how do I get thru this?
August 19, 2008 11:46am CST
I need some advice! There is so much crap going on right now, and I seriously don't know how to handle it. It started with moving from the suburbs to the city. It was a pretty big change for my little family, but I love it. It is just so darn convienant to everything. (And I don't have to worry getting stuck behind horse and buggies or tractors on the road when I'm running late to work! lol) Just when we were really getting adjusted to our change in evnironment, the sh*! hit the fan. Keep in mind, all of this happend with a month!!!! I recieved a phone call from my mother when I got home from work, and I knew immediately that something was wrong. She said my Nana (mom's mom) was in the hospital. Long story short, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. The chemo and radiation are making her really weak and after about a week of starting the chemo, she fell at her house ( in which she lives alone) and broke her shoulder! The very same day that I found out her doctor said she was going to have to have surgery on her shoulder and they didn't know if she was going to make it or not, my husband got a call from his step mom saying his sister is in the hospital - she lost complete feeling from the waist down and completely collapsed. (She is only 19 years old). Then only 2 days later, we find out my husbands dad is in the hospital and is going to have surgery on his thyroids the same day my Nana was hving surgery on her shoulder, and he my not make it thru the surgery as well because of his pre-op health!! The day before my Nana's surgery and my father-in-laws surgery, my husbands ex wife calls and says, oh yeah, by the way, our daughter is having surgery tomorrow and is having her tonsils and adenoids taken out as well as tubes put in her ears!!!!! EEEEEEEKKKKKKKK!!!!!!!!! HOW MUCH MORE CAN WE TAKE?!?!?!?!? But oh no, it doesn't end there...remember me telling you that we just moved to the city? well, when we were home for about 15 minutes from hospital hopping, I had just put our 2 and 3 year olds to bed...and there was a drive by shooting at our apartment complex!!! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT??!? Needless to say, we moved completely out of that part of town. But with all of this happening, I just don't know how mych more I can take!!! Then, last night, my best friend in the entire world, came over to my house and said her husband's mom jsut had a stroke. I jokingly told her that I was looking for a padded cell to commit myself to for a couple of days and she was free to join me! Sometimes, I wonder how in the world I am going to handle everything that is going on. I just don't know how much more I can take. I'm trying to be strong for my kids, but I seriously think I'm going to have a breakdown if one more thing happens!! What would you do in my situation? How can I keep myself from having a complete meltdown? Have any of you been in a situation where you just think you can't go on anymore?
• United States
19 Aug 08
Bless your heart. You have a lot on your plate right now. For me, the only thing that gets me through the tough times is my faith and belief in God. I know that He will take the bad and make something good come from it. When I lost my brother earlier this year - and my brother had been homeless on and off for 20 years - I learned what an awesome man, employee, friend he had been to so many through the years...even when he was homeless. It helped me to know that. I don't have any magical ideas about what you can do to cope with life hands you. But do remember that your online community is here to listen.
• United States
19 Aug 08
That was very sweet! Thank you for that! I do have strong faith in God and that is seriously the only thing keeping me from entering a great depression right now. It's just so hard to not ask why this is happening for me. I know that everything happens for a reason, and I know that He will only give me as much as I can handle. I just keep thinking, when is it going to end......? thanks again!!!