Tricked in to having baby

I would never "trick" anyone into having a baby. I was very upfront with my kids father when I wanted to have a baby and he did not. He told me he didn't because I already had 3. I told him I did and that if he didn't, it would be up to him to use a contraceptive AKA rubber. He never did. I reminded him everytime we made love that was trying to get pregnant. When I finally did, he was not mad. Not every one would agree with my method, but at least I was honest with him. Regarding your friend, even though she is wrong, I don't think you should get involved. I don't think you should tell her boyfriend the truth as it may hurt the child most. You reap what you sow and your friend will suffer the consequences of her actions in some manner without assistance from you.

im a girl and no i would never ever do this to anyone. and if he did find out i bet he would be extremely mad. as would I if it was me. when your with someone its all about trust and the trust there has just blown away.people who do that make me sick.

I wouldn't trick my husband to get pregnant. It took me quite a few years to convince him that we needed to have another child. I'd argue about it but never trick him into having a baby. I had a neighbour once who did the same thing. Like your friend's boyfriend, her husband too thought that the pill didn't work...but she told him the truth after the baby was born. I'm not sure what happened after that...and if the husband could trust her about anything after that...and I was taken aback when she told me about it. I didn't think anyone could do such a thing (how naive!)...without discussing it with their partner. If I did something like this, my husband would be VERY angry with me and I can imagine the fight we would have had!

Tricking is an easier way to say lying. I don't condone lying. I wouldn't want to enter into a relationship that was created on a lie. But that said, no matter the cause, if I were the man, I'd still respect my responsibilities and take care of the child. This is never a good way to start a family. I think it is so important to commit to each other first and get married. I have had friends that thought I was crazy to suggest this and they thought marriage was only a piece of paper but after they got married they saw my point and said I was right. So I'd have to say, get married first, be committed to each other as a team and then build a family from there.

I personally would never do this. But I know my daughter in law did this to my son. She told me so one night after a fight they had. I was shocked. And now that they are getting a divorce years later and son is now a single parent of two children I'm angry that she made this decision that changed the course of his life. See, they weren't married when she did this. But when he found out she was pregnant all of his plans for school were out and he was then married and a father. Now at the age of 27 he is struggling to support and care for his two girls. He has custody, but since he didn't get a college education his job doesn't pay alot. Its a shame when people do this in a relationship, and its not fair.

I could never trick a guy like that, my ex boyfriend, didn't want a child, i had talked to him about it, but he just didn't want any, so we didn't even though at the time i felt a little disappointed.. You both have to want and agree to it.. My ex had no patience for a baby/toddler.. Basically if could have skipped the first 10 years of child life he would have been bit more interested in one What she is doing is really bad and wrong.. If he feels not ready for one and now being forced, it could have an effect on their relationship after he/she is born. Financial difficulties could really put a strain on their relationship. Anyway i think she has played a dirty trick on him.. he say no, but she goes ahead and do it anyway.. you don't play with life's.

I couldn't really judge the girl for wanting the baby so much. It may be because she just wants a baby and doesn't really worry about losing the boyfriend on the long term. There are women who really feel the huge urge of having a baby due to reasons like they're afraid they would be too old if they wait any longer, or they're afraid to be too old and not enjoy motherhood. But, I for one am not agreeable to the treachery she had committed. My stand on the thought of tricking someone into having a baby is that it's wrong. If the partner feels that he is not ready emotionally and financially, then she should have respected that. It's very difficult to keep a relationship strong by forcing someone of a responsibility they know they can't handle still. So, if it was me, I don't think I'd ever do that. I actually have been talking to my boyfriend about babies and have openly expressed my desire for having one, but I do respect and know for a fact that we are not yet ready for it, so my hopes are now more attuned into building a solid foundation of our relationship and our future together rather than moping about it. If my boyfriend tricked me into having his baby, I know I would be hurt since I already stated that I'm not emotionally and financially ready. But I think instead of fighting about it, I'd look at things positively and more ahead and work for my baby's future. It's good that you wouldn't want to be involved in the mess. There's nothing more painful in a relationship than having to find out from another something that should be kept within the relationship. Let them deal with it, and as a friend, support them in any way possible for the success of their family.

