Mothers Seperation Anxiety!!!

I feel for you because i had that same situation when i had my first and second baby, i left them with my own mother taking care of them...i missed a lot of things in my babies life...right now i have my third baby, she is just two months old and i have already resigned from work so that i can take care of them all...my joy is so much when i discover new things with my babies..especially the youngest and i even say sorry to my two kids that i left them and was not there for them when they were growing up...now they are the ones that has separation anxiety..they just want to be beside me all the time..they are so afraid that mama will leave them again.

What your're feeling is so normal. I have raised 4. It's always the same. Leaving them is so hard. I remember having to back to work when my oldest was just 6 months old. My parents watched her. She cried every day when I dropped her off and it broke my heart. She was always fine when I picked her up. Mom would tell me she stopped crying 2 mins. after I left. you know what was even worse? The day she didn't cry when I left! My next 2, I did stay home with but I worked babysitting as well as part time at nite when their dad was home to watch them. I also cooked meals for an elderly man and did some sewing on the side for money. I also cleaned apts. for people that had to move and wanted their deposit but didn't want to do the cleaning as well as some finish carpentry work....all of which I could bring my kids along with me for. My 4th child, I worked opposite shift from her father so that she never except on rare occassions had to be with anyone but us. You have many options, hon. If you are going to leave your baby with anyone other than your hubby, then the grandparents are the very best. Kids need that bonding with their grandparents and you can feel good in knowing that you are doing a good thing for your daughter!

ohhh i can totally understand your worries dear, i myself have left my 2 eldest babies in the care of my own mother and when i am at the office my mind is always with them for 10 months now i stopped working because i had been pregnant and now my babies are already 3..the youngest is very dependent to me and she clings to me the whole day...i am actually making up for the lost time that i was away from my babies...i am guilty for leaving them and not being there for them....now they are very happy that we are all together the 4 of us...it is tough but i will manage.