My friend is not being supportive
By ktroth
@ktroth (378)
United States
August 25, 2008 2:34pm CST
Several months ago, my best friend told me there was a house on her street that was for sale. She knew we were interested in moving and thought it would be great if we lived on her street. We did like the house, though it was not our dream home. We put our home up for sale to see what would happen. Nothing did. Meanwhile, the people selling the home on her street took it off the market because it wasn't selling. Now we have found a home we truly love and are hoping our house sells soon because it is our dream home. When I told my friend about it, all she wanted to know was if it was further away from her than we live now, which it is. Now, we live about 4 miles away from her and this new home is about 7 miles away from her. So I'm not talking about hours. I'm talking about the a ten minute drive! She did not express that she was happy for us. She did not ask any questions about the house, other than the distance from her. This is my best friend and I am so hurt that she is being so selfish and unsupportive. If she came to me all excited about a home she wanted to buy, I would ask her to describe it to me or show me pictures on the internet. I would be truly happy for her, even if it was an hour away. I don't know what to do. I just want to keep my distance from her for a while because I'm so upset about this. I don't know how to bring up the subject or what to say. I hate fighting, but this is too hurtful to just let it go.
Any suggestions?
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Remember that, while you are excited that you have found your dream house, your friend is disappointed that you're not going to be living close to her. I don't think she's necessarily being unsupportive, she just needs time to adjust to the idea that her dream of having you living nearby is not going to come true. I think you should be able to talk to her about this. Tell her that you understand that she's disappointed, and that you are too in a way, but that the distance is not that far so you hope that she can be happy for you if you're able to get this house. I suspect that she will change her tune if you open up to her.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
27 Aug 08
ugh i HATE people like that!! they cant get excited or happy for anyone unless it benifits themselves.. i have had several friends like that and i dumped them since unless it was their own voice they wouldnt listen and it just got worse and worse to where i would have more feedback and support from a corpse lol
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
29 Aug 08
i had that happen.. me and my best friend applied at apts together and they were gonna live above us and etc.. their credit was AWFUL and they couldnt hold on to a dollar to save their lives and would blow all their money.. well they got mad because they turned down their apt because they blew all their money and well they really werent suppose to have gotten in to begin with (references didnt go through etc) and we took ours.. we were across town but where we lived near her wasnt even big enough to be a single wide trailor so we wanted some where nice!! then she got mad because i finally found a job and had to work the 4th of july (new girl) and well her bday was the 4th and she wanted us to do an all day thing and wanted me to call out.. i literally hadnt even been there a week so i told her no i needed the money and well she never talked to me again.. it was crazy!
