Are you happily married or not?
By ganda8831
@ganda8831 (816)
Philippines
September 1, 2008 9:00pm CST
My bestfriend called me up last night and she was crying. Apparently, she had a fight with her husband. We talked for a long time and I remember her telling me that even if you're already married, it's not a guarantee that you'll be happy. So I want to know if you're happily married or not? Please be honest with your replies. I would appreciate it.
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9 responses
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
2 Sep 08
Dear, happiness is a state of our mind. We can be feel happy even with small favours done by our partner and if we cannot condition our find, we may not feel happy, even if our partner sacrifes her entire life for you. It is a matter of contentment between partner, if I feel contended with my partner's deeds and gestures, I will say that I am happily married and if I do not want to feel contended I will also crib about one thing or another. Please remember, no body is perfect, everyone has got some positive and negative traits, as well. So we should try to adjust ourselves with our partner with his/her both the traits.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
2 Sep 08
Many thanks for appreciating my response.
You too appear very nice and mature to me.
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
You're definitely right. The problem with some people is that they never are contented with what they have. They always want more. I appreciate the wisdom of your words and I will surely remember them as I go through life.
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@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
yes im happily married..and i think i'm lucky..thanks to my husband who loves me very much..
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
It's nice to hear that. I sure do hope that when i do find the right man, my marriage will be like yours. I appreciate the response.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
3 Oct 08
Im not married yet so may be i dont know the exact thing of what is marriage all about , how would a marriage life be, but by seeing my parents , even though they fight a lot they never hate each others to the core or something , they love each other , they are not showy before us at all and they have bitter moments all most everyday and in that they still found to be loving couples. this is marriage life, you must love your partner and try to love more even when he/she is not understanding you , one day your love will let them understand your heart :)
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I am happily married!! My husband and I just got married last July 5th. Our relationship as bf-gf wasn't easy. We've been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 years. It was tough for both of us that we ended deciding to end the relationship. But here we are!! happy being together. We've been through a lot in our relationship, as in A LOT!!! Knowing each other well like from the tip of each hairs to the tip of the toe is very important! accept and respect each other! being happy together in married life, depends to you and your partner :)
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I'm glad that you're happy and finally you're together. I guess you're really meant for each other because eventhough you went through alot, you still ended up together. That I think is destiny. I hope someday I'll be able to find my destiny. Congratulations on your wedding.
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
2 Sep 08
That is correct there are no guarantees. Marriage takes work and patience. I have been married twice. The first time was bad much arguing and differences in what life is. My second marriage has been great. We have had hard times, don't agree on everything however the things that are most important in life, we totally agree on. So we have been happily married for 23 years. It took work on both parts. I think that one has to pick their battles and not sweat the minor stuff.
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I'm very happy for you. I hope that when I do get married, I wouldnt have plenty of problems. Here in the philippines there's no divorce only annullment of marriage and that's quite expensive, so one should really be sure if he/she wants to get married. It's not easy to get out of it. I'm actually scared of getting married because it entails alot of commitment and hard work which I dont think im ready to do.
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@donn_juan (325)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
my husband and i may have ups and downs in our married life but it sure helps us in getting to know each other and settling our differences. my honest answer is YES, IM HAPPILY MARRIED, thank GOD he gave me THE BEST GIFT he could ever give me. im lucky i have my soulmate and bestfriend for a husband..;o)
@Virgie60 (556)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Yes. Anyway we have been married for 26 years. That is not to say that we don't have our problems and issues though. And there are somedays when I am not particularily happy but then I think we all have days like that. And I still do love the guy even if he does annoy me sometimes.
