Is it my Biological clock... or what?...
By aseretdd
@aseretdd (13729)
Philippines
August 31, 2008 11:01pm CST
I woke up this morning with a sudden urge to have more babies...
I already have a two year old... and i am already in my early thirties... my husband is working abroad... and will be back early next year... so it is not possible for me to get pregnant right now...
But this made me wonder... why would i want to have another child right now... we are not really in a good financial condition... and i have my hands full with my current job, taking care of a toddler, and all those house chores...
Is this what they meant by a ticking biological clock... a woman would suddenly have that urge/desire to have babies?... have you ever felt this way?... how did you handle it?...
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9 responses
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I do not know if it is the biological clock or just that your baby is growing up and you yearn for another baby. I can see that. I had that yearning a lot. I had two children by the age of 22. I did have my tubes tied so I could not have anymore. I am glad now of that who knows how many children I would have had.
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
That is maybe the case... my daughter is two years old... and i some what missed her first year because i started working less than two months after giving birth... and that work took a lot of my time... good thing i resigned before i missed more time being with her...
Thanks for the response...
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Do you get lonely with your hubby being out of the county working? Do you have extended family around? I hope you have a good support system.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 08
Hello aseretdd,
I do want to have another baby but I never experienced something like this! Maybe you are right. When we think that we are past our 'prime time', we will get a bit worry about thing like this.... As for me, I want to have another baby but at the same time I feel like it is not easy for me to have another one at this moment! But when I think of my age, I do worry whether if I postpone my wish, will I be able to get another one later? Oh, my!
I do want to have another baby but I never experienced something like this! Maybe you are right. When we think that we are past our 'prime time', we will get a bit worry about thing like this.... As for me, I want to have another baby but at the same time I feel like it is not easy for me to have another one at this moment! But when I think of my age, I do worry whether if I postpone my wish, will I be able to get another one later? Oh, my!1 person likes this
@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
You are right... it is so difficult to find a babysitter we can fully trust... i am just glad that i have my in-laws to help me... but they too are getting old and tired... so i will have to think of a way... i am already 33 and i am hoping that before i turn 35... i will give birth to another child...
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
This is my main concern... since we are not getting any younger... and it is common knowledge it is difficult for older women to conceive... and there is a risk in getting pregnant in the late 30's... oh my... i really one to have another baby... maybe next year...
Thanks for the response...
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
9 Sep 08
Hello aseretdd,
I gave birth to my son at 34. I was worried that time as it was my first time. People say it is hard to get pregnant when you reach 30. I am glad I was able to conceive. With my rheumatoid arthritis, I am afraid to try once more. I read a news before about a woman who became paralyze after giving birth. I do want a baby girl (or doesn't matter if it is another boy) so that my son will have an accompany at least, but time is passing. I am 36 this year. If I wait, I am getting older. It is hard to find a trusted babysitter too and to care for a baby is not an easy task. I am a paranoid mother, I can say that! I am worry too that when I get older, I still have small kids to take care of if I keep postponing...
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
i still have not experienced that..right now im just so fed up with small babies..i just had a baby last june so im so busy with kids...maybe when time comes like if im middle 30 or what just now i do not want anymore babies.
@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I am sure that it will take a long time or you won't feel the urge anymore... since already have three kids... but in my case... i am already in my thrities... and i only have one... i hope i can have more... so you are quite lucky to already have three...
Thanks for the response...
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
1 Sep 08
[i]Hi aseretdd,
Maybe, I am not very sure really..I have no kids and I am not desiring to have this time...When I will meet close friends having babies, I do admire them but I haven't tried thinking of having my own yet, maybe I am not emotionally and physically ready but in your case, I guess having an additional one kid will not be a burden financially since your hubby is working abroad, the only difficult thing there is you will raise them alone but there are many successful parents who have tried that!
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
Right now, we still have a lot of debts to pay so even if my husband is working abroad... it is still quite difficult to make ends meet... i am hoping that by next year we would have been able to settle all our financial obligations... so having another child will be okay...
Thanks for the response...
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
25 Sep 08
Well, I think wanting to have a baby is a very natural feeling. I haven't got one yet, but now I'm dying to have one. I certainly hope I can get pregnant sometime this year or next year. The sooner, the better. :-))))
I think it's not late for you to have more kids, esp. since you've had one already. My friend's Mom got married when she was 39 and had one kid when she was 40. Her sister was also the same. So at least you still have time until you're 40 he he he...although perhaps it's better to have another one before then since raising a kid is a tough job. :-))))
GOOD LUCK!!!
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
I am really hoping that by next year i will be pregnant... my daughter will be 3 years old by then... and almost 4 when i give birth... i think it is but natural for women to have this sort of feeling... well, goodluck to the both of us...
Thanks for the response...
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
26 Sep 08
Yes, good luck to both of us then. I also hope by next year I'll have been pregnant he he he...
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I have not had this happen but I can tell you after having my second child, my clock has shut off. You have plenty of time to have another baby and you'll know when you are ready.
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Well, maybe your body knows that you can onlyh handle two kids with the current economic crisis... but having two kids is okay... i would settle for that... i just want my daughter to have a playmate... and someone to share my love with... a baby boy would definitely be perfect... but i would equally love to have another baby girl...
Thanks for the response...
@rsa101 (40976)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
Well it might be or just the hormones kicking in your system to have that urge. Oh well if its not possible then maybe have that urge when there is the means to do it. In your thirties well getting pregnant in that time of your age is indeed going down already. So if you really wanted to have one now is the time but then you'll have to wait for your husband to back of course.
@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
I already talked to my husband about my desire to have another child... and we still have to discuss it when he comes back... i have always wanted to have a lot of children... but i had my first one when in my thirties... it is not yet too late to have more... so by next year... i hope i can get pregnant again...
Thanks for the response...
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Well, grrrl, if it is a biological clock, just roll over and hit the snooze button! No, I have never had an urge or desire to having babies. Probably having to put up with other people's babies at work cured me of that. I don't think we have any such clock, I just think it is peer pressure. We see the commercials and hear other women talk, and really there is a lot of pressure put on women to "want" more children. I really do not think it comes from within us at all.
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I sure hope i can just hit the snooze button... i think this comes from the fact that my daughter is always looking for someone to play with... when her cousing go to school... she is left with her grand parents who cannot keep up with her very active games... aside for that... i have always wanted to have a lot of kids of my own...
Thanks for the response...
@elliottsthebomb (64)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Ahh well I am only 19 and I never really wanted to have kids but as of late it seems to be like a need so I wonder if my biological clock is starting sometimes. My friends always make fun of me but I just want a baby so bad latly.
Anyway hopefully everything works out for you!
@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
But you are only 19... still too young to have kids... there is still a lot of things ahead of you... i started feeling this way when i reached my thirties... so i don't think it is your biological clock...
Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
