Does your family have meals together - on one table?

@rajeshfgh (1629)
India
August 20, 2008 2:18pm CST
It's a very nice scene to see an entire family sitting together around lunch or dinner and having a healthy conversation going on. We all make it a point to have dinner together as far as possible. I think it's a very good way to remain united and feel a part of the family. Family togetherness during lunch, though, may not be possible for many working people like in my case. But one should eat together, what are your thought on this one?
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• United States
20 Aug 08
ive had many familys between my acutally family . and foster familys but only one ate aroudn the table and that was a foster family and ithink it was becuz the couple was a older one and they were old fashioned. but none of my othe familys have. i lived with my step brother his wife there four kids and my lil brother and we never ate together i think it was bcuz the table we had wasnt big enuff. or sumone was at work. there was many diffrent things.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
I agree that in today's fast-paced life it is very difficult to suit each other's timings and have food together, but I think one must have such a get-together at least at one meal or say atleast once a week. It shows a sense of responsibility towards your family and also bring about unity. We do devote our time daily to friends and colleagues, then why leave behind our own family members? Eating together is fun, believe me
@petiksmode (2983)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
we dont for 2 main reasons 1. me nad my younger bro dont live with them,,we only get to be with them on weekends. 2. we have a big family with small dining table hehehe...we eat together but we scatter lols
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Hi petiksmode, so it's a weekend union for you with your family. So, you'll have loads of stuff to speak over at the dinner table, your activities for the entire week. There's no problem with the dining table being small. I remember in my house when many members were there dinner was so chaotic that one couldn't understand who is speaking to whom. Family members were scattered all around the room and a set of people busy with their own conversations. But, it was real fun being with so many family members and eating together.
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
yeah you are absolutely correct...i spend hours in telling them how my week was and what is new to me etc... yeah it chaotic yet really fun!! thnks
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@nokia6233 (937)
• India
21 Aug 08
yes i definitely agree with you on this part.... i think the japanese used to do this every day to make bonding between faimilies closer... but in our family we used to eat together only rarely....everyone eats at different times and so it is not that easy..
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hi nokia, the cultures always have some hidden agendas in them which are always almost right. Yes, in today's fast paced life it sometimes becomes very difficult to eat together due to commitments but hope that you will be able to make it possible atleast as frequently as possible.
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 08
I think it's always a good idea to have dinner together on one table especially for one family. This is the only chance when all the members in the family can get along and chat together know well about each other. Through this time,the relationship among the members of one family will become closer and better. My family always have meals together whenever everyone is available at home. I really appreciate this chance every time.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Yeah, whenever there's a chance of eating together one must grasp it and make sure you have a healthy conversation going. It surely binds people together and bring about a sense of happiness all around.
@nasohail3 (355)
• India
20 Aug 08
yaa its really good idea to have a dinner with you family together but unfurtunately those people are working they difficult to have dinner with thier family but its nice to have dinner with your family together
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Surely, it shows your sense of responsibility towards the family. It's like you have time for your friends and colleagues but not for your family. One should follow this practice as frequently as possible.
@lira23 (208)
• United States
20 Aug 08
we don't sit at the table, we usually sit in front of the TV,or by our computers we've got four computers in the house, two eat in their room and another family member eats in hers, myself male relative and female relative all eat in the living room/kitchen area.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Nice to know that, lira. But, I must say there's a different sense of enjoyment in eating sitting together as in a family get together.
@sylvia13 (1850)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
21 Aug 08
We are lucky that my husband can walk home from work everyday and we can all sit to have our meals together on one table. I consider it to be a treasured moment, as we can all share our experiences together! If somebody was to hear us they would think we are crazy, as we speak German, English and bits of Spanish too!
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hi sylvia, that great! Your hubby's lucky to have his place of work close to your house. Yeah, it surely makes the relationship stronger as you can discuss your experiences very freely over meals. Hey, that's quite a unique mixture of languages. Crazy..on the contrary I would say it would sound more interesting and kinda encrypted to a spy.
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
21 Aug 08
During the week we all sit at the table and eat dinner together, with no interruptions. NO tv, phone or computer. Just the family sitting together eatting and talking about the days events. On the weekends we also do dinner together but on Sundays we have a huge Sunday breakfast as well. We do a big breakfast because of a tradition I was use to growing up and that was having all the family over for Sunday dinner. Well Sunday nights around here are crazy so it's easier to do a big breakfast instead of a big dinner. We have a lot of family traditions we keep. With tv's, computers, video games, cell phones and what have you it seems like people are becoming so detached from others. So in order to prevent that my husband and I make sure we have real family time without all the outside destrations.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hey, that's very good traditions which you follow to help make people close to each other. I agree modern appliances have intruded into our lives and made people alien to each other. So, meals are the perfect time when you can eat as well as pour your hearts out to your family.
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
21 Aug 08
Hello,Rajesh!In my family we sit together to eat our dinner and have discussions on various topics including day to day problems and find out solutions.Since lunch is not always possible to have together we preferred to dine together.this is the best medium to unite the family and strengthening relationship.thanx.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hi! It's very nice to hear that you'll eat together at night. Even in my case, lunch is not possible due to work or other activities but make it a point to have dinner together almost everyday. A very good way to strengthening relations and make your family know that you care for them.
@nabiha (50)
• China
21 Aug 08
all my family menber eat together.I think this is the signe of "family",really enjoy on it. but nowadays,for job,many people no have time go home and eat together,just fastfood finish the lunch alone.I really don't like.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hey nabiha, that's very nice to hear. It is a very good practice and would help keep your family happy. Yes, I agree, people have got so used to the fast-paced life that they prefer fast-food and outside food rather than meals cooked at home and had together.
