Cousin

United States
August 25, 2008 10:17pm CST
This discussion is about my husband's cousin. She lived with us 2 years back for 4 months in search of her job. She got a wonderful job and she moved to an apartment. We also helped her buying groceries etc for the first month and helped her moving her stuff to the apartment. Next month she is going to get married and she didn't even bothered to call us and tell us about this marriage. This made me very sad and mad too. My husband is very cool and he never bothers about these topics. I just cant believe how he can take everything positively which I couldnt do?????
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
26 Aug 08
Your cousin is being very selfish. The least she could have done was invite you, even if you did not want to go. You and your husband didn't have to do what you did for her, and she should be ever so grateful. I would let her know how I feel after her wedding, if you said something before, she probably would think that you want to go. I would let her know how hurt I am. She is acting very uncaring and unappreciative. Then, again men do not see things the same as women, to your husband it is probably no big deal.
• United States
26 Aug 08
thanks for the reply. You are right.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I always look at things with a positive attitude, if I can. Perhaps she thought that you and your husband already did enough for her, and that telling you or inviting you to the wedding would make you feel obligated to buy for her. Perhaps she's having a small wedding. Perhaps she thinks you won't approve of her choice in spouse.
@jaygee96 (316)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Well, just move on girl. Its just so happens that your husband's cousin is selfish and you cant do anything about it.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
26 Aug 08
My dear vidhyagowri, there are alot of persons in this world that have the same attitude as your cousin in law. But there is something that you should remember that your blessings is not coming from her but from God. Wish her well and don't be sad and continue to help those who is in need of it. These things will enable you to start taking examples from your husband and practice his humility.
@gemini_rose (16192)
26 Aug 08
Some people are just like that, ungrateful I would call it. I would be like you, hacked off with her and I reckon my hubby would be like yours, cool and take it in his stride. I think that maybe we just take things to heart a bit more.
@Ohara_1983 (4119)
• Kuwait
26 Aug 08
hello my dear, lots of people dont even think that you help,dont be upet on that, just think that you help him, bu you dont ven us for anything god will give you later not to him. be happy, i know it make you made but just smile.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
26 Aug 08
I can understand you feeling hurt by her actions. After all, you and your husband helped her get back on her feet. Now that she's getting married, she never even thought to let you know. I suppose your husband is right. She didn't bother to tell you, so why bother to worry about it. Like I told a friend whose granddaughter has never let her know about her baby that was born 11 days ago, nor did any of her family get an invitation to the baby shower - when she wants to know where the gifts are, tell her you never knew about the shower and wasn't welcome to come to the hospital to see them, either. She wasn't! They went, and the lady told her nobody was in the hospital by that name. In other words, they had it fixed where the family could keep those out they didn't want down there. So, since your husband's cousin has acted the same way, just let it be a lesson. Not everybody you help are really appreciative of your help.