How do you deal with two toddler boys fighting all the time

Philippines
August 24, 2008 7:59am CST
I have a one year old and a two year old. Both boys. As early as their age, the rivalry is so evident that i have to play "referee" all the time. The older one is so violent towards his little brother that I'm afraid, my one year old is learning to fight back at this early stage. I barely have time now to do other household chores because i have to watch them all the time. My only "peace and quiet" is when they sleep or one of them takes a nap.
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@misty99 (736)
24 Aug 08
I have the same problem..good for you because both are boysMine is a 6 year old boy and a 3 year old girl.Just like you are i stand like referee near them.The thing with my kids is the young girl gives much of smacking on the brother-well that's what i've been telling my son not to fight back.But when i am not around the boy retaliatesI have asked some friends here if their kids are like this....everybody seem to be experiencing this kind of referee-like role between small kids.So i think this is natural.What i usually do is let one stay in the living room and the other beside meso i can finish my work.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
thanks Misty. Good for you too, because your kids are old enough to be left playing alone. I do that too, leave my two year old to play in another room, and my one year old beside me. But i can not work when my one year old is awake and playing beside me. You know how one year olds are, especially when they can already walk and hate to be placed in their walker.
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@julievy (593)
• United States
24 Aug 08
At some point you have to let them work it out themselves. Your two may be a little young for that just yet, but keep that in mind. Once they are both of a similar size you should let them handle their disputes themselves. My boys are now 22 and 26. The older used to pick on his younger brother and I always warned him that some day he'll get even. And he did.... Eventually they learned to cooperate and today they are the best of friends.
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Wow! I dream of what you have now...that someday i will see them all grown up and being the best of friends. I try to develop their closeness as early as now but i think they are not yet ready for that. :)
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• India
25 Aug 08
IT is the the common problem in two brothers they have jealous for each other.the is nothing to worry about it.beinggood mother try to reslove the quallerof two brother because both are innocentand not mature mentally and physically.you should not forget your own childhood when you yourselfquarrelled with your brother and sisters and your parent have to face the same very problem. to beat and scold is nota solution to this. so try to betolerant.this is a period of patience for the parents .seprate both of them for few days they will realise their for each other both mother and father try to make them under stand that they are friend not a foeof each other. qurrel in childhood are not the quarrel of serious nature but the of love and friendily nature.you should told them to co-operate each and try to help each other in hard days of life.
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