why do men forget, but never forgive, why do women forgive but never forget?

@rocker21 (2716)
India
August 27, 2008 2:08pm CST
I've seen something common within us men! We Forget our own Affairs but we never forgive if our other had a relation, Not talking about anyone personally but the cases where the man himself has had affairs or does have relations with other woman, when his own woman does it, would act like whole pious image ! and would just leave her... Differences? yes maybe OR just that man's a looser! dont know but why do we men do this, Even there are some girls who maybe like this, they would have had affairs but if their men had it they would objectioN!! it aloud, Some women just love their men so much that they forgive them on whatever act they do, but they never forget things whatever happened! What is all this LOve is so complicated and complex! Love has its own ways....??? no LOvers make it their own! -rocky
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
27 Aug 08
I think that we can ultimately put this down to emotinal differences! Men forget easily becasue our minds are geared this way, yet we won't forgive because maybe someone slighting us is subliminally seen as a threat to our very manhood and well, that's just unforgiveable! The fact is that men don't spend a lot of time over-thinking things as it goes in and out of the mind after being replaced by something else really quickly! Again, our minds just aren't built in a way that generally sees it differently to this. Women on the other hand have a far greater emotional attachment to things. They forgive because their hearts are more open to forgive. They don't forget because they are afraid of hurting that very same heart once more..... Just my take on it anyway!
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@rocker21 (2716)
• India
27 Aug 08
YEah you are right about it, thanks for your time Have a nice day!
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@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
9 Sep 08
thats the way it is!!! women are too sensitive but men are has high pride thats my opinion.
@rocker21 (2716)
• India
10 Sep 08
maybe but umm i dont understand this logic!
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
in my case not all men do forget and forgive..i say thing two things comes along together..when you forget then that is the time that you had forgiven and had finally let go of the grudge about it... once had a man who never forgets and forgive about the past...i lied and he can never forget..he always remembers the past and it caused us nothing but fight all the time so that is the reason as well why we broke up..so not all men forget and forgive..same as women..i guess its upon emotional handling...we all know how much it hurts to think that we were once cheated...but we just have to let go in order for us to pass
@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
27 Aug 08
I agree with you on that. But there are cases that i know, i mean people i know that it is the women who have had affairs but because the men loved them so much that they are willing to forgive and forget.Which i find so romantic on the part of the men.But then when it is the other way around i find the women so strong, enduring their husbands infidelity and the hurt inside because some just keep mum about it. Or others just act as if they do not know that their husband had been having an affair.Or maybe it is just the same on both men and women. Some can't forgive and forget easily as other men and women do. Yes, sometimes it is the persons in love that make love so complicated and complex.
@ksha777 (95)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
I believed the woman is not actually forgiving the man if in her heart and mind, it continually bugging her, day and night. I assume that the woman doesn't want to a broken relationship that's why she's accepting those things though it's hurting her deep inside. It's accepting the man for what he is and whatever mistakes he is able to commit at at ceratin point the woman can accept it. But I believe if it reach the limits tolerable by the woman then that's the end of the line. Good bye.. Farewell... Sayonara. In case of the man, he cannot forgive because of the "ego" issue. He forgot? Of course he needs to or else she will be like a woman who nagging day and night. No man wanted to be like a woman... then put yourself in the shoe of the woman then you'll know why a woman kept on talking... because a continous wound created by the man is there multiplying and stabbing her heart if the man continues his wrongful acts... You may disagree with me and that's fine.
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
sorry guys just bear with the grammar. I forgot to re read and edit. LOL
@macs05225 (180)
• India
8 Sep 08
Well, I think;there is forgiveness issue if you have forgotten!! Hmm we men somewhat more love our ones' that's why we can't tolerate her to be with someone else(We can't help ourselves doing this)!!But still If we forget, nothing is there to be forgiven. !!HAPPY MYLOTTING!!
@rocker21 (2716)
• India
8 Sep 08
right thing, its just that we love them too much once we love we give our everything and dont want even a bit to get far from us! Positively rated ya
@4aps777 (1528)
• United States
27 Aug 08
i dont know why but thats the way it is
@valeria1 (2721)
• United States
27 Aug 08
I do not know about another people but I never forgive or forget! I say I forgive but if you really think I do not because I cannot forget, so the same would apply for someone who thinks like me! Thank you!