how do you make your love last?

@jhl930 (3601)
United States
August 23, 2008 5:30pm CST
i know that we have all heard this before that after a certain amount of time in a relationship that your love starts to burn out a little bit and that it just gets into a schedule after awhile(like you do the same thing everyday and it seems like nothing changes)and i don't really want my future relationships to be like that if you can help it and i would say that some people may have some good ideas, so i was just wondering about all of you, what do you do or say to your other to make sure that your love last...please answer honestly...thanks for taking the time to read my discussion and i hope that i get some answers i hope that you all have a great evening and night and the rest of your weekend is great, thanks again!
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13 responses
• Indonesia
23 Aug 08
Love needs to be maintained. Just like a plant which need to be nurtured and taken care of otherwise it will die. Sometimes, we got trapped into routines in our life; and it makes a relationship feel boring. My suggestions to nurture your relationship are to do something new together; go to a place where you two never go there before; find a new experience together; or in daily life, oftenly said "I love you" to your spouse, give him/her a little present, and oftenly kiss him/her
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
23 Aug 08
i think that its all really great advice, i mean i am looking forward to my future and i was just wondering how to keep it alive and exciting, thanks for taking the time to reply!
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
The relationship has to be worked on. It doesn't just happen no matter how much the two people might love each other. I find that today people give up too easily and move on to the next one without resolving the old one first. To me that means there really wasn't all that much love between the first relationship if a person can just hop into another one when the first one is over. But to make a relationship last a person has to compromise a lot. You have to want it to work out or the compromising won't happen. It's a give and take relationship and it doesn't just work on it's own, it has to be worked in order for it to survive. The main componant of a relationship is communication. You should be able to talk to your loved one about anything, including this discussion. The second most important thing in a relationship is respect. No matter how much the two of you talk, if there is no respect there is nothing. And with respect comes trust. From the jest of the last couple discussions you started, I would say that you are not in a very trusting and respectful relationship and you are thinking about ending it. So since this discussion is 4 months old, are you still in the same relationship or have you moved on? Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good day, Chris Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good day, Chris
• United States
24 Aug 08
Let the person have what they want. If they want space, give them some space. If they want to go somewhere, let them do it. Sure you have to argue with them now and then, just to keep things spicy, but let them do their thing when they want to for the most part because if this person truly loves you, they will always come crawling back to you.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
find common interests, and do it together. or if you have none, develop one like a sport, hobby, etc., never hide your feelings and always be open. spend time together but not 24/7.. -let your partner miss you a bit. hehe! travel. eat a lot. dance. try new different exotic things. or do what you see in televisions, most of them are really sweet. hehe! motivate your partner to be a better person if he may have done something wrong. being happy doesn't require a lot of money, it just need time and pure love, and most of all, being true. :) AND the best advise i have ever learned from my mother.. if your not yet married, never give 'it' all to them. you know what i mean. it may sound pretty eccentric but it's true. love is about respect. preserve it up until marriage, and you will never have regrets! and of course, that will be the best gift you can ever give to your future beloved husband! :))
• United States
24 Aug 08
I think a lot of people forget that relationships do take work, and that love will not always be enough to keep them together. That's one of the reasons why a lot of couples might break up because they didn't put any effort. There's other factors that go into keeping a relationship such as interest, compatibility, etc. Sometimes a relationship isn't meant to be, and sometimes you can help it when the love and passion starts to die down and fade away. Just keep things interesting. Talk to your partner, and make sure you two are on the same page. Communication and trust are very important in a relationship, and in life in general.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
24 Aug 08
Dear friend, I do have many methods for lasting love but all these methods would be successful if the person whom I love too love me sincerely. Hence I feel to long lasting love both the side should be much cooperative and sincere to their love. If any one of them goes out of the track I hope the person who loved and showed sincereness to love is cheated and love might give an end.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
23 Aug 08
I think you have to keep it exciting, always look your best, always excite all his senses and never take the love for granted, some people think oh well they know i love them, show it, and always make him feel good...
@shana123 (2095)
• India
24 Aug 08
Love should always have something new in it to keep ourselves from getting tired of loving each other, it should always have thrill in it.. so that we wont stop loving and it should have both good and bad experiences, good experiences make us more to love each partner more but bad experiences will teach us in way which we should not go and also to love our partners the most.. Whenever i fight with my guy( usually it is me who fights) i wont repeat the mistake the next time lol.. :)
• Guam
24 Aug 08
for me.. love lasts when your world does not revolve around the person. Remember, you must love yourself first before you love someone, because your value depends on how you value yourself. Another thing is have enough space between the two of you, although you are a couple you have separate careers, work, friends, etc. It doesn't mean that you have to seclude your partner with this part of your life, but you must have a place where you can say is yours. It doesn't mean he is not in this part of your life, he should be more of an inspiration. Privacy is an important thing, being secretive is another thing. Honesty and an open communication is an essential thing to have. Trust and respect should be the foundation.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
I believe that TRUE/REAL LOVE can always let your relationship last for a lifetime... It is true that sometimes, it will burn out a little, like getting bored with each other but everytime you think that you're going to broke, it will always alarm you because deep in your heart you love each other so much... It is best also if you're going to go new places and spend your time each other there...
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
Well I think the romance is always their. Communication and giving importance both with each other.The relationship should be open. But for me is still trust,repect,and being honest.Acceptance even the faults,even pains should be embrace for the love to last. Accepting each othr even with their mistakes,and love should always be their not only saying I love you but feeling love.The getting to know you should not stop also and being a friend even she's already your gf. A relationship should grow and still have their own life still and not pulling each other down. Have a nice day!
@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
24 Aug 08
dont make it become monotonious , its not always you should catch up alone also freak out with your friends or in group...try doing things which you havent done like going for tracking togther, try doing things unlike the usual stuffs. dont meet very often when it becomes monotonious.... try hunting things on the net and ask for ideas from your friends..may be they have sumthng good and unusual which you mite have not tried..... if u get any ideas drop in a few i wud like to add them to my list as well.....
24 Aug 08
Planned dates or time together is good but sometimes, being spontaneous gets his curiosity running & he'll be more mystified with you. Guys, they are naturally curious creatures. The more suspense, the more they get excited and the more they are interested to really enjoy every single minute with you. You want to keep him coming back to you, so don't let him know every single thing that you do =) let him be asking what you're up to instead of you doing it. it just turns guys on. being spontaneous & by just being you can make the roamnce explosive like the first time you ever met :3 Good luck!