who do you choose to be with?
August 20, 2008 2:36am CST
the situation goes like this (i was actually watching a reality show and this was the scenario) your gf/bf went abroad for work and in the first 3 months you have constant communications (whatever way it is) and then the succeesing months goes empty that s/he don't communicate with you anymore. you so move on and have a new gf/bf then one day your gf/bf came and told you what happen in those days/months that you don't have any communications. the reason is because s/he was hospitalized, was in ICU coz of car accident. so the dilemma is this, s/he wants you back in her/his life and you still love him/her despite what happened but you are already attached with somebody else. so, which of them you choose to be with?
21 Aug 08
That is quite hard to answer my friend. But there is one thing that I am interested to know. You have mentioned that there was 3 months communication prior to the loss of communication, and suddenly the person you love came back and explained that she was hospitalized. You have not mentioned how long was the absence of communication. Well, I think the answer would be is dependent on time and your feeling. With the passage of time, love could probably fade, even when you said that she came back and you still love here, that fact that you have found someone else as a replacement could mean that your love was not strong enough. Most likely you have found some other love. What I'm trying to explain is another stronger love could evolve. But then the answer would be all up to your feelings. If you still a stronger love to the one who suddenly came back, then why not. I hope I am making sense. Best to you and let us pray that such imagination of yours will not happen, otherwise it will put us in the same situation right now... confused and wondering what its gonna be.
21 Aug 08
first, i am not confused and i am well stable with my belief and thoughts.. hahahaha lol i just heard the story from one of the reality show and i have nothing to do so it pops up to me to post it here and let's see who wants to take a chance of answering it. there was no mention of how long the absence of communication last, but taking into consideration the time someone spent in ICU, so i should say that it is more than just 3 to 6 months in hospitalization. so with longer time gap without hearing anything from the person should probably change the feelings or let's say lessen along the course of emptiness. and so perhaps you move on to look for someone while you are still healing from that unfortunate event in your life, and there are so many things would happen if that's the case may be. so you had this situation, huh? lol
21 Aug 08
both of them are true and love you so much. the only problem here is that, the first one got an accident and was in ICU with no means of communication (meaning he was unconscious for that long) and when that person came back to tell you what happened, you are with somebody already.