Freedom at Last!!!!
By bellaofchaos
@bellaofchaos (11538)
United States
September 2, 2008 2:39am CST
Well I should be in bed but I can't seem to because I'm so excited. Tomoorrow is my kids first day back to school and this year is going to be a little diffent because for the last nine years I have head a child under my foot running to and fro and asking for something every day all day. LOL!! But finally I'm going to have some long awaited me time. I just don't know what to do with myself tomorrow after they all get on the big yellow bus of salvation. For 9 yrs I have had no peace and no quiet during the day and now the day has finally come .. yay me.!!!
Now to make this a discussion my question to you is when all your children were in school and it was the first time that you had time to your self during the day what did you do?
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23 responses
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Gabs my dear I think your right I'm going to go insane with the quietness after a while LOL!!
@shana123 (2095)
• India
2 Sep 08
Your just like my mom and my sister, my mom was really awaiting for my college to begin.. atleast your kids are small im a grown up teenager and i really dont know in what way im troubling my mom she was so happy as you are now and she said thank GOD your going back to college.. well she is only missing my brother sometimes i feel like i could have stayed in a hostel itself.. just because i'm going to stay with my family for few years im just bearing everything.. my sister has two kids one is a 10 months old baby another is school going kid.. she is so sweet and she used to sit with her book and she is not that naughty silent kinda character i dont know what she does at home ,her mom i.e my sister will be so happy to be at home free without her daughter..
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
It's not that I want to be free, but with five kids I never get alone time for me.. Now with them all at school I get the alone time. It's not that they trouble or bother me because I love them but it's more of I don't have time to relax in the bath tub or to silently sit and read a good book or if I have a migraine I still have to function and run around and be mom and worry about it later. Now I finally have the time to take a nap, catch up on a good book, start to reorganize my house, and finally just if I want to go visit with a friend and go out for a cup of coffee I don't have to worry about taking little ones with me. I can grocery shop with out tiny hand throwing extra in the cart and what not. I love them but now I have time to do some things that were harder to do when they were here. I'm sure your mom was just waiting for down time by herself in the house not that you were troubling her in anyway.. take care and thanks for your response..
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
2 Sep 08
First …congrats on your new found bliss and bliss it is as most of our friends before me vouch for the same. I usually have the Saturdays to myself and yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeee even the household chores are better than the hubby and the kids.
One a more sober mood…I usually do whatever needs to be done like the laundry and dusting and such. Then I go out to get lunch (no cooking) and RELAX the whole day. I have even slept the entire afternoon or read a book or just roamed the streets. I mean it feels so nice not to have to take care of someone and take care of myself for a change
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I miss the last little one of the tribe, but tomorrow I can't wait to think of some just me things to do .. LOL!!!And yes it feels great not to make lunch and snacks and breakfast all the time.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Hallelujah Praise the Lord, you can sing it MOM LMAO I know how you feel! Take a bath, and make a list of all the things you have missed out on, then start going down the list and do them!
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
that is an awesome Idea I'm going to have to start that tomorrow I was kinda worried and lazy today. LOL!!!
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Bella,Congrags,on finally getting some you time. I think that you will find that the time will really fly by so fast, before you know it the little ones will be right back home with you.Get you a big glass of soda,some twisslers,sit back and listen to some of your favorite music..Hey,do not do anything I would not do!!You just may get into trouble with all this time on your hands.LoL.It is so hard for me to remember, my youngest daughter is almost 29 years old, but I know I cried when she went to school, but I was working back then, so I was not home all day with them.Well anyway enjoy your you time..
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
You're right the day went by so fast that I didn't even notice what time it was until now. LOL!! I can't believe how the day started and now it's almost ended only 2 hours til they all come home and want to raid the fridge. LOL!! but I will say that I haven't heard the house this quiet in ages. LOL!! Well I think I'm going to try and grab something to eat since I haven't had to eat all day and now I'm a tad peckish. LOL!!!
@tessah (6617)
• United States
2 Sep 08
heh the first day the sprite got onto the bus and i had some "me time" in years.. i spent the entire day watching the clock waiting for her to come back home LOL and do even now with her beginning 3rd grade this year. mal giggles at me cause i will head outside to wait for her bus to come round the corner a good half hour before its due to show up 
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
He he he .. I think me and you were cut from the same clock even though I got in a nap I'm waiting for about 3:30 when the bus will return home with my little baby LOL!!!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
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2 Sep 08
The day will pass very quickly. You will go in their rooms and shed a silent tear because secretly you miss them a little. Then you will get on with the chores, do the shopping etc. Enjoy a coffee all to yourself. Note the peace and quiet. Maybe have an afternoon nap. Then be swamped by their hugging and kissing as they arrive back from school telling you what a great (or "S'OK") day that they've had.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
your right Pike I put them on the bus this morning and then worried directly after about my last one whixh today was her first day of school and then I took a nap and know I'm thinking about getting somethings done. LOL!!!
