Friends and money

Philippines
August 31, 2008 5:53am CST
I lent money to a friend who promised to pay on her next pay check. Unfortunately, I haven't received any single cent on her next pay check. I asked her when she will pay and made another promise but until now, there is not payment made. I had concluded that it is very hard to lend money to your friend. Do you agree that if you lend money to a friend, you will lose both your friend and money? Have you experienced this? What will you do if you are in this situation?
4 responses
• Philippines
13 Sep 08
Given if my friend is a good friend I would definitely lend him/her money with no conditions, pay when able. Some times things get hard and its not easy nowadays. I lend my friend to help him/her. Besides if he or she cannot pay you the Universe will make sure you are paid one way or another. Your friend promised to pay you at a certain time and she never did and if she did this to you many times over I think she doesn't deserve you and never lend her again.
• Philippines
8 Apr 09
I think you're right. Thanks for the response.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
31 Aug 08
If you cherish the friendship, it is better not to lend money. I had a friend for many many years, we did everything together, she was also a former co worker of mine. Things, changed, she got involved with a guy, had a lot of kids, had a job, lost a job etc. I lost touch of her after her house was forclosed. One day, my son told me that she called and gave me a number where I could reach her. I was glad to reunite with her, or so I thought. She told me that she had to move, and had most of the money and was $300.00 short, would I lend it to her. Being that I was so glad to see her, and she was my best friend I agreed. I was going on vacation, so I had extra money, and gave her part of my son's and my vacation spending money. She said she would call me the following Monday. The following Monday, she did call, and said she would pay me the next week. That is the last I have heard from her and that was sixteen years ago. Lending money is not always a good idea, like you said, you lose the money as well as the person.
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• Philippines
5 Sep 08
That's terrible! I just can't imagine they can still sleep after doing this to their friends. I have learned a lesson and now I am too cautious in terms of lending money.
@corngrass (727)
• Malaysia
31 Aug 08
I experienced this situation before too. It's difficult to ask for money from your friend, right? Sometimes when we ask the money from them, they will get mad and come out with those stuff saying we don't even trust them, saying we see money more important than friendship and lots more things. That's why i usually don't lend my money to friends whom i'm not really close with.
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• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Yeah! You are right. It is really hard to please humans. I t is even hard to think if they are really our friends or not.
7 Sep 08
I'm in that situation right now. I have a friend that owes me some money and doesn't even speak about it. It's not a large amount but none the less it should be paid back. I am not going to ask for it. I am leaving it up to this person to pay it back. If they don't then it proves to me that this person isn't a real friend. To ignore the fact they owe me money is very rude. Makes you really think about doing it again in the future. I hope you succeed in getting your money back.