What would you do if someone gifted you something that you do not really need?
By rajeshfgh
@rajeshfgh (1629)
India
August 23, 2008 2:33pm CST
This happened to me yesterday. My friends gifted me a cowboy hat which is huge and nice too. I liked it very much but to be frank it is of very less use to me. I don't think I would wear it many times, even if I do it would be once in a blue moon. I didn't have the heart to say it out to my friends as they had given it to me with so much love that I just accepted it. How would you have reacted in my situation. What would you do if somebody gifted you something that you really don't need, would you accept is quietly or just tell the person about it?
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@vidhyavini (6111)
• India
24 Aug 08
I will just accept the gift and have it safe. Thats all. Mostly gals will gift some show case items to each other. Its of no use actually. We will just have it. Its just their sign of love. Every time we see that we remember that friend. Thats the main purpose of gifts. To be remembered. It does solve that purpose right. Then be happy about it. Hehe. Happy mylotting.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
26 Aug 08
Yeah, I agree not all gift items are meant to be used, rather like you said they're just for our friends memories. They make it a point that we remember them always by giving us such gifts that we just have to keep in a showcase and now wear them off by using or giving to others. 

@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
23 Aug 08
I'd probably accept the gift regardless and then try to figure out what I should do with it. I'd either pass it on to someone else or keep it and figure out what exactly I could do with it. I mean, it may eventually come in handy but I just don't know.
That's the problem with some people giving me gifts. I hate how they just randomly buy really strange things because I can never be sure what to do with those items.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
26 Aug 08
Yeah, I agree. We have to accept it lest the person giving it feels offended. Once we have accepted it, I think it is pretty much up to us to do whatever we want to do with it. Yeah, people do buy strange things but I think it is sometimes on purpose just to surprise us or just amuse us.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
29 Aug 08
I agree it would be the most proper thing to do rather than wasting it or just letting it lye someplace.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
29 Aug 08
Yes, I think one can do it if it really can be used constructively by someone else rather than just keeping it someplace where it would never be touched again.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
24 Aug 08
i can understand whats ur point of view as even i have experienced it quite a few times. some of my friends has gifted me the items that i really dont use it n its out of my taste but cant help it i like my friends n cant hurt them by telling anything about their gift n i just accept it have a smile on my face n i just preserve it n sometimes try to add up a little art work to the gift so that it looks much more better n then use it as a showpiece or just preserve it.
i usually preserve the gifts , cards everything from my friends so that i can see those gifts n remember my friends n all the moments we had spend together. i know that gifts r not required to remember friends but just i remember my friends n hence cant see them n i just look at the gifts n cards just as an addition to remember them.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
24 Aug 08
so i can just recommend or advice u to just preserve ur gift or use it as a showpiece when u r to using it.
its our friends important n their feelings when they had given u a gift n not the gift minds u or reflects the friends.
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
26 Aug 08
Thanks icegermany, I quite understand what your explaining here. It's right it's not actually the gift but the love with which the gift is given which is more important. So, I guess the only way is to accept it with a smile and preserve it if it cannot be used. 

@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
24 Aug 08
Yes, I think it should be done that way only otherwise we might unintentionally hurt the persons feeling which would be a very bad thing to do.
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@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
I would still say thank you...
The mere fact that they even got me something is a big thing for me. A small letter or a simple not is enough to make my day. Even if I am given things that I really don't need, I still hold them in high esteem. A lot of my former students, for some reason, would give me stuffed bears as a thank you. I have so many now that I think I can make a family tree out of them. haha. Now, even if I can't use them, I still appreciate the fact that they went out of their way to get me something. (and I'm pretty sure they had to think long and hard to figure out what to get me. Lol.) Some of the bears I've actually given away to nieces or nephews because they liked them... at least those gifts get to have a new home where they will be more loved. 
The mere fact that they even got me something is a big thing for me. A small letter or a simple not is enough to make my day. Even if I am given things that I really don't need, I still hold them in high esteem. A lot of my former students, for some reason, would give me stuffed bears as a thank you. I have so many now that I think I can make a family tree out of them. haha. Now, even if I can't use them, I still appreciate the fact that they went out of their way to get me something. (and I'm pretty sure they had to think long and hard to figure out what to get me. Lol.) Some of the bears I've actually given away to nieces or nephews because they liked them... at least those gifts get to have a new home where they will be more loved. 
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@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
29 Aug 08
Yeah, I don't know if teddy bears are the most common things to be given to girls. My sister has also got a collection of bears in the showcase. Kinda could make a family tree here too
. It's just the memories which count on seeing it.
. It's just the memories which count on seeing it. @Rintis (646)
• India
26 Aug 08
I would do exactly what you did? I would never have the heart to tell my friend that I don't need it. My friend would have taken so much of thought and pain in getting me that gift. A gift is so much more than a mere object. It is a way of expressing love on a special occasion.
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
29 Aug 08
Yeah, I would say that you really can do nothing about it. You just have to accept it and make their feelings count.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
24 Aug 08
Hi , I would not tell my friends and know it was the thought that counted . Who knows maybe one day you may find someone to wear it and it will fit them well . My friend many , many years back gave me a piggy bank and i was like what the . But you know it was the thought . she knew i wanted to save for a vegas trip we planned .
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
26 Aug 08
Yeah, you can't tell them this thing or else they may feel bad about it. I hope I may be able to use it someplace. Hey, that was very caring of your friend to remind you about saying. In your case, the gift said it all...

@nizhama2 (295)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 08
As a teacher, I'm always receive a lot of gifts from my students, and I will accept it whatever it is. A gift is a gift. You don't have to use it but it is a gift, so keep it and don't tell any body you don't need it. In fact a gift is more than what we see, it is a bridge between hearts, whatever it is...
@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
26 Aug 08
Yeah, you're right, a gift is a gift irrespective of you want it or not, like it or not. It has a sentimental value attached to it and I guess we must appreciate that more than anything else. Thanks. Happy Mylotting 

@rajeshfgh (1629)
• India
29 Aug 08
Yes, I should say that we do not have a choice but to accept it. You can't let your friends feel bad by saying it out.