@gemini_rose (16264)
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2 Sep 08
It is kind of exciting, yet at the same time extremely sad. I still have my daughter at home for another year yet, then she will go to nursery for just a morning or afternoon.
I have had time alone with kids being in school, but that would be when it was just me and my eldest son and he started school full time, it was horrible. I stood in the playground with my friend and we watched the line of little ones go in and we both just cried. It took a long time to get used to, I hated it.
Then I took on a full time job and so it was not so bad, now though I have four in total so I have never really experienced them all being in school yet, like I say that will start next year. But I have already made plans for that time, I am going to take a GCSE in History!!
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I agree it was kinda exciting but sad. I miss having my noisey little beanie pie asking a thousand times for this and that and then saying I'm hungry and thirsty every five minutes. grrr. I guess I had a routine that I didn't even realize that was so ingrained with her. LOL!!! Well I think starting on wensday I'm going to try and hash out a schedule of what I want to accomplish through out the week LOL!!!!Maybe even go and look for a part time job. LOL!!!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Sep 08
hi bellaofchaos when I got to that point I went back to working
as a nurses aid as we did need the job,my husband was out
on disability so it was up to me to provide some funds for our household.I would still be there when my son got of school so that was great.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I'm thinking that I might go back to work in about a month or so but part time and leave after they get on the bus and be back by the time they get off the bus. LOL!!!
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Well.. first I cried when my little boy went to pre-k. Then I went around the house and yelled at the cat. "Get out of the cookie jar" (of course the cat wasn't in the cookie jar, but I had to yell at somebody ) For the first week, I was lost. When I went to the store, I would freak out because I thought I left my kid in the car.
After that.. I found myself volunteering in their classrooms. I missed the little sh!ts (said lovingly and with affection) more than I cared to admit. When that got old, I got a job.
Enjoy your freedom. Don't feel guilty about enjoying it; you earned it.
Remember... the kids are in school.. not in the car.
@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
2 Sep 08
It has been so long ago for me that I really don't remember. I don't think it made much of a difference, I went back to work.*L* Actually, when my son started school, I thought I had some time left with my daughter, but no! She insisted she needed to go to school like her Bubba. She was two! I did find a pre-school that took toddlers, and enrolled her. Like I said, I went back to work outside the home after that. I had to get up at 4 in the morning, when they were asleep, to get any quiet time.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I was thinking of doing something part time during the day but not sure what I want to do from I would say 10-2. Because that is about the time I have so that I can go to work and come back home. My S/O has told me supposedly that he will be starting 12 hour days from 11am to 11pm yeah lucky me. so I really have to make sure that I'm home by 2:30 so that I can start a snack and get them off the bus at 3:30.
@elaine5004 (84)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Do what I did, go out get a manicure, pedicure, get my hair done and have lunch out at a favorite restaurant. I can't think of a better way to pamper yourself after having to wait nine years. You deserve it. If you still have time to spare, go to a movie, any one will do, just enjoy watching a movie getting to see the whole thing without having to take the kids to the concession stand or restroom. You will be amazed how great you will feel and look. You might even get a date with the husband. I did. lol
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
That great I have been doing online schooling off and on I recently took a break due to money and time issues but maybe it's time to go back.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Ya i think the first couple of days are going to require adjustment LOL.. Then I'll get a pattern down and get some stuff done LOL!!!
@getnbuy (1312)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Congratulations! You have hit a milestone! Relax and enjoy your first few days of freedom. You will think of plenty of things to do. Always save some of that time for YOU because activities always seem to expand to fill the time, if you let them. I am a Grandma now, with no kids at home. I am enjoying it immensely. You are on the path of something big! Free time!
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
3 Sep 08
i don't have a child yet at the moment... so i don't know what to do yet if i have a quiet time without a child for the first time... but i know what to do when i was sick and left all alone by myself while my hubby was working... and what i do is watching TV, surf the internet, reading books, cooking, clean the house and sleeping... that's enough to keep me busy until my hubby comes back from work... take care and have a nice day...
@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I haven't had the pleasure of being in this position yet. I have 2 years to go. But I can't wait. I'll be watching to see what other people do. I can imagine I will just hang out in the quiet house and maybe do some shopping.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I remember those feelings of when my youngest was in school all day. That is only a taste of freedom. The real freedom comes after they all move away from home. Sounds scary but that is real freedom!!!!!!! I never got to party or have me time or fun till then. This is real freedom. What to do? Anything you want!
@steeleIC (107)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Well, I worked outside the home when my son first started school. So, I really didn't get that time that I would've enjoyed so much. When he was in second grade my daughter came along. Last year, when she was in kindergarten, was actually the first time that I had the entire day to myself with no kids for 9 hrs a day, 5 days a week. So, what did I do? I worked! Only this time it was from home and was so much better. I can schedule my own hours and take the day off whenever I choose. My plans are to continue working from home for many years to come so hopefully I will keep enjoying my time away from the kids so much, that I will always be a happy, cheerful mom when they come home.
