Why Selfish people are always the successful ones?

India
August 24, 2008 1:18am CST
Hi, So far in my life I have observed one thing.Selfish people are successful.I can quote many incidents happened in my life.Iam 100% sure if you want to be successful be selfish.Can anyone contest this? Let's see.
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@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
They mayb be successful in one way and this is probably because they are willing to step on anyone to get what they want but are they really happy on the inside i would rather be successful there, selfish people can end up very lonely people.
• India
24 Aug 08
Hi, Here I can give you an example of a very selfish man in our area, Were he started as a paper distributing boy in his life.He became the ruler of the land,Still he is ruling.Only his family is thriving.I can say him as most selfish man in my lifetime.For more than 40 years he is consistently rich,powerful has dozens of his own now in riches,power etc..So your myth of loneliness fails here.People now in our area don't even remember the names of good hearted generous men of our time.
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@lilaclady (28226)
• Australia
24 Aug 08
I still call him a very lonely man, to be like that he can't really be happy inside, and i don't think you would be the only one who thinks of him like you do, being rich doesn't make you really happy..
@relundad (2311)
• United States
24 Aug 08
I consider myself successful and not selfish. I am wondering what the basis of your comment is? I am wondering if the measure of success that you speak of is financially successful? I'd be interested in knowing exactly what your are basing this observation on?
• India
24 Aug 08
Hi, Yes Financial success.For an example,I know two person for minimum 20 years.One is a very selfish.He will go to all relatives homes,have a excellent rich dinner,but in his lifetime has never offered a cup of coffee to others.Do not think he is poor man.He earned four times as others to suggest his state.He was always concentrating on his daughters well being.Constantly downgrading other's ability before his own daughter's.He used to give loan to his relatives on a high interest,if anybody not able to give it back,he would go to their place create a hell for them,get back his due.Luckily god kept us well so we did not have any such horrible time with him.As we know him we kept him at a distance.Another person,a very generous man,All along the years he has been consistently helping his parents, brother's , their businesses,any relative possible, with what ever resources he had.He earned a good money in his life time,if he had been a little selfish he could have easily been a multi-millionaire now.Once he had given money for that selfish person to start some business long time ago.Now this generous person does not even own a home.He is still has to work for his living.That selfish being has four house,Well settled business.Daughters married in US. So be selfish to be happy in oldage.This world or god will not recognize your good deeds.Hope Im right.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
24 Aug 08
As I stated I do consider myself financially successful. My success was a result of education,hard work,determination and sound financial planning. People tend to catagorize you as selfish because you don't feel the need to GIVE AWAY your money! I don't think that I automatically OWE anybody anything, whether they are my family or not. I do give to members of my family that I decide need my help, as well I give to charity for many organizations. But its not because I have to! Most people in my family or circle of friends were afforded the same opportunities as I was, the difference is what we did with the opportunity. So obviously if we made different choices in the beginning, the end result will probally be different too. In the example that you gave, if that person went to a bank or institution they would be required to pay the loan back, why shouldn't they pay the family member back? In the other example of the person that you think was not selfish, he may not have been but obviously he was foolish in making sound financial decisions. So he has worked hard all of his life and has nothing to show for it, except a bunch of people with their hands stretched for something for nothing. I know that there will always be people that think that a successful person owes them something because they have it. But trust me people that have achieved financial wealth, don't get there by passing it out to people because of their relations to them. The fact that I don't just pass out money to everyone that has there hand out doesn't make me selfish. I wasn't born wealthy I worked my a$$ off to get there. And though I feel I have an obligation to society to give back, its not mandated by WHAT THE NEXT PERSON FEELS LIKE I SHOULD GIVE AND TO WHO.
• India
24 Aug 08
Hi, From your wording it seems that you have understood the world much better than the person I was quoting.You parents or the mentor have taught the values by which you have come up the level.But for that person his father had taught him family values more than money power and its real value.When I have asked him, why he gave such a huge amount to the debt of his brother's,he told me the amount what he got from business could be the one god gave to save that brother's debt.Iam sure if he had invested in some realty that would have fetched him 100 times now.As it happend in 1998.He might look as a fool now,Im sure atleast in god's world it has real value.For me timely help is the biggest help however it is small.I had a friend at work.He used bring food enough for two.But he will share with two more.I will give if I have little excess.Seeing him I have felt guilty many times.I also feel that those guys(were lazy and not poor) who regularly take food from him are selfish by not allowing this guy to have his meal.
• Indonesia
24 Aug 08
it depends on how you define 'successful'. if it means having lots of money, being popular, or somethings like those, maybe you right. but everyone have their own definition about successful. someones may think that being successful is having a nice little house, a loving wife, a few close friends. pursuing that successful, you don't need to be selfish. instead, your selfishness will keep you away from your goal. that's what i think.
• India
24 Aug 08
Hi, Be selfish you achieve your goal faster.If you are selfish you aim will not get distracted.You need not be polite.Your mind will not be wavery about good and bad.Whatever you think is good.Whatever you do is good atleast to you.You need not care for anybody in the earth.So many pluses with it.
@alienstar (5143)
• India
24 Aug 08
Infact, all those olden times have gone where people were not selfish like these day's and many people have turned selfish looking into their own things as yous aid and it's really bad isn't it? i alway's like the old times where things were beautiful and modern time looks more of artificial to me.
• India
24 Aug 08
hi , This modern time is due to the selfish activities of many old timers.That oldtimer would have been your own dad ,Mum,Uncle ,Aunt,Teacher,Employer etc.If you think past was good,Will you be bring up your child as an unselfish person.If he is unselfish can he survive a single day in this most Selfish world. Please tell me.
@Shavkat (90815)
• Philippines
19 Nov 12
It is not fine to mingle with people who are so selfish, they just only think of themselves. The reality bites, it is a real fact to survive in this world. Most of the time, the life of being selfish is not a healthy act.