i had lunch with my ex boyfriend...

@austere (2814)
Philippines
September 1, 2008 11:39pm CST
well, i just want to share with you guys that i met my ex boyfriend and we had lunch together. i was in the land transportation office to get a duplicate of my license, and by coincidence, i met him there too. he approached me and we talked.. i was happy to meet him and to know that he has no hard feelings for me. he is already married and he has a 3 year old daughter. i have a boyfriend for almost 3 years and happy with my current relationship as well. we are both happy with the relationships that we have with our partners and it's just happy talking about the past without the bitterness or hard feelings.. how about you? have you tried seeing somebody from your past by coincidence? if you were in my shoes, would allow to have lunch with your ex boyfriend?
7 responses
@nvtellan (1907)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I have no problem talking or meeting up with my ex's (or just a select few of my ex's). Now the question is, will it be ok with my wife? :)
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
i definitely know she wouldnt like that.hahaha but it was really unexpected meeting..i mean my x and me... we just talk to say hi hello..and over lunch and talked about what happened to to our childish relationship.hehehe and that was it. we didnt even asked for each others number. not at all.. we dont want to complicate things. we are both happy and secured with our current relationships.
@tatiana07 (498)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
no i haven't talked or seen any of my ex and if i met him by coincidence then i'm gladly to have lunch with him..anyways past is past and im happily married right now..
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
of course.. past is past.. and you are very secured with the happy married life you have, so incase you meet an ex boyfriend, i could just imagine you smiling at that ex boyfriend like saying, thanks for giving me a chance to find somebody better..:) am happy about you and you're being happily married. thanks for the response here and see you around..
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
Like what people always says.. All well that ends well.. It applies to your case. I am very happy for you Both of you have found your own happiness which goes to show that both of you were not right for each other and is just not fated to be together forever. A relationship that ends badly need not be a bad thing. Everybody should learn to let go some point in their lives and instead of feeling bitterness over the breakup, we should be thankful that our past relationships had ended to enable us to find our present happiness. Yours is a classic example of this! I'm really glad for you that both of you were able to interact normally as friends rather than enemies. This goes to show that both of you had sorted out your feelings and had moved on and is not clinging on to the past! Sometimes, I wish that this will happen in my life. Lol. One of my ex-boyfriend had become the custom officer at the Singapore checkpoint and I happened to bump into him while coming back from Malaysia one day. This could be the coincidence that you were talking about. Of course, he was on duty and as a offical government body, they are not allowed to talk to us. Lol, under the pretense of work, he came over and we chatted for a while, and promised to arrange a time whereby we could catch up over a cup of coffee or over lunch or whatever. I am happy to report that there are no longer feelings on both our parts and we are able to talk freely as acquaintance. Of course, I still miss the closeness of him sometimes (whereby we talk every night) but I had learnt to walk away from that. We are not able to get back that closeness we had as friends (Before we got together as a couple) but I am just glad that the friendship can still be salvaged. That is the only one happy story from the numerous ex-boyfriends I have. Other than that, the majority of them just ignores me if we happened to bump into one another on the streets. It's just like we are total strangers! But, that's okay for me as the majority of them had cheated me of my money while we are together. And being the immature them, I still receive messages from them sometimes stating that it serves me right as I broke their hearts. Yeah right And that to the extent of the prank calls I received from them, I was forced to change my number. So would I have lunch with these bunch of jokers? The answer is a definate NO!
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
opps.. i am sorry to hear about those immature ex boyfriends.. well i think i got some of them as well, luckily, i havent has the chance to meet them in many years!LOL.. yep, you're absolutely right while eating lunch together, we talked about his life with his wife and daughter, and my work and boyfriend and it feels good to know that we are both okay and that we have found happiness, maybe not with each other's arms but other people who loves us more and deserves us better. i am just truly happy and relieved that like you, we have "salvaged" the friendship that was clouded by the break up. and we have of course accepted the fact that we are not meant to be.. i didnt ask for his number, he didnt ask for mine, it's just a chit chat and after that we said good bye and "until next time" we dont know when would that be.. or if ever or paths would still cross again.. but i am just happy to have found closure in our relationship.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
2 Sep 08
ts nice way to have. actually in think its the broader view from both of you that made it possible.its good when there are no bitter feelings.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
i believe so too. it's just a hi and hello. we ate at mac donalds and talk about how i am doing with my work and boyfriend, when i am get married and many other things!:) and we talked about his wife and daughter too. nothing really intimate, just chit chat and i went home, he went to the doctor. guess i am just happy and relieved about the fact that i am still friends with him despite us not making it together. we just know we are not for each other and we are fine with that..
@ghing029 (51)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
I haven't talk to my ex before.. and I don't know if I am going to do the same thing as you do.. I am going to think first what my current bf will feel if ever he know that I go out and eat lunch with my ex-bf..
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
well it's not a planned date actually. i just met him while i was getting a duplicate copy of my license and we talked. after i am done with getting a copy of my license, he was done getting the registration for his car. then it's lunch time, so we ate together. nothing really intimate. just talking about the past that we had and how he is doing with his life.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 08
Well if i'm in your shoes i will allow it, because he is already married, but i think i won't allow it, if he is still single ... but what's coincidence you are hehe .. Your ex-boyfriend already married, So when will you get married? :-D hehe kiddin :-P
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
yep.. and i think i really cant find anything wrong with talking with him. we had a happy relationship before we broke up. and it's nice to know that we are still friends. anyway, my ex boyfriend actually asked me the same question! LOL..hehe i am getting married in two years..
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
2 Sep 08
well, like what you said you are both happy with your partners. i think i would do the same. past is past.
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
2 Sep 08
yep, defintely! past is past.. and it just feels good that we have no hard feelings towrds each other despite what happened in the relationship before. i am just glad that he is happy with his life, and i am too with my boyfriend. thanks for the response!