my mother has gone through so much - she is a real survivor

@vegegirl (828)
Australia
August 19, 2008 12:05am CST
It's amazing all the things my mum has done. She has had 5 children, survived cancer (a vary rare form) and now when she should be enjoying her life with our dad in retirement, he got alzheimers so she visits him once or twice a day in the hospice to feed him and spend time with him. The only exceptions when she doesn't visit dad are when she has been sick or gone to visit with my siblings when they have had their children and she often visits them to help them. Even if dad doesn't say her name anymore, she will still visit him! One time when she visited a sister who had had a baby in another town she broke her toe so had to stay away longer from dad. She came back on crutches but still dragged herself over to visit dad on most days. Are your mums like this, or do you know someone else who is?
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@nanciem (1106)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Hi Vegegirl, Your story is too close to home. My father passed away December 28th 2005. My mother went every single day just to be by his side; oh.. how my mother loved him! It's really, really hard when someone you love so dearly is ill. She sounds like a lovely person, as you do yourself for posting this. Stay strong, Hi-Five to Mum.... LOL
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@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
19 Aug 08
Thankyou Nanciem - your mum also sounds lovely - I hope life is good for you both!
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
19 Aug 08
Hi vegegirl, it is good! I hope and wish same for you! My mom (Mum) is great, I know yours is as well! Stay strong! HUGGIES
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@izathewzia (5139)
• Philippines
19 Aug 08
Same as my mom. She solely supported the four of us - her kids. From birth till we graduated in college. She is best because even how hard everything for her, she survived it.
@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
19 Aug 08
Wow izathewzia she must be so proud that you graduated in college especially as she must have worked so hard to support you all. I hope now she gets a bit of a relax and a pamper - she truly deserves it! It's amazing how many special mums there are, thankyou.
@Flouya (283)
• India
19 Aug 08
There is a chinese lyrics,"A mother of a child-like." When they are alive, we should make them. Don't be regret when everthing is gone.
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@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
19 Aug 08
Thankyou Flouya, this sounds very nice, I don't quite understand all of it, but I think I get the main idea. Does it mean to make the most of them while they are here so we don't regret it when they aren't with us anymore?
• United States
19 Aug 08
My mother has taken care of my ageing Grandfather (who passed away 2 years ago at age 89) & now her sister who is dying of cancer. I think that it is a womans gift. My Aunt is only 67 and totally polluted with cancer. Mum's have this amazing gift to take care of everyone else & keep on going. My mum is only 3 years younger than her dying sister but she does it every day...with my help most of the time. Aunt Flo only weighs 87 lbs. but it's very hard for one of us to move her unless we hurt her. Your mother is a very loving person. She is gonna see to it that you dad has everything he needs...as she is doing. God Bless Her.
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@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
19 Aug 08
Wow, your mum is an amazing carer too. It must be heartbreaking to see this happening to Aunt Flo. A couple of my uncles have also passed away from this horrible disease, so it is so sad to see this happening to so many people now. It is so good of you to help look after your Aunt as well. One problem with our family is that we live at different ends of Australia to my mum's relatives and my dad's relatives so mum had to travel to visit her uncles (and leave dad behind) and dad's family come over once a year (it is a very long and expensive flight for them) to visit him. A few of us live in the same town as mum but we work or have a family (even a young baby which mum also helped a lot with!). I hope things pick up for you and your mum and Aunt.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 08
WOW, you have amazing mom's ... God must be love her ^_^ You supposed to be proud of her, but it's so sad to hear your mom got a broken toe, is it cure yet now? Your Mom's love to your father and son, much bigger than the pain she suffer
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@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
19 Aug 08
Thankyou for your concern. It seems like mum's toe is now cured as that was a few years ago, the last time she broke it - but she didn't really go to the doctor enough (as I think a lot of mothers don't look after themselves as much as everyone else!) I am very proud of my mum, she also volunteers at the hospice occasionally to wheel all the patients into the church service and does some other things there.