Did my colleagues deliberately snub me due to my age?

August 18, 2008 8:17am CST
Some colleagues arranged a night out together without asking me whether I wanted to go. I only found out from another colleague that they arranged this night out secretly and therefore behind my back. Now these aforementioned colleagues are in their early to mid 20s, and I am in my 40s. Do you think they deliberatley neglected to invite me because of my age, or was it sheer thoughtlessness on theit behalf? When I confronted my 25 year old boss, also on this night out, he simply said he didn't think a 'nightclub' was my scene. I told him that I love nightclubbing now amnd again. And in any case, it would have been lovely to have an invitation to accepe or refuse. The same group of younger colleagues didn't ask another older female colleague who is in her 50s. The thing that exacerbated the issue is that it was a farewell night out to a summer residential job. I ended up spending the last night in my residential post alone watching television whilst my younger colleagues excluded me on their night out clubbing. I felt hurt. But, my parents said that I was being over sensitive about what amounted to as being thoughtless youth.
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I think it was thoughtless on the part of the other employees. They should have extended the invitation, and you be the one to accept or decline. Clubbing is Clubbing, there is no age limit. I think you should have been included. These days, age should not be an issue, when going out, I always go to places with mixed age groups, and everyone has a great time. Shame on them!!!!!
18 Aug 08
Thank you for all the replies to my 'issue' hitherto. In particular thanks to Sudalunts for your sympathy. I think my boss, young as he is should have made an all inclusive night out given that it was the end of working as a team. Though he has a level head on him, my boss needs to learn more about team building, and staff morale. I have got a mixed age group of friends, raning from 20 to 70 myself. They're always welcome to join me on an evening out anytime as a group.
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
18 Aug 08
I think they did it for your age, it's to understand the way to have fun when you're 20 is different als you're 40...and they did so becaouse they didn't wanto to be disturb..try to understand them and don't feel hurt Nun
• China
18 Aug 08
well,friend,dont be sad.i know mybe their behave make you feel hurt,but just like what your parents said,you were being over sensitive.Just waiting,maybe they forgot to invite you.You need to believe them,,,wish u good luck.