Have you encounter a backstabber?
@sugarhigh0206 (175)
Philippines
September 2, 2008 7:49pm CST
Everywhere in this world there is a people like that. One that says thing behind your back. I hate people like that. Do you hate them also? What is your experience with them? When is the time that you encounter them? Share it with us guys!
3 responses
@ISN777 (9)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
Experienced it lots of times. I hate those kind of people but when you think about it, you should pity them. Either first, they have nothing to do but gossip about other people or second, they are insecure and third, they may be envious of you or that you have a fans club.
I am pretty much a straight forward person and a people's person. I basically like all types of human being because I am facinated by them. The different character, culture, background, etc. I like to observe the different output of the different stimulus in their respective lives. I rarely hate a person but I definitely hate BACK STABBERS. I would only trust them as far as I can throw them.
I do not like back stabbers because you never will know where you stand with them. For me they are not human beings but animals. I hate them with a vengeance. That is why trusting people does not come easy for me. It is easy for me to make friends but to consider a person REAL friend, would take much time. The most hurtful back stabber to exist is when that person is your bestfriend or someone very close to you. That would be the most hurtful part because they know your weaknesses and to where to strike where it hurts most.
I have encountered them at work. People who are envious of your ideas. So learn to be careful with people not only at work but people around you.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
You are definitely right. We can never tell what other people do. And one of the things I hate the most are backstabbers. I have been a victim of such people. I hate them. There was even one that I help all the time, even to the point of providing the guy with financial support. But in the end, he was still backstabbing me just to impress himself on our boss. What a waste of my time, effort and support. Best to you and be careful. But no matter how or what they do, for as long as you are someone who walks straight and good, nobody can put you down!
@ISN777 (9)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
Kuya, it never is a waste of time helping others especially when it comes from the heart. We are not expecting anything in return, right? So if that person you have helped turned against you and stabbed you at the back, it is that person's lost to loose a friend like you. Though I can relate how you felt. They never realize what they are giving up, the support of a friend until they have lost you. It hurts so much being back stabbed by someone close to you. All the effort and love you have poured out to them. You felt drained because you have given everything you have for that person and yet, they sold you out.
Well, I think that's what they meant in saying "unconditional love" for a friend. It hurts but what can we do, we made ourselves susceptible to pain by opening our hearts and caring for someone else. Just think of the joy it gave you when you helped that person. It made you stronger and a better man. Imagine how you have touched that persons life instead. It is no longer important that the said person is ingrate. Usually when we help people out of goodness of our hearts, it has or will cause ripple effects. Maybe when we extend a helping hand, let's focus on what good we can bring to the lives of others and think that no other person did that but you.
I have always known that you have a good heart. I hope that it will not get tired of spreading love and touching lives as you continue your journey.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Yes, the last job that I had, unfortunately I was so called laid off. A friend of mine, who I had worked with at another job really did a number on me. She trained me for the job I was doing. For some reason my boss did not like me, and she loved my so called friend.
Now even though this woman trained me, everything I did per her instructions, the boss questioned why it was done like that. Now mind you before I came the so called friend had been doing it like she trained me for ten years. Instead of her telling the boss that is the way it was done, she did not stand up for me and say that is the way I trained her, she would let the boss treat me like I had done something wrong. Everything this woman trained me on the boss was not satisfied with the way it was done, and had me change the procedure. I guess because it was me and she did not like me. I feel that my ex friend was a back stabber because she would not stand up for me. I eventually got laid off, and this friend has not tried to contact me at all. It has been two months.
If she do call me, I am going to refuse her call, I do not need people like that in my life. That situation has changed my life for the worse, I do not have a job and have not been able to find one and I can not pay my bills as a result of the boss treating me like I was inadequate, because my friend would not stand up and admit that she trained me that way.
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
3 Sep 08
Yes, I have thought of that, because why would everything she taught me not be acceptable since she was doing it that way for ten years.
Yes, and the boss always referred to her as the expect. If I went to the boss to ask a question, she would say go to the expert and see what she says.
I do believe I was set up.
@megaman2000ph (343)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
There are many backstabber in the world. Like I watch it on tv when jim carey says to backstabber ermm... baxter. I've encounter many backstabber in my life, they are good friends at first then suddenly they going to be traitors. Gossipers are considered to be backstabbers, when you approached they don't say anything to you, But if you turn back they stab you.
