how can a mother be so irresponsible with her actions!

Well, I agree that parents must be the best role model to their children in the world. Kids respect a lot to their parents who have the right actions and words to teach them. The best way of teaching kids is by modeling. Kids remember it best when they see and hear it from the parents.

That just another example of "children learn what they live (or in this case hear)". People should be careful what vocabulary they use around kids and what topics they discuss around them, least they want to have "potty mouth" children or have their bedroom secrets discussed in the library or some such place. I would have a talk with your sister, if I were you.

Hi lips, There are really people who don't care about that and this is sad...SInce the kid will grow up believing it is okay to utter such word! In this case, the one you need to talk with and correct is the mother not the kid! She has to be careful of what she is uttering since she is the role model in the family!

When you sprinkle cuss words liberally in your conversation, you have to realize that your children will pick that up. They copy everything parents and other adults say and do...even if we don't realize it. (Spend some time as a preschool teacher or elementary school teacher and you'll find that out.) To me, the use of cuss words is lazy. There are gazillions of other words that would be better used...and would better explain one's emotions or position on a topic than cursing. I think that teaching a child that this is the way to communicate is wrong, wrong, wrong.

yes i do agree with u that childrens pickup very easily n faster as even i m having a small son of 2yrs old n he tries to speak what we speak at home, also he tries to do the things what we do , so i m a bit scared wheni come to kitchen even he watches me n try to do the way i cook , so sometimes i m scared about it so that he doesnt hurt himself any time. this is the reason i will never leave him alone anywhere. its very important that the people residing in the house should be well mannered if not also atleast try to pretend front of childrens so that they should not learn the bad habbits watching their elders . its very important to create a clean n hygenic environment for childrens so that they dont go on wrong path.

I'll be honest, I don't censor myself around my own kids - not much. I do have a potty mouth. However, we are very careful about telling the kids that those kind of words are "grown-up words" and that children are not allowed to say them. So far that's done well. I'm a bit liberal, though, admittedly - I think words are just words. Society is what makes the taboo. When someone says shoot, we all know they mean sh*t, but it's more acceptable - I find that a bit a stupid. However, I do know that my kids need to play by society's rules to a point, so we don't allow them to use those words - your sister either should have been more careful with her language, or more clear about its appropriate use - a three year old should certainly not be going around using the F word!

A lot of people swear these days, I know I do, I have children and although I do try to watch my mouth a lot of the time I say it without realising it. But where I grew up swearing was a part of the language, and even today when I am talking to certain people they will swear with every other word so it is not surprising that kids pick it up. It is only when I hear other people and children say it that I realise how awful it sounds and it is this that made me start to watch my mouth. I still swear but not as much and not when the kids are around, they have picked up the odd word but they do not go around saying it, but at three they will use it at every opportunity.

Do the grandparents have custody of her.. Is she living with the grandparents.. If not, then she should be.. The mother should not use this type of language in front of her child, children pick up on everything very easily and this may not be the only bad habit that she picks up on while being around her mother.. I believe someone might need to have a talk with her mother and let her know how quickly the child is picking up on the language that she uses in front of her and maybe she will tone it down.. Good luck..

That is indeed very irresponsible for the mother to have done. We all should always be careful about what we say and do in front of children. they are like sponges that absorb everything they see and hear. You know what they say about pitchers with big ears. And since the one who is saying and doing something is an adult who to a child knows what is the proper thing to do or say, then the child will subconsciously accept that what she/he is hearing or seeing is proper and can be imitated. Much more so if the one doing it is a parent. And considering how impressionable kids are, much much harm can be done through a careless word or action in front of a child. I am just wondering though if the grandparents called the attention of the mother to the effects of her irresponsible actions?

some folks have no sense & should never be mothers.

hahaha. disciplining our kids is really a hard work. like what you said, we really have to be more careful with our words. but of course we can still explain to the kids that whatever they heard must not be copied by them. thats why we really have to be more extra careful.

Hi lipstick. Your brother needs to have a very emphatic talk to his ex-wife. He should make it perfectly clear to her that the next time his little girl comes home from her house spouting her filth, or doing anything else that is so negative, he will take action to end any visitation rights that she has. I'm not saying he should threaten her with every little thing, but something so serious can not, and will not be tolerated. Just tell him to emphasize that he won't have his daughter growing up to be the scumbag that she so obviously is.

that mother is really so irresponsible, she should not saying those words in front of her 3 year old kid. as far as i know, what an older people say or do, it becomes right in the eyes of a child no matter what. it's too bad, you should talk to her mother and must explain to her that it has a bad effect on her child.

Very smart gal and senseless mom. Hehe.