Do you tread on eggshells around your loved ones?
By Carl Halling
@CarlHalling (3617)
United Kingdom
September 1, 2008 12:45pm CST
I do sometimes. I love my family, but like everyone else sometimes we don't see eye to eye, and I can't always ensure that my thoughts are as loving as they should be. So, I am shy of eye contact sometimes, not with some family members: with some you can't avoid eye contact, because they are very direct folks. With others, who are cooler about that, you can avoid eye contact, as they are more easy-going: but they can be hurt most I find. Do I pretend to be joly jolly jolly all the time? Or just try to be accepted for who I am, imperfect but well-meaning. I'm a very kind-hearted person, but I can come sometimes across as hard-bitten without meaning to, while at other times I'm jolly and genial: it's all down to mood. How about you? Can you be misunderstood too? Do you sometimes find yourself walking on eggsghells to please? Only to fail to do this?
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I am not into hurting a person's feeling but I am not into acting one way when I feel another. so, I will tell my family how I feel about everything. I will be tactful and if there is a disagreement then the subject can close. But I will tell them how I feel.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
8 Sep 08
I think you're right; honesty is best...mingled with a certain tact.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
9 Sep 08
If you are lucky enough to have a loving family, then you should be able to express your feelings.
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
26 Sep 08
I hold my hands up on this one, for me it's the other side of the coin, I feel my loved ones and immediate family have to walk on eggshells around me! I am not the easiest person to get on with and I do have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and my ex would tell you that I can be a nightmare to live with, my moods are like a rollercoaster, my life is a rollercoaster and I can be up one minute and down the next, if someone says something to me I can take it in many ways. I do find that people affect me. I am very sensitive as well which doesn't help and tend to analyze things far too much!
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
3 Sep 08
There are some situations that I tend to bite my tongue mostly for my Mom's sanity. Most of the time though I'm outspoken and speak my mind. I try not to hurt anyone's feelings and to clarify if there's any misunderstandings so it tends to work out.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
3 Sep 08
I can identify; I have strong opinions, but I am adept at holding back at times. Also, I can smooth things over in the case of misunderstandings. Sometimes though, this is not easy, which is distressing. Thanks for responding...:oD
@Elixiress (3878)
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1 Sep 08
I do not walk on egg shells, because if I did then the resentment for me having to walk on egg shells would just build up and I would get annoyed and it would result in a larger problem. Me and my partner are very open and I tend to not spend much time with my family for us to have any problems. We live in the same house, but we are rarely in the same room.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
1 Sep 08
You seem to have worked out a good arrangement. I do agree that if you can't be yourself, it can be very oppressive. Thanks for responding.
