The Mother In Law

@mlh8087 (370)
United States
August 22, 2008 1:25pm CST
So my daughter calls me last night and says, "Mom I'm coming over. Fiance's sister is coming with her 4 kids and he doesn't want me and the baby around them." It's okay with me for her to come over. Let me give you some background. The new baby was born on Aug.12. The doctor says no people (especially children) around him for 4-6 weeks while his body is building up immunities. The fiance and my daughter did not want his mother at the birth, but guess who shows up. Yep! She got to the hospital before we did and then I had to chase her out of the room several times so my daughter would relax so the birthing process would happen with a little less stress. (So his mom ignore their wishes that she not be there on the baby's birthday.) Secondly, the fiance's sister has been invited by mom to come to the hospital. His mom says, "Hey, it's okay come on up, see the baby." Fiance has already told his mom he does not want sister there. He does not like his sister. His sister takes his father's side in everything. Father had abused fiance in more ways then one-if you get my meaning. Fiance makes it abundantly clear he doesn't want father or sister at the hospital or anywhere near my daughter or the baby. His mom still says, "It's okay come on up, see the baby." It's like her son never even said anything. That brings us to today. Sister and her 4 children are coming from out of state, at fiance's mother's invitation. Fiance told mom, I don't want my sister or the kids anywhere near my family. (By the by, fiance and daughter live with his mother until they can afford a place of their own. Which they have. They are moving next door to me.) There's the rub, fiance has sent my daughter and grandson to us for safe keeping. I don't mind I enjoy seeing them both. So mylotters, what do you think? Is fiance's mom a little out of touch with what her son wants? Another little tidbit-when my daughter and fiance announced the pregnancy-his mom set up the old crib by her easy chair and put a life size realistic baby doll in it. Then proceeded to pile all kinds of trash on top of the baby doll. Bizarre! Well, let me know what you guys think. Is fiance's mother a little out of touch and/or living in her own world or what?
3 responses
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I think she isn't considerate and doesn't give a darn about her son at all! As far as the baby doll thing, that may express how she really feels about this baby
@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Are you saying that she may think the baby is trash? That's a different view except I don't know that his mother has any really independent thought other than what she wants.
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Not that she thinks that it is trash, but she doesn't think of it as her grandbaby. Like maybe it isn't good enough or something. What happened to the crib after the baby was born?
@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
17 Nov 08
The crib is now gone. My son-n-law told her there was no way the baby was going to sleep in that 24 year old piece of crap. This hurt his mom's feelings but she got over it. She has kept the baby a few times but my husband and I are the primary babysitters while the parents are going to work. Well, the other grandmother made a comment in front of the baby's parents that went something like this: "We won't tell anyone our little secret." This one little comment was enough for the parents to say that his mother will no longer keep the baby for any reason. That little comment brings up a lot of questions about what is she doing with the baby when she has it alone. We are watching that situation unfold and we make sure we are available to babysit our grandson.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
17 Nov 08
Well it sounds like fiance's mother is just doing whatever she wants. The crib thing may have been her way of preparing for the baby (and her thoughts that it would be spending lots of time with her) and then when it didn't happen she just piled stuff in the crib for convenience. As for the siter and kids visiting, I would have fiance sit down and tell the sister point blank...you can't have your kids or yourself around the baby. Doctor's orders. It's possible that she doesn't know anything about it. If he doesn't get along with the mother or the sister he needs to put his foot down, and keep it down. No way should he run off his partner and child b/c his family can't respect his wishes. Good luck with it. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
20 Nov 08
That would cause concern for me wondering what she's said or done to the baby that needs to be their little secret. I'd definately not leave her alone with the baby. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG AND TRUST IN GOD**[/b]
• Canada
22 Aug 08
No offense to him or you or your daughter but it sounds like his family is a bunch of nut jobs. I think he sounds like the only normal one that came out of that house and what a shame he was the one that was abused. I don't think the mother is out of touch but I think she just doesn't care what her son wants and the well being of her grandchild. If my mom put a baby doll in an old crib and then piled stuff on it when she found out I was pregnant, i'd be horrified and move out that second. It sounds to me that that whole family (except the son) needs some sort of mental help. Good luck to the kids moving out and I'm glad they have some sense to move closer to you.
@mlh8087 (370)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I so agree with you. I'm very happy they are moving away from that woman. I hated to have to be a witch on my grandson's birthday, but you know how we half way sane mother's are. We do what we need to for our kids protection. I suspect my daughter and crew to be moved in next door within the next couple of weeks. Thanks for your opinion. I was hoping I wasn't the only one who thought his group were a little on the insane side.