not enought time!

United States
August 21, 2008 11:15pm CST
Hello I am conflicted on what I need to do and I would like some help. I am 20 years old I work a part time job (5-10pm) like 4-5 days a week, I go to college full time and I am married, a long with two BEAUTIFUL littl girls. Now my 3 year old started preschool today and I feel like with everything going on I am missing out on a lot at home. I am missing my babies grow up! I dont want to be a waitress all my life and I dont want to have to live paycheck to paycheck. I want to be able to give my girls everything they deserve....but I feel like I don't get to see them as much as I should. It bothers me that they are both "daddys" girls but he is the main person they see all the time. I want to be able to spend more time with them but I also want to better myself and be proud of myself for being able to take care of my kids without any question you know? I have been going to college well this is my 2nd year and it looks like I will have another 3 years left...I wish I had more time I could spend with them..what should I do?
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• Philippines
22 Aug 08
Just wondering what does your husband do as you have said that he sees your kids at all times. Well, we really need to sacrifice or sometimes give up of something to achieve our goals in life. Just put in your mind that what you do is not for your benefit alone but it is for the future of your family as a whole. Don't get into your emotions. You just need to explain to your kids what you are doing are for them and soon you will be with them in about 3 more years to wait. Not too long to wait my friend. Give your best and soon you will reap all the fruits of what you have planted. Smile and always be happy! Go for the goal! Keep it up!
• United States
22 Aug 08
Thank you...My husband was working in construction and he was injured so now he is on leave and he gets to be home. He is well enought to play with the kids and take care of them while I am working but the doctors wont release him to be able to work...so I am making do.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Maybe you can put your college on hold. If you can stay home for the next two years, you won't be missing out on your little ones growing up. Then once they start school, why don't you then go back and get your degree. You can take classes when they are in school. It will then be the same as it is now, but at least you will be gone for part of the time when they are gone. Also, what does your husband do? Does he work days?
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
Hi there... I know how you feel. Its really disturbing that you know that you want to be a part of your daughters life as they grow, but situations hold you back from doing it. You are right, our children will not be young for the rest of their lives... Once they are through with it, its done. we can't make any rewinds for that. But in your case, you have to work for their future. And the fact that you are thinking about the situation now, makes me see that you are guilty for not being there and that you love them so much. How long will your husband can't work. If 2-3 months then you could wait until he is ok... and take time with your kids. They wont grow that much in 6 months. I think you have a valid reason for that. Me too, i want to be a part of my kids life every now and then, so i decided to work at home. I don't know if it is for you, but you can try. Though I think it will take a month or two just before you can earn. You can talk to your husband and ask him to help you. There are lots of good online job which can help you survive. At least you know you will be just missing 2-3 months and if you can find a good source of income, then you could work at home with your kids. i am telling you this, because I am into it. for me, its working out fine. I have time for my kids and earning at the same time. One more thing, you should finish your study, for you and your family. Just manage your time, and find a good source of income where you can stay at home. For the mean time, you can spend quality time with them during Sunday or your day-off... and don't forget to explain to them the reason why they dont see you that much. Let them feel you're still there.