Amazing How Early It Starts
By Bytemi
@Bytemi (1553)
United States
September 2, 2008 7:02am CST
I am simply amazed at how early kids now are started to notice differences and making fun of other kids.
My 4 year daughter came home early from her fathers on Saturday and told me that two of her friends told her that she could not come to their birthday party because she was only 4 and they don't want any babies at the 5 year birthday party. (one friend is two months older and the other is 3 days older).
She was very upset and I had a really hard time dropping her off for her first day of Jr. K this morning because she didn't want to see them. How would you handle this situtation. How do you explain to a 4 year old that if that is the way they want to be you don't need them as friends without having them feel like it is there fault?
I don't remember stuff like this happening to me until at least the 3rd or 4th grade and the 6th grade was the worst, Diana Dott, she tortured me everyday, I remember her and the way she made me feel very well.
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3 responses
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
2 Sep 08
It's probably just a stage, they will probably stop, especially if an adult tells them to stop. It's just part of a child's life, getting made fun of, and I think it's horrible that they do it, because I don't really remember ever being like that. It's kind of like eat or be eaten. Eventually she will have to learn to stand up for herself and not let people walk all over her. Try telling her that. Do not start a fight, but always have the right to defend yourself.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
2 Sep 08
Aw that is so sad. 
i think they learn behavior like that from their parents. I have repeatedly told my daughter that she has to be nice with everyone. She did pre-k last year and there was a girl in there who wasn't quite as together as the rest of the kids. My daughter said no one liked her. I said it was fine if she didn't want to be her friend but she was in no way to make fun of this girl or be mean to her. My husbands cousin got beat up in the first grade last year! They hit her and called her names because she was fat. Her parents don't keep her very clean either. I can't believe though that it happened that young. I don't remember noticing that sort of stuff about my classmates till we were older. I think either way your daughter's feelings are going to be hurt. I would just tell her that sometimes kids can be mean and that she should just make friends with kids that are nice. I would also tell her to be nice to other kids and to remember how she feels so that she doesn't make someone else feel that way.
i think they learn behavior like that from their parents. I have repeatedly told my daughter that she has to be nice with everyone. She did pre-k last year and there was a girl in there who wasn't quite as together as the rest of the kids. My daughter said no one liked her. I said it was fine if she didn't want to be her friend but she was in no way to make fun of this girl or be mean to her. My husbands cousin got beat up in the first grade last year! They hit her and called her names because she was fat. Her parents don't keep her very clean either. I can't believe though that it happened that young. I don't remember noticing that sort of stuff about my classmates till we were older. I think either way your daughter's feelings are going to be hurt. I would just tell her that sometimes kids can be mean and that she should just make friends with kids that are nice. I would also tell her to be nice to other kids and to remember how she feels so that she doesn't make someone else feel that way.2 people like this
@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
2 Sep 08
I guess it is young age that is getting me. They are 4 and 5, how do they know to make fun of other kids at this age already. It just seems very very wrong.
Thank you for your comments, I will try telling her to make new friends with the nice kids.
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@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
30 Oct 09
The way I see it, if people are going to be that "exclusive" they are really not the kind of people that I would want to be around, that I would want my kids to be around, or that I would encourage anyone to be around. I would say the same to anyone who asked me about such friends. Get rid of them!!!
