i don't know what it is?

@vnp007 (83)
India
September 1, 2008 8:02am CST
i met a girl before a week in college. after we met, i could not stop myself from thinking about her. i have tried a lot but i am not able to forget her everlasting smile, her charishmatic personality and her warm response that i have received. i met her yesterday and told her about this, she simply smiled and told me that she was also having same feelings for me. and to my surprise, she proposed me that she is in love with me. i am confused about this, because i can't express my feelings. what should i do rightnow. is it love or attraction?
4 responses
• Indonesia
1 Sep 08
In my opinion, it's just an attraction, same as her. Love is not just a physical attraction but also related to many factors such as emotional, psychological, and personality attraction. My suggestion is to continue your relationship with her. Physical attraction is a good start to build a relationship and get to know each other, but tell her to slow down a little bit an enjoy this introduction moment you have with her. Hope you'll find the best in her and her in you.
@vnp007 (83)
• India
1 Sep 08
thanks. ya i'll definitely follow your advice. she is a person, i would never like to miss. whenever i meet her, i feel if we were knowing each other from years.
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
we have same experience pal. but in my case it was in my high school.. you know, there are some factors that you should follow before concluding if its love or just an attraction. there are also some circumstances that you would think that is truly a love where infact its just an infatuation.. smiles, physical images and some worldly visions you could see in a certain person.. the term that "nobody is perfect" simply says that the missing piece of that art is in your hand and heart to complete.. and infatuation lasts even for a year or even a decade coz "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" a female's beauty is like a spell on a man's eye.. it can attract a man and put him in sense that would tell his heart "this is love" where in real situation its just an attraction. as a new companion of yours i am not so sharp about it to guide you perfectly.. just remember this quotes of mine for you.. "Love is not just a feeling, but also the biggest responsibility in an individuals life." and "your future is not something that you should wait, but it is something that you should create!".. good day.. --crimson--
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Wow! I'd say it is possible to be in love with someone you've just met. There is that chemical attraction that we sometimes call love. It may just be a physical attraction or it may be the real thing. The problem is that you must know if you both are compatible or not and that takes time. Loving someone and liking them are two different things! If you don't like the person you're in love with, it will never work. TRUE love encompasses a lot of different things. It is attraction, friendship, compatible and unconditional. If I were you, I'd tell her that I was extremely attracted to her but that I need to take it slowly and develop a friendship first. Good luck to you!
@welawai (102)
• Mali
1 Sep 08
Girls are magic and can be fun but when she say she loves you and you respond to her that you love her too(did you do that?), damn better run away from her, because when you love you have no control SHE HAS as well and she doing what she want, not you. Well if you know her just about a week Do you really think it can be something big? Well if you feel it, if YOU like it then it's good but I hoop you will not say that you love her so fast, anyway. Most of girls want attraction not love, they want have some fun have some good f..k. And if you can't express something don't do that. Just do thing good to you. When you think that you think about her too much, do something and stop it ! I have had such a situation like you said and it was stupid from me. I though I have control but I was just dreaming. I though she was nice, hm nicer than me but it was not true. I am the most important in my life in my all kind of relationships in anything I do, because nobody can know me better than I do. If you are confused about a girl just ask you a couple of questions, does she makes ME feel good? does she HONEST with me? Does she good in bed? does she make ME laugh, Can I trust her? Will she not telling MY secrets to her friends? Does she RESPECT ME? when some of this question is NOT don't you think it will be better to go out with other girls,anyway?