Should married couple need to have a child?

@Margarit (3676)
Philippines
August 27, 2008 9:20am CST
I have a friend who is 5 years married and still childless. I feel sorry for her cause she really wanted to have a child of her own, they are both healthy couple and are doing everything to have a child but doesnt work out. Should married couple needs to have a child?
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11 responses
• United States
6 Oct 08
Yes ofcourse. But if she is trying her best than what can they really do. As long as the give out an effort to have children they should be fine because if they really desire a child to take care for they would probably adopt a child. Like a baby and take care of it until it grows up.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
I see then, i have to tell it to my friend , thanks for sharing. happy psoting.
• United States
6 Oct 08
I think that most couples who get married do have children. In my case, my fiance and I both had children before we got together. After the birth of my 4th child, who was 10 weeks premature, I decided that I was done having children. My fiance's children are 13 and 15. So, there is no chance for us to have a child together. Most couples do get married with the sense of wanting to have children together. There are sometimes circumstances in which God does not intend for some people to have children of their own. Maybe they need to get some fertility advice and make sure that they are both capable of having children. If they are not, it would be better to know than to keep trying and keep wondering if it will ever happen.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
Yeah, you are right, i will find it out what is the real reason behind why they are still childless. happy posting.
@eagle_f15 (1827)
• Malaysia
1 Sep 08
I think the need to have a child is up to the married couple. Both should come into agreement. I have been married for 2 years now and never gone on any birth control stuff and neither has my husband worn any of those thin rubbery stuff but I still have not conceive yet. Lots of advise from friends and family members were given to me like count the days when I am fertile...blablabla...tried all that and still never conceive yet. Some even ask us to go consult a doctor which we aint gonna do that at all. My friend when to do some medical thing (I have forgotten the name of the procedure) it for the woman to release more eggs. She spent like a few thousand dollars on that and until today still no baby. We believe in His time our baby will come.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Yah, It depends upon the couple if they want it or not. thanks for responding
@Anne18 (11029)
1 Sep 08
I think married couples should only have a child if they want to have a child. I know quite a few married couples who just don't want to have any children, and i think that is ok. Its up to them.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
You are right, it is up to the couples if they want child or not, but for me a child would give meaning of being married. Thank for responding.
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
1 Sep 08
Hi friend,Married couple should have atleast one child.Thats what each and every loving couple will long for as they want to have as the sign of their love for each other and long to see each other in their kid.When they see their own kid that happiness is boundless and cant describe that feelings in just words.thanks for sharing.happy mylotting.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Yes i agree too, if i will get married i wanted atleast one child but if i cant procreate, i will think of adoption would be my last option.thank of responding.
• India
1 Sep 08
hmmmmmm !!! Yes they should have a child. The reason behinde one person marry another is for making a FAMILY. What I believe is when you have married someone and want to have a complete meaning to that relationship You need to have a baby so that both the members feel responsible and caring towards single motive.It's a feeling which can only be felt when you have it. Looking back at our parents if they would have not decided to have us than how can we feel the warmth of the relationship we share with them. It's an ongoing process which should not be stopped.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Wow, very well said. Thanks for your response.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
27 Aug 08
we have friends that have been married for 5 years and the husband works full time and the wife is going through school for her doctorate so kids are not in the picture right now and the thing is, if she wants to later, why not?
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
okay, thank for your response..
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
Most people who get married do so with the thought of having children. Not only because children would be the fruits of their love but also because of the inherent need for man to propagate himself for posterity. the need for someone to carry on the name and the need for children who will be their guide and support when they grow old. They see themselves in their children ansd most couple would desire to have childre and need to have them to bind them together. Of course there are quite a few who do not want to have children but these are in the minority. I can understand why your friend tries so hard to have a child. A woman can feel so useless if she cant have children since it is woman who really bears the burden of bringing a child into this world.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
i agree with you, thanks
@redchase (347)
29 Aug 08
i dont think any couple NEEDS to have a child. some people just either dont want to be or arent fit to be parents. i dont think there's anything wrong with them not wanting a child, thats cool, they have other plans and they can live happily without the added responsibility of a mouth to feed, a body to dress adn care for. thats perfectly fine. i personally dont think i'd be very happy not having children, so in the case of me not being able to conceive i think i'd have to adopt or have a career which involved kids. i think its just in me to want kids. maybe your friend sholud look into adoption. its sad that kids dont have a family but its sadder when theres people out there who cant have kids but wont adopt and make more lives happy. i say, if god didnt put it in your body to have a kid, then do as much as you can with the kids of the ones who could.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
i like the idea. thanks for responding.
@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
27 Aug 08
Hi margarit, I think married couple should have child, but there are some couple are not lucky to have one! But I think if they both healthy and no problem they just have to wait for the right time.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
I got it, ill tell my friend to be patient and wait for the right time, but still im worried because she is already 45 years old. It would be difficult for her to bear a child when she get older and older.thanks for your response
• United States
1 Sep 08
well i think if they want one they should do whatever it takes. in my opinion if both are wanting kids and can't there might be a possibility of trouble in the marriage later on but then again i may be wrong, but theirs nothing wrong with not having children some couples may perfer not to have them, but i'm married with 2 kids and it seems like it makes the bond between us stronger almost like we put up with more knowing we have kids to raise and on the other hand couples without kids may bond on something else, its just so hard to say.
@Margarit (3676)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I agree, Dont stop trying until you get it... thanks for responding