@relundad (2310)
• United States
21 Aug 08
There are only 2 members of my household, but we try really hard to eat at the dinner table together as if not other than the ride to and from school, my son and I would be like 2 ships passing in the night. I use this time to talk about his day and activities, what's going on in school, etc. We dont share breakfast or lunch together so this time with him everyday is very important to me.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Yeah it surely is. In the fast-paced life now-a-days we tend to meet up with our friends and acquaintances regualarly but in that rat-race we often tend to alienate ourselves from our own family members who care so much for us. I guess, sitting together during meals gives us the correct opportunity to discuss things and show our family that we care for them too.
@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
I think it is necessary to form stronger family ties. I think that eating together brings people closer together. Also spending time with your family to check on with each other is not a bad idea. I hope all families could go eat together so that more people would be happier.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Yes, I too hope the same so that there's happiness and unity among families around the world.
@joyadalia (1408)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
On Sundays we do that but on any other day we are too busy to have time to sit on the table to have meals together
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
I agree, in today's fast paced life you can't always catch up. But, something is better than nothing. Sundays with your family is also a very good idea. Keep up the practice and build your family bonding more stronger.
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Indeed its one of the best things that you can experience. When ever my dad is off the ship, the entire family does its best to have dinner together at home. And once a year we do our best to have a family reunion wherein almost all the members of our clan gets together. Its sad that most people can't have time for a family dinner or get together nowadays because they have to work. I guess that is why our world is in such a mess right now. I wish things could change for the better soon.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Yes, it is very important to have meals together as it helps in understanding each other and letting the others know that you're always there for them. Yes, people must try and sit together atleast once a week if not daily.
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Aug 08
ohhh its a nice idea but its not the case with me .... It all depends upons time .....if I get the time to have my dinner at home ....I take it with my computer rather .....and outside I take it with friends or alone even..... Its life ......we want lot but all never happens .... But when I was young it was same then all we had meals together ....I still miss those day s... Thanku Ganesh
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Yeah, sometimes we cannot help it and we feel sorry for the same. But whenever possible family eating together is a very good practise. I hope you have many dinners with your family in times to come.
@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
21 Aug 08
We are all busy so I don't stress eating together much. Especially since I have a big family (six kids). When I cook a really popular dish, it just kind of happens that we eat all together and commune like that. Otherwise, we spend family togetherness time watching TV, discussing current events or something that is going on in one of our lives. Sharing a meal is just one way of family togetherness.
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@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I guess when we take meals together, we are nourishing the body, soul and family by doing this act as a group.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
24 Aug 08
Yes, sharing meals brings the family together. You must be a very good cook to draw so many people to the dining table . Mainly it is the sharing of experiences over meals which is important.
@Anne18 (11029)
20 Aug 08
Yes we do still sit around the table for meals. I agree it is a good time to talk and catch up with everyones news etc. when the children were younger and all wanted to talk at the same time we used to use a picture and the person who had the picture by there plate was the only one allowed to talk apart from an adult so we could hear everyones news. when the child had finished talking then the other children could then ask questions, when all questions answered then the picture moved to another child. a different child would start with the picture the next meal.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Hi anne, that's a very novel idea to have everyone's say at the meal table. I guess, it's this fun that people are missing now-a-days by eating with the the TV in front of them or at the computer desk. You get to discuss news and other local affair or more about your problems concerns, etc on the dinner table with your parents, brothers, sisters. It brings about a union within the family and makes you feel real good at home.
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
YES my family are always together in every meal especially during sundays we always have get togethers in my grandma's house and during christmas we have a family reunion.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Hey jaghead, that's really great . You've kept the tradition running. I think there are very few people like you now-a-days who follow this. A family reunion is the most enjoyable occasion for me, it's joy and smiling faces all around, kinda makes the atmosphere very gay and I find a sense of belonging then.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Yeah, i really missed those times when our family is still intact. We enjoy having our breakfast, lunch and dinner together. Those are one of the most memorable times of my family together. But my bro and sis already married and live in other place. Now only the memories left.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
21 Aug 08
Yeah, even I am in a similar situation as my sister has got married off and I don't get her company anymore. Anyway, I make it a point to have my dinner with my parents and it gives me great satisfaction. My parents even feel very good if I'm there for dinner.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
21 Aug 08
yes u r right having ur meals together is one form of unitedness in family. my father always use to tell us to have together as it reflects the love among all n we everytime use to have together atleast our dinner as we use to go to our schooling in the morning n afternoon n hence we never find a chance to sit together n have . so atleast for dinner we all were together everyday. it so happens in my husbands family too. in the day some have to do their jods n might be missing in the first two meals of the day but on dinner we were everytime together n even i feel good everyone gathering at one place n have n share our experience of whole day n rest of the things whichever we want to speak. its a different feeling to have together.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hi icegermany, it surely bring a feeling of unity and togetherness and makes our ties stronger. Yes, eating and sharing experiences together is real fun and kinda builds relationships stronger. I agree, its a very different feeling which is very hard to describe in words.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hi avikkumar, I hope that you finish your B.E. with flying colours and as soon as possible and then have meals with your family daily. Wishing you all the best.
• India
22 Aug 08
I am currently doing engineering from aurangabad. My home palce is nanded. Whenever i go to my home i used to take meal with my parents,brothers or with my friends.