should i only be a wife n mother n always give up my wishes?

ya i agre that , but u know i stay in germany n all my relatives , friends n my parents r in india. once i m back to india i will not be having so many problems to think about my child as i can leave him with my mom but here i cant do that as i have no one here. but sometimes i really think there a so many steps in life where u have to compromise n just go on with whats happening. have u anytime thought like this?

I agree with you. I had to compromise for many years while my children were growing up because my ex wanted me to stay at home and raise them. As soon as the youngest started school I went back to school to finish college and I went back to work. Just remember that you shouldn't be the only one compromising.

yes i know that, i m just not complaining on my husband n even he knows that i m not satisfied staying at home so he always does whatever i like n he cares for me but then to i have a feeling in my heart that i studied so much n worked hard n also my parents worked hard on me n hence i m doing nothing for them , i really have this feeling due to which i always feel guilty. n when there r times to compromise i really feel bad.

there are 2 gyms nearby to my house and i prefer those coz me and my husband go together and after his office he will have less time and hence i need to prefer this two and both of it dont have a childcare if it was there i migh have been really have and tensionfree. But its good to hear from you that now you are a bit relaxing and really taking care of childrens is so difficult. their food, their bathing, their potty everything should be done by us and it so difficult but cant help it as they are our childrens and we need to do. my son is just 2yrs old may be after 2 more yrs i will have less work concerned to him but everytime i think the responsibility of a child increases as the grow. as they grow they take care of theirselef but the extra care from us increases to make them educated, to make them disciplined, and so on. i think being parents our responsibility never ends. what do you think about this?

I agree, sometimes I feel I never stop going! I have a 2yr old and a 1yr old, I'm constantly running after. But I've found that it's important to my insanity to get them in playgroups so I can get more adult interaction. Helps them to go to bed easier at night too!

yes i think i need to agree with u n even i realise that i need to first care for my child n then i need to think of other needs. but this kind of things come in life frequently n i dont know till all this finishes up i might become an old lady n later need to only sit at home i feel. might be listening to me u might feel little bit strange but u know sometimes it really becomes too much.