Should Guys Pay Every Time and Everything?

Hi there my cool friend. I love this discussion!! It's time I get some voice heard, LOL. As a guy, I prefer to be the one to pay everything and I don't believe in the idea of going 'dutch' if I'm taking a lady out for a date. And especially if I really fancy the lady. I think that's just my style. However, I have some other friends who think that ladies should be paying as well, since they are also there to 'enjoy the date'. And they would go around saying that in this modern times, ladies and guys are working their bu** off, and they should be paying too, ha!! There's no such thing as free lunch, some of them said and I couldn't agree nor argue. I think different situations have different points of argument. It pretty much depends on the understanding of both the adults on a date. But if you ask me direct should guys pay every time and everything, I would say why not if he has the money. But if the guy is earning average and not really having extra cash, then it would be cruel so the answer to your question then on would be no. It is a mutual thing. I have 1 solution that I stick to it until today. I will never bring a lady out for a date if I'm broke or not yet approaching my pay-day, ha! So I would never have the problem of me not having the money to pay for everything. And if I'm in a relationship, I make it a point for me to come up with the money as well. But she should understand my financial situation and not be too demanding. Understanding goes easy, and the money should come out sincerely from me. So I see no problem to your question. My answer is yes. Perhaps the ego has landed.

I think before a couple goes out this should be discussed. I think there is nothing wrong in both paying for whatever is being done. As long as both agree to it. This is a different age and time. A while back it would be unheard of for a girl to help pay for whatever is done out on the date. That is not the way it is today. Personally I don't think that the guy should have to pay everytime for everything.

As a girl, I do understand that sometimes my boyfriend has less budget when we go out, I tend to volunteer in paying our expenses, as a girl you should not pressure your boyfriend in paying things all the time, you should know when to let him because not all the time he has money.

Yes, when you are on a date the man should pay, period. If he can't afford expensive stuff then go to a more reasonable place. Dating is the beginning of a relationship that hopefully will eventually lead to marriage. How would that be if the man does not pay the bill? How good of a provider will he be for his family if he is so cheap to not be the man and pay for the meal? And also, he should not expect "something in return" either. That is the man's role - to pay the bill. I just can't stand the idea of "Dutch Treat". Who in the world thought that one up? Probably a man! Anyways, I am raising my two sons that when they go out on a date they will be the ones to pay and my two daughters I am teaching them that the man pays when you go out on a date. That is an unsaid rule of dating and courting. I think if a man asks a woman out and expects her to pay he is just being cheap and is not a gentleman at all. Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!

Personally,i don't think it is the obligation to pay everytime and everything for guys.Girls and boys,men and weman are all equal.They work hard to make money.Everytime,my best friends and me have a together,we choose to AA to pay our consume.It is not bad.man pay the bill for one time or once in a while,i think it is necessary,it is grace.No one say that guys have the obligation to pay,but it is gent in my country.But i really don't agree that girls and women pay nothing when they have a date with guys.Girls must be consciousness.For exampel,if have a date with a guys to have a movie,maybe guys go to buy tickets,then girls go to buy some drink or food.It is not good to haggle over every ounce,guys may use more than girls,but not every time and everything.It is really not fair.

If you are in a relationship with someone then it does not matter who is going to pay. I mean, I think it is understood that in this situation who ever can pay should be the one paying. back in my dating days with my husband, most of the time I am the one who shoulder our expenses and I don't mind, and now that we are married I just sit and wait. like now.. he he he pay day so I'll just sit here with open palm.. he he on serious note, if you are on a date I think it is just right that who ever ask out should be the one paying, and in the course of the date the two decided to to more things, I guess it should be the other party or dutch treat.

Personally when i go out with my boyfriend i will offer to help pay, and if he doesn't want me to i don't argue with him. I usually compromise with him and insist he let me pay the tip when we got out to eat. In non serious relationship where someone asks one of their love interests on a date, i feel it is the person who offered the date that should be paying. From my own experiences a lot of men insist that they pay for everything, and i believe this is an ego/pride type of thing.

The man should pay, he must not behave like a gigolo.

Since these days women could be making as much or even more than the man, I feel whomever invites the person out, pays. So If She asks a guy out to dinner, she should pay. If He wants to go to the movies , then he should pay for both the movie ticket and the snacks.

no,not everytime.if i have the money and i want to do something in particular,i'll pay for it if they want to go.but if they ask me out,i will tell them point blank if i am broke-if they still insist,then yes,i expect them to pay for that particular outing. but as far as making a guy pay for everything in general,no,i don't expect it.

When we were dating last time, both of us do not have much to spend. So I don't mind footing part of the bill and I (girl) always offer to do so. I don't insist, sometimes, he seems to appreciate it that I pay part of the bill. I think it depends on how both of you see this issue.

I think both parties should pool in money in whatever they do. Coz that is the rule for friends who like to party out together at all times. Why should only one person burn a hole in the pocket when all others enjoy and have fun?? if you have good friends they would surely understand and not use you for their fun and entertainment. If they dont understand you are better off with them.

call me a asswhole, but i think you should split the bill for the first date.

In this life that crisis arise I think that it would be more appreciated if both parties have to be responsible on taking all the payable by both of them but as a man if I could still handle to have all the payment then why not......

I think it is fair to share the "burden" Especially in light of what is going on throughout the financial world right now. A couple can simply take turns paying, making sure that one doesn't "outdo" the other. Times have changed, some women don't like to feel "needy" when it comes to a relationship, which works well out for the men who may not be able to afford to pay all the time.

Hey skysuccess, You asked a very good question! I think that the man should pay on the first date at least if he is the one doing the asking. If the dating is to continue then I feel it should be mutually shared by both people. But, if as in my case, at the moment I am not working and my bf is then he should pay more than I should. Too bad he is cheap and still wants me to pay for him too!lol That's why in this case we won't be together much longer! I can't deal with a man that has money and won't spend it and expects me to spend what I don't have! I should let him read this post!lol And what's even worse is we live together so you can just imagine what I have to go through!

It seems to me that this is one of those things that shold be argeed upon up front in a relationship. When I was dating paying was the way we could judge how a guy would take care of us. Of course most women didn't work and were supported by their Dad until they were handed off to their husband. I think things are better now. Now men and women look for other things in the relationship and I think that makes for a healthier situation.

It is a matter of preference my friend... Sometimes guys always want to prove more than he can prove by paying every single occasion over girls... and broke. Ups. Well I still here married my beloved wife where we paid equally. Sometimes I paid full, and sometimes when I've no money she pay the bill. It totally depend on circumstance. I can't offer something that I didn't have, can I? Being myself of course my friends always laugh at me. Not to mention my wife friends, as they see me as nothing for good boyfriend. Well here I'm standing with my exgirlfriend (my wife) living happily hopefully forever :).

It just depends on the couple yar. There are some guys who wants to prove to gals that he can afford all the time. Actually something like Ego. If he lets the girl to pay and if his friends knew about this, they will start to tease him. Thats one of the reason why guys are paying the bills. When I was in love, if my partner didn't have enough money, I will give the whole amount that I have to him itself. I will ask him to spend then. I just had a feel that no one should speak ill of him. There are people who speaks ill of those who let gals to pay. I never wanted anyone to speak him like that. So we will do it that way. Everything depends on that couple. Nothing wrong if both of them spends. Happy mylotting.

it is totally unfair that guys pay everytime and for everything. i mean there should be contribution of both the partners. even they have their expenses. girls are not so special that they cant pay. if anyone is doing all this that means the girl is simply passing time with the guy and having fun while enjoying on his money.