I have a friend who was in the same situation. My male friend have a girlfriend and while in the act the girl told him that she was safe. Soon, she was pregnant and eventually the girl ended up delivering the baby. As of now, they are separated since they were never in a serious relationship. My male friend was always pressured by the girl but of course he can never be force to marry or love the girl since what they had was not a serious relationship. My male friend of course was angry at the girl but he is supporting the baby.

[i][b]I already have 3 kids and I am annulled to my kids father and I am fortunate that my kids father is earning REALLY GOOD and he can actually give them a beautiful life and goes to an exclusive school for boys and girls. I have a boyfriend and I remembered telling my boyfriend/live-in partner that if I am going to have a baby I will not tell him and now we've realized that having another kid for me/us would just add up to our budget and we are in a tight budget and the baby will suffer as well. OMG it's not wise and practical to get pregnant just imagine the money you are going to spend for check-up until the gets out of the tummy I know you get what I mean.If your friend is well off then go ahead get pregnant.But I think birth control is necessary nowadays for couples.[/b][/i]

This is just wrong. Her bf obviously has his head on straight when he says to wait so that they are financially ready. It takes a lot of money to raise a child and if they don't have the money to do it, it will just lead to a disaster. I also hate those people who purposely get pregnant because they think that will keep their bf around and they won't loose them. A child shouldn't be put into a situation like that and I think that's just being selfish, people who do that should have their child taken away from them. Your friend needs a reality check and that will probably come once the baby is born. That's when the bf can turn around and say, I told you so, that's why I wanted to wait!

this is creepy man!!! hw can u do this to the one u love ah well, m pretty sure my gf wont ever do such a thing but, yeah this incident does scare me

I'm a girl and NO i could never do this to someone because as you said if you're not ready emotionally an financially you'll put a big strain on another beings life and in the end the baby will suffer the most as she has tricked the man into getting with her. I mean if he didn't actually loved you and you planned this so he stayed with you, you'd end up in a loveless marriage a screwed up life and a poor child who probably wont get the attention love or respect it should be given and deserved. I pity the man that he got in to this situation but you should stay out of it, if i was tricked I'd hate the person who told me that i was tricked even more then the person who tricked me because you knew and waited all this while before telling me and if you really enjoy your friend since you tell that man he might still wanna be part of with the child but your friend would be heart0broken and probably never speak to you again. but you've got a choice do you want a friend who would trick someone like so? this is a life changing trick and could you imagine if she did the same to you or maybe has but you just don't realize.

i'm a girl and i would never do this. it's downright shameful and the girl should never have done it. what if the guy wouldn't be able to accept it?? what would happen to her? common sense.

i think u must married with him first.Ready or not will become after u have a cute baby

If she were my wife I would not be very happy about it as having children can and will change everything. Not only your relationship changes but it is an extra financial responsibility you need to be ready for. If it were a girl friend I would find it totally inexcusable. Having a child, married or not, is a big responsibility that both partners should be okay with. For her to trick him just because she wanted this baby is deception in the worst way. There is no excuse for it. If I were him and found this out I would never ever be able to trust her again.

I don't think that's right that she did that and I would never do that myself. I hope for her sake and especially the child's sake that he never finds out. That is so dishonest. Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!

we'll on this kind of situation she should think first, tricking your bf is not right...based on my experience i accidentally get pregnant at the age of 19 and its not easy to build a family at that age and I'm also afraid/scared that time ...as of now,even your at the right age of having a baby we should think first if you're ready and you know that both of you are in stable life i mean with work and you think that you can be a good mother or father to your child....first you should get married, financially stable, with earn for education, happy family life.....

No. I will not have a baby against my partners wishes. But on the other hand I feel a man has an obligation to use protection as much as a woman has the responsibility to have birth control. Since I am a woman I do not know how will I feel if wife/gf did that to me.lol. What I know is that birth control for men is cheap and does not require a drs visit.

I put myself in the place of the boyfriend and one day he will find out the truth somehow and tha will lead to separation as I saw in many cases, this is cheating to me!