with it. But I have proven my honesty with my mom by saying all of that and she forgave me (Though those were all petty things that I did). As a son, I'm glad that your son has that enough honesty even though those things that he said are alarming. Please do appreciate it. Though he's 18 and you may find that parenting him may be at its end, this kind of profession takes forever. You have to be a parent for them who cares and advices them for the rest of your life. That's why in my opinion it's the best profession in the world.
• United States
24 Aug 08
You are right, and an experiment that you never quit learning from. My love for my kids is never ending. And I'll always be here for them. Thanks ...........;-)
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
18 Aug 08
I have a friend, a very close one, who used to sell ganja in school and make more money than his father. I guess some of us do these things and its good when the kids own up. I never owned up to my crap. Thank God ! My parents would have freaked !
• United States
20 Aug 08
I did freak at first. Then I realized he really does trust me. That's what I want. If he ever needs me He know I'll always be here for him. He knows that, and I'm glad......;-)
• Nigeria
18 Aug 08
try and spend time with him,take him out to cool place like pack,zoo,swimming pool try and make him feel ur present,be technical in giving him advise and dont anoy him,let him know that what his doing now can harm him in the near feature if he didn't stop,i wish u luck.
• United States
20 Aug 08
He stopped doing that about 2 1/2 years ago. We hang out all the time. and we work together. It's all good now. He knew it wasn't good, that why he quit. Thanks.....;-)
@venkygec (783)
• India
18 Aug 08
Im 21... And I wouldnt be able to do what your son did... You have a very nice son... Now that he stopped doing bad things... You would be lucky....
• United States
20 Aug 08
Thanks. I think he's very nice too. And he's a good boy now. I hope he stays that way. Or I'll kill him maybe. Just kidding.....;-)
• India
18 Aug 08
Its true that teens hide all such stuff from their parents. I have passed through the same stream, even today I am not in a position to talk with my parents about all those stuff, the reason is relation, after an age the relation between parents and kids must be changed, they must behave like friends. There must be healthy relation between parents and kids from their childhood or else it then becomes very difficult to handle when kids grow up to a matured stage.
• United States
20 Aug 08
Exactly what I just commented on before I read yours. If you stay close to your mom you should be able to go to her with anything. I try to be there friend. I think I seen this a little late with my son. We're closer than ever now though. And he is okay. He would have probably done that any ways . We'll never know...;-)
18 Aug 08
I don't have anything to hide from my parents. And you are lucky that your son told you all those things. Most people would not have told.