It was'nt pretty at all? My nephew grrrrrrrrrrrrr
By kwenge
@kwenge (2487)
Kenya
August 25, 2008 8:51am CST
J (my nephew) and I went out to the bus stop, which is in front of our house. I had to restrain him till the bus came. It took 3 of us to get him on the bus and still couldn't get him up the steps. The bus driver asked if Drew (my brother) could ride with him and she'd bring him right back home. He's not back yet so I'm thinking they must be having a hell of a time getting him off the bus.
I don't know what to do. This is so hard. I know he needs to go to school. I know he's too attached to me and not his mother because she is working far away. I know I"ve got to keep doing this. But, the question is, how long with the bus driver put up with this? How will the school and his teacher deal with him? Am I going to get a phone call in a little bit saying they can't handle him?
I know no one has these answers. I guess I'm just venting here.
I hate putting him through this again, but it has to be done. I think there's a better way but we haven't figured it out yet. Ugh, I hate this! :-(
Can someone give me any suggestion? Have you ever experienced this with your school going kids? How did u handle it?
4 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Aug 08
how old is this child??if one of mine had acted like that i imagine he'd got his butte spanled plus all his favotite things put up till he learned how to behave. that's ridculous,embarassing for y'all & not good for the child to get that upset.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Aug 08
i'm sorry u are having such a time w/him. i have a 4 year old grandson & don't know what we'd do if he had problems like that. i know it keeps y'all torn up all the time. hope things improve.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
25 Aug 08
Have you thought of just bringing him to school instead? He may have issues with riding the bus alone.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
26 Aug 08
I heard this from my MIL that when my hubby was a child and first started school, he would not only throw tantrums but even pull at the hair or saree end of my MIL so that she would put him down and he could rush back home. He had this strange phobia and created the most ugly scenes on the road. Then one day she put a loaf of bread in his hand, he carried it under him arms in a proud way and don’t know what that did but from that day onwards, she had to buy him a loaf of bread to make him go to school (he would not eat the bread though, once in class he would put it in his bag and bring it home)…I suggest you do two things. One is encourage him to mix with more children if possible in your immediate neighbourhood and second is ask him if he feels like carrying anything from home with him apart from the books and stuff…a teddy or a stuffed toy maybe. He’s just a child and he feels lost without you
(oh Kwenge…I just had this most wicked thought in my dirty mind…good training for motherhood, isn’t this for ya?)
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
26 Aug 08
I was telling my friend about something similar just the other day, kwenge. When I was a child, my Mum used to put me on a bus for school - and I used to stand up the whole way, screaming and wetting my knickers. When I got to school, they'd make me wear horrible thick black bloomers - even though my Mum would pack spare knickers for me. I remember it so vividly, even though it was 45 years ago. I'll never forget my Mum and little brother standing at the bus stop as the bus drove off with me in it. Maybe I thought I was going to miss out on something - but I know I felt very alone and miserable at school, and there are a few memories of it that keep coming back even today. I hope the little lad settles down soon - but if not, he'll have memories when he's 50 ... just like me!
