my fiance is married!!!!!

Philippines
September 3, 2008 4:09pm CST
i went abroad even it hurts that i'm gonna leave again a boyfriend for the sake of my family's future.. i am the breadwinner of our family. i remembered my xboyfriend when he asked me not to go but i still leave him,that is why he break up with me..it was really painful! he was my firstlove..after 3 years i meet this man my present boyfriend,i did leave him again..but he understands my situation and waited for me. he really makes me happy in his simple ways,specially on that day,when he ask me to marry him.i did not finished my contract,i get back to the philippines so that we could arranged our wedding.everything seems so right then..one night i discoverd that he is maried and had a three children.i can't explain the pain and until now i can't belive it is really happining to me!
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14 responses
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
It is very hard to find out that the one you love lied to you. It is the most painful thing that happen but i believe that everything that happen in our life good or bad. There is a reason why it happen and for sure God intended it to happen because he believe youll learn something from this experience. It is better that you found out at an earlier time that he is married. You still have lots of chance to meet new people and I know for sure God has something instore for you. I know because i've been there before...Look at the brighter side of life. You are not the only person who had experience pain in a relationship. If others surpassed it then you can do it too. I know that at the right time and place. The right person will come. Just be happy with the blessings that you received in your life and start moving on. It is hard at first but eventually that wound in your heart will heal. When the time comes your completely fine you will just laugh over the things that you did in the past. It is not how many times you fall that matters...what matters is the time you rise everytime you fall.
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
i'm sorry to hear that, i could only imagine the pain...that's one of life's odds dear..i hope you will not spend your whole life living with the pain that it brought you..just think about it this way, that things happen for a reason...maybe that is the reason why God let you know what was hidden just before you got married with this man...if you love him then maybe you can try to learn to accept his past..that is if he is not married and was separated with his children's mother..if he is still living with her then drop it, move on and pray to God for the right one to come your way and find you..i know its painful ut you'll see, its not worth the pain when you come to realize someday...God Bless
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
4 Sep 08
wow,i no you was upset iam so sorry this happen to you what was he thinking
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
4 Sep 08
all i can say is why did he ask you to return and marry him???what is wrong with him???i feel sorry for his wife...an innocent woman..to you,,an innocent victim and also his children...
@shana123 (2096)
• India
4 Sep 08
Oh sorry im really sorry for you because you have been so much fooled what did you do the guy who has fooled you? Did you blast him or did you ever show off that you know that he is married? I really get irritated of such males who really hurt the true love.. dont worry dear somewhere GOD has kept your guy who will be so good not cheating like this man.. dont worry GOD BLESS.. keep rocking..
@austere (2814)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
ouched.. that must have hurt really bad.. i could not imagine that happening to me.. good thing you discovered that before you two were married, or could have been more complicated. if you ask me, it's best to talk to that fiance of yours asked him why he did not tell you the truth, why he lied to you, why he asked you to marry him when he is already married. you must have a lot of questions running through your mind right now. just think that it could have been worst.. but you are still blessed to learn that before you two were married. hope you're okay now.. you can recover the pain.. live life.. continue living.. there are still a lot of guys and you deserve better.. happy mylotting and thanks for sharing your story..
@lelebei (16)
• China
4 Sep 08
Despise him and all bad guys just like him ! It's immoral to deceive someone that really love you! This bad guy gave you hurt and a lesson, too! Don't be down, we are women, the first thing we have to do is to love ourself! We should let us be a rubber ball, when there is pressure, we can jump higher!
@magna86 (1787)
• India
4 Sep 08
oh my god!!! thats really horrible!!! did he lie to you then???' if it is so!! then just dont blame your self for it!!it is good that you are away from him now!! just start a new life .. and now try giving importance to your life than others!!! take care of yourself!!! and then look after others!!! so just forget what happened and start a new life!!
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
In every life,in every step we do their is always a trial and tribulations,and in every corner theirs a devil to test your will. I know it hurts to be cheated, believing,hoping always to have the best to come. I think it's your decision now if your going into it and facing the truth. I think also that you need an explanation for what he had done to you.An apology. Maybe he was scared to tell you the truth,just having you,and getting your attention. Men have their ways!It is not yet the end of the world. Your not married to him yet. This pain will make you stronger,the hurts will teach you how to live and grow. In time you will released your anger. Think of your family and they need you more to go on with life to go on. God is with you! Have a nice day!
@jstmarfz (1499)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I am sorry to know about your experience. In other hand, that's good coz you discovered his secret. Anyways, no matter how he hide it you will know it sooner or later. Probably before you two get married coz it will appear on the NSO. That's why they're asking the CENOMAR (Certificate of No Marriage). You are hurt, and that is normal. It will vanish and focus to your family but don't set aside your own happiness.
@jaygee96 (316)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Well, that's a lesson for all the girls. to check the background of your boyfriends or fiance. Good for you that you discovered it.Good luck next time
@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Things are really happening in such an unexplainable ways. But if we will wait, things will fall back on its proper places again. And it is then you will realize why it happens to you on the first place. For everything has always a reason.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
3 Sep 08
Welcome my dear to MYLOT. This is so sad that you was deceived but these males species that are on earth is conniving and deceiving. I have read this experience that you have shared a number of time in our daily newspaper where the males tell hide their other family. My advice to you is to just take it as an experience and move on with your life. The next time someone propose to enter into an relationship with you just investigate him out. There is a saying here in my native country Once Bitten Twice Shy. It is sad but put on that armour of steel and dignity and move on with your life. Hug and kisses. Kerry
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
3 Sep 08
wow its really sad my dear fellow pinoys who heard such stories here.. anyway that's life... even thought it is so hurtful but still don't forget that you have a family that needs you.. break with that guy and go on with your life as we will find a better man that will love you and most of all very much single w/ no obligations at all. good luck bianca to your life and to your career..