What you might not know about me is that Im adopted--

First thing to say is best of luck in your search, because only someone in your position can really know how it feels to be uncertain about the people who gave you your start in life. My late wife and her sister were both adopted from different families, and they were complete opposites regarding their attitude to the birth parents. Her sister wanted to know all about them, and did her research, while my wife did not want to know. Irony of the situation? she was the one who ended up working for Social Services, specialising in placing children in foster homes! On the broader canvas, I am sure you have already realised that there are psychological considerations in your quest for knowledge. You have to be strong enough to cope with whatever you might find, because in most cases there were genuine conditions of hardships of varying kinds, to push people to the situation where they gave up their child for adoption. Most times, the parents thought they were doing the best thing for the child, and in some situations that decision was made for them, whether by Welfare officers or Court action. Some people resolve the possible shock of unwanted revelations by taking all the positives from the life they have had with their adoptive family. At the end of the day, you are who you are, and I am sure that that is how you are seen by your friends and acquantances. You are daughter to your foster parents, and they will have tried their very best to make a loving, caring environment for you. Have you told your kid(s) that they are their grandparents or did you tell them that one day they will meet their real grandparents? Time moves on, and while you will always get the feeling that you would like to know about the past, the present and future will gradually become the greater priorities. God bless and best of luck.

Hi, I can feel your pain and feel so sorry for you. There are so many adopted children out there that would like to know just a little something about their birth parents but aren't allowed to do so. Likewise, there are so many birth parents that would like to know what happened and how their children are. It just isn't right! My husband is adopted, born in 1968, but he is different. He says he is not interested in knowing who his birth parents are. He says his true parents are the people who adopted him. I agree but I would still think he would like to know who his birth parents were and if they are still alive. His sister is adopted too. (not the same birth parents) She has found her birth mother and thinks it's great. To each his own, I guess. [i]Happy MyLotting, Char[/i]

hi, be ready mentally before you deal with authorities, my authority here can afflict you as long as they like by sending you go for this and go for that , and they hardly do anything they within their duty.