What do you do if your spouse and your taste is different for the music?

@youless (100243)
Guangzhou, China
August 22, 2008 1:24am CST
Will you try to affect him/her to listen to your favorite songs? Or will you compromise to it? I will try to listen to my husband's favorite songs to see whether I like them. If not, then I listen to mine and he listens to his. That's OK.
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@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
My husband loves music and can play a lot of musical instruments... but we like the same type of music... which is the classics... so we do not have a problem on what should be playing in the house... when he is home from abroad... and i think my daughter is also developing that taste for music...
@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Aug 08
That's great. I can play only one simple song by flute.
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
22 Aug 08
I am sure when it comes to listening to music, the both of you must have some common ground at some point. If not how to go on dates? How to dance together? But I am also sure that the music taste of each individual may extend beyond that common interest. Whether you want to accept those other genres of music, is strictly up to the individual. But do try and listen to some with an open mind. You never know, you may like some of the musics that your spouse like. And he likewise. It is never too late to try out new genres of music. If you don't like it, there is no reason to stop your partner from enjoying it. Right?
@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Aug 08
Dance? We have never danced before I don't know how to dance
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
22 Aug 08
Ah... then it is high time you learn. It is lots of fun! And something the both of you can do together. Think of it as bonding sessions! Relight that spark of love in your life! Relive that youth you had when you were going out together before settling down together.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
Thanks for the best response my friend! Appreciate it a lot! So, how, have you decided? Taking up dancing anytime soon?
• United States
27 Aug 08
Music is a very personal thing. It is a joy when you hear your favorite music and it can be torture to listen to music you hate. So if your love hates the music you like and you hate his favorite music the best thing to do is to agree to disagree and get his and hers IPods with the headphones.Just come together when you are finished.Or try to see if there is a genre of music that you both could like. If you like country and he likes rock, then try rhythm and blues. Or maybe pop. There are so many genres out there to try.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
27 Aug 08
Thanks for your good idea
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• United States
30 Aug 08
You are welcome. I hope you two can find a genre you both can enjoy together.
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
25 Aug 08
I will not try to compromise or affect him to listen to my favorite songs. I will let him listen to his and I listen to mine.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
25 Aug 08
That's good.
@vimaal (3365)
• India
24 Aug 08
hi friend, i like to listen my lover favourite songs in night time. take care have a nice day.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
That's very romantic
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I just let him hear his music, I dont say anything against it. And he do the same. Actually, I don't like music that much... i mean, I am moody when it comes to music, sometimes I feel like listening to music all day, and sometimes I just don't. But if he feels like listening to music even if I don't, then I let him listen. I think its a matter of give and take for both parties. Even in other aspects, couples for sure would have different taste for different things. Give and take, respect, and love would work out for all those differences. We just have to try. Happy Posting!
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
You are quite right
@gabbana (1815)
• China
23 Aug 08
for me, it will be ok. one man's meat is another man's poison. a couple should share something in common, but difference shall never be neglected, don't you think? sorry for not replying in time cause my pc was broken 3 days ago.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
That's a good saying
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Hi youless, I will just listen to it..I like some but not all and when we are in his car, I will ask him to play my music especially when we are traveling and sometimes he will..I like chick music and he doesn't like it a lot..lol!
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I make him listen to what I want.LOL I try to compromise. We are lucky. We like all music types so its really not an issue. If I didnt like something he was listening to, I would shut the door and let him enjoy it on his own. I may take the music and listen to it in my car or use head phones. In a relationship the worse thing you could do is not allow your partner to express him/herself. This causes many problems. I am happy I dont have to worry cause We like it all. Thanks and happy myLotting dl
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
Sometimes I will recommend him the songs I like. That's OK that he doesn't like it. People can have different taste for music.
• United States
22 Aug 08
That happens to be the case with me. The only time we both listne to music at the same time really is in the car. If we are in my car, we listen to my music, if we are in his we listen to his...seems to work ok. I can bare listenitng to his cuz its rock and well its doable...just not what i listen to when i have a choice..lol. I listen to country, and well he cant stand it.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
I think country music is nice, it is not possible to use "stand it" in this way
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
22 Aug 08
Now I have a long big story to tell you regarding this topic. I got married 30 years back and before marriage I was popular among my friends and relatives for my singing capacity and love for light music especially film songs. Twice I hear it, and I would repeat it verbatim without any variation in tune and rhythm. I used to sing in school, class and entertain my friends during intervals. I used to abhor classical music for the one reason that it was difficult and I was not exposed to it at home. Soon after I got married I realized that my husband virtually condemned film music as complete and useless trash. My father-in-law was a lover of classical music and my sisters in law were trained in classical music and my husband could appreciate only classical. My mother-in-law is stone deaf regarding music and she never had good words for this. One day my father in-law asked me to sing some song and I sang a simple prayer song for him .He appreciated my voice and good ear because I sang without mistake and in key. I used to accompany my husband to music concerts simply for the sake of company though I could once again not understand head or tail of it. However, I promised my father in-law one day that I would learn classical music within five years. Soon after my son was born, at the age of 26, I started classical music from A, B, C. I had a good teacher and after some years, on hearing music sounds in our compound a few candidates and their parents approached me to train the girls /boys. There started my teaching sessions and I got groups of students learning music. I learnt many songs [all difficult ones] in classical music. I cultivated this in my son too. Today I can appreciate both classical and film music though film music would still be my passion... i can sing both; my husband would still call it trash but nowadays he does not hate film music. He never did ask me to change my taste but gave me all encouragement to learn classical music. I was in an atmosphere where I felt like learning it. I loved learning music and I adored my music classes. Even today, I keep listening to songs of my choice; my husband does not listen to any music particularly. He is busy with his own work. We just choose to follow our own tastes and do not intrude. My husband’s encouragement went a long way in cultivating my taste for classical music.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
You have a talent to music. Everybody can have different taste for music, and we can't say other's taste is bad. It's wrong.
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
22 Aug 08
We like the same type of music but have totally different tastes when it comes to the artists. We are almost totally opposites so it doesn't bother us at all.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
That's good.
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
none, since we're two different individuals, i just let him listen to his songs and so does he listens to mine.. since everyday im in different mood so everyday it's a different type of music
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Aug 08
That's fair
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
Hi youless! My husband and I have different taste in music and I really don't mind if he will play his kind of music all the time. I just don't like the volume to be turned on so loud. haha.. Take care always..God Bless!
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Aug 08
It's same with me
@BriNbai (912)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Well I have a pretty diverse taste in music so pretty much everything I listen to is fine. But I've had friends that dont like the same music as their girlfriends and they always argue about what to listen to in the car and stuff so im glad to hear that you and your husband try to compromise.
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Aug 08
I think it's silly to argue about it
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
22 Aug 08
We both have different taste in music too and he listens to his and I listen to mine. We usually play the radio in the car or burn a cd with both our music and our sons on it so we get a variety of all three tastes LOL
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@youless (100243)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Aug 08
That's a good idea