They didn't let him eat!!!

I can see where you would be concerned that your son didn't eat. Everybody should have the opportunity to eat lunch. I just wonder if they warned him that if he didn't behave that he would be sent away and not get to eat his lunch at all. If they warned him and he still chose to misbehave, it is his own fault and choice that he didn't eat today. Missing one meal won't hurt him. Also, maybe he will learn that he needs to behave during lunch if he wants to be able to eat it. I am sure that they tried to get him to settle enough to eat. You should reinforce in the morning that he needs to listen to the teachers and behave so he can have fun at school and eat his lunch with the other kids.

I don't think you are overacting at all. Most states have codes that daycares have to follow and feeding the child (whether they bring their own food or its provided for them) is usually one of the statues they have to follow. You are not allowed to withhold food as a form of punishment I would speak to the director the next time you take your son to daycare.

You are not over reacting, rather I wish my mom had acted with such concern. One of my most bitter memories of childhood is about a day in std I. I was 6yrs then and new to proper school and its rules (before std I, I was in pre-school)…I did not even recognize the principal for who she was when she came visiting our class that day and merrily I opened my lunch-box and popped something in though it was not lunch time. As punishment, I was told to stand outside the class and detained after school and my mom called to take me and listen to what an undisciplined, unruly child I was. I understood my mom’s confusion in not defending her child in front of the principal, but back home the least she could have done to assuage my hurt self was to help me overcome this trauma by being nice and not spanking me black and blue for embarrassing her. Schools often have this twisted way of disciplining a child and even if you cant always take it up with the teacher, tell your child at home that you are always with him/her. Forcing a child to skip lunch as a punishment is a very perverted and twisted way of forcing a child to fall in line…sooner or later that child will no longer love to go back to the teachers.

There are betteer ways to punish misbehavior than by taking away lunch time! He should have been sent to the counselor's office with lunch box in hand. I think you should contact the head of the school and find out what the policy is and then you'll be better able to decide what to do from there.

Um no, I don't think you're being overreactive. You should definitely march back down there and demand a better explanation than "I'm not sure if he ate". It's their responsibility to make sure our children are taken care of in our absence, and that includes them eating lunch! Perhaps all he wanted was the pudding though, so it may be best to ask your son's side of the story too.