When Dreams Become Nightmares
August 30, 2008 7:59am CST
Have you ever heard the saying: "Becareful what you wish for it may come true?" How many of us have had dreams that have actually come true and turned out to be nightmares, disasters or just great big disappointments. We all dream, sometimes they are impossible dreams, sometimes they are reachable But when you have dreamed for something for a long time, got obsessive about getting what you want, and have screamed, kicked, shouted and got frustrated until that dream suddenly comes true Then you are hit with a sledgehammer because now that dream has come true, all those precious years of waiting, getting upset, being obsessive and now the dream is one big nightmare For example when I was in my teens I desperately wanted a relationship, I never had a true relationship until I was in my mid twenties, I would get upset, beat myself up about it, I wasn't worthy, no one would want me, I would dream that I met someone special, knight in shining armour all that stuff Wishing, dreaming, hoping you name it Then suddenly my dream came true! And then it turned into a nightmare - Now I never want a relationship again! So have you ever had a dream, had it come true only for it to turn into the biggest regret, nightmare or disappointment of your life?
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1 Sep 08
(groan) You remind me of the time I was actually stupid enough to get married!! Then, it was a dream come true. I got into a "true" (what I thought then) relationship in the twenties, and clung to it like a drowning man (or woman in my case) clings to a stick. It led to marriage and the fellow turned out to be a skunk of the first order, and I had to sue for divorce. Ugh!! Dream come true indeed! Some dreams should never come true!! LOL I had a similar experience to yours in the sense I felt unworthy, thought no one wanted me and so on and so forth. But, it is useless feeling that way coz you see, if you are here, then the existence needs you for something. Maybe you have nothing to do or do nothing, still you are precious to the universe. So, there is no need to feel unworthy. At least, those are the lessons I learned the hard way. And, after all, relationships aren't everything!! Cheers and happy mylotting
2 Sep 08
Hi Wolfie, I am glad you liked my post, and thank you so much for the BR. :) Well, the quote you loved so much is only part original. It was lurking in a corner of my mind all along as a simple feeling. So when I saw it put into words for the first time, I was really thrilled. I came across the same idea once in John Milton's poem "On His Blindness." It is a sonnet ( a poem of 14 lines). In this poem, Milton feels unworthy because he is blind and can no longer write poetry, his only passion in life. But then he thinks things over and comes to the conclusion that "they also serve who only stand and wait." Translated into simple English, I guess it means, people who feel they are non achievers, unworthy are also precious to God (aka Universe, Existence) although they do nothing or are unable to do anything. In fact, Milton wrote his greatest work "Paradise Lost and Regained" after he turned blind. The second time I came across the same idea was in the biography of Osho. He was describing enlightenment. And he spoke about how precious each and every thing on earth is for the Universe, about how everything fits in so perfectly in the overall universal plan. Just wanted to give you the sources of the idea. :) Cheers!!
30 Aug 08
So what is the morale of the story? Wolfie, it is that you must be very precise in what you wish for. Don't just wish for ANY relationship. Wish for a GOOD relationship. I love adding all those clauses... like no negative side effects to anyone blah blah blah, for the fat load of crap it might do. LOL
30 Aug 08
Sweetheart never say never , I was lucky enough to meet my knight in shining armour and I am still an old romantic , I still say there is someone just right for you out there , you are a rally nice guy a caring guy and not least of all a gorgeous guy , soo never say never xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
30 Aug 08
I never had it happen to me, but that is because my dream never came true of having a big family and also because I lived with a couple who had four children, and learned how it was to have one, about budgeting and that, sharing and getting along. I also figured what would happen if my other dreams come true and how to handle telling the maids to change the beds and the cooks to prepare the meal to the banquet, and what to do with my time while on that world cruise. How to eat in a foreign country without offending anyone, where to go without getting killed, etc. Plus the other dreams I had. I think it is not that the dream is the disappointment, that now you got what you want and it is a let down, you have to dream as what to do when you get it and recognize that there is more to it then obtaining it.
31 Aug 08
Hi wolfie, Many of us have had dreams that turn into nightmares, especially when we are young, but it doesn't have to be the end. We just have to get up, dust ourselves off, and have a good look at ourselves and the situation. We should all be thankful sometimes that life doesn't give us everything that we think we want. If you are happy now, that is great, if someday you feel that you want another relationship, you will not be going into it with the same attitude as before. Blessings.