Are friends hard to find?

United States
September 3, 2008 7:51pm CST
I used to have so many friends I had to choose who to hang out with. Since I've gotten married, had children friends are very few. Have you found the older you get/as your life changes you tend to loose some of your close friends? Do you ever find other great friends in the same stages of life?
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@cjfoust (614)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I have found the same. There is only one girl I went through school with that I still talk to. We first met in the third grade. She is like a second sister to me, and I hope that never changes!
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@lanlan011 (701)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Now that I'm getting older I am starting to lose touch with some of my old friends. I feel that if It were meant for them to be in my life, then they would still be in my life. I have made new friends now and I dont plan on reconnecting with my old ones. Its hard to find a TRUE friend. I try not to call everyone my friend because I wonder if they'll be friends with me through thick and thin. I think its hard to find a TRUE friend.
• United States
4 Sep 08
ya know... I made contact recently with someone who I used to think we would never be out of touch. After 6 years of not talking we stayed in touch for about 2 months and now I haven't seen him in a couple of months and only talked to him on the phone like twice. Its funny how things work out and sometimes I guess you have to step away from some of these people like you can't see the forest because of the trees.
• United States
4 Sep 08
I have found that the older I get, the more I relize that the people I used to see as good friends, never were much of a friend at all. I know ALOT of people, but I have very few TRUE friends. I had just thought about this recently when I was trying to decide who I wanted to be my groomsmen and best man in my wedding. I got to thinking and had some difficulty trying to come up with enough people for my wedding party. I needed 5 and 2 of them ended up being family. I think we are just at a time that everyone is out for themself and don't worry too much about anyone else. I'm lucky to have the friends that I do have. You never know what direction your life is going to take you. You make friends through work and social gatherings like church or maybe a fire dept. I have friends now at church, that 10 years ago were just short of being enemies, and I have alot of friends on the fire department and sheriff's department that I would trust my life with. I consider them my extended family and would walk through hell for most of them. I know they'd do the same for me so maybe I don't have it so bad after all.
• United States
4 Sep 08
Yeah I realized that some people weren't my real friends. I know alot of people but I dont consider alot of people friends. Im fine just like that because I dont need a ton of friends as long as I have that close circle. Its great to know alot of people but its good to have that close circle of friends.
• United States
9 Sep 08
I am totally with you on this... I had the same problem.. i would have to choose between who to hang out with... now a days im lucky if any of my married with kids friends want to hang out. We are homebodies anyways but sometimes you just want to be around your friends... I also find that as i have gotten older i have tended to drift away from alot of my friends from high school and such... our interest have just gotten to far away from each other... but you know i have found some great new friends through mommy groups and just putting myself back out there ... it just takes a little longer since you now know what to look for.... i guess im lucky to in a sense that i work so i have coworkers to talk to and such...
• United States
8 Sep 08
well for me definitely. I probably need to try a little harder and then im sure ill probably get more freinds than i have now. I just never feel always tryin to start it.
• United States
5 Sep 08
As you get other.. you might or will tend to lose friends, thats why there is always time to make new ones no matter how old you are.
@chai37 (142)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I know what you mean, I lost touch with my high school friends long ago, but i was surprised when a close friend of mine from high school found me in friendster. You know, friends are really not that hard to find it's opening up to new people that's hard. If you're easy going you'll attract more friends in no time.
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
For me it's not really hard in finding frineds. Just be yourself and always be friendly to others. Simply, that's it.
@eagle_f15 (2052)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 08
For my case, I would say its not hard to find friends but because we are married (most of my friends are) we have priorities like spending time at home with children and spouse. But I have close and good friends whom we don't meet up or keep in touch that often but if should an urgent important need arise to ask for help, we would zoom in and help (according to our availabilty). But most of us keep in touch through msn because to gather together and have a chat outside our homes is quite difficult as all our schedules are so tight. When one is free the other is not. My friends and I have been talking about having a class re union for years but it has never surface that's because of time and busy schedule. We had a real mini micro one this year. Email was sent out to all that we contact with bu ton the real day, there were only 5 of us who turned up. We still had fun talking about old times and how we are getting along now. So msn is better for us.
4 Sep 08
friends are hard to find when ur married and or have kids. i guess cuz they figure u have enough people in ur life and they dont want to cramp ur life by being around. some people dont understand that even tho ur married and or have kids u need a night out too or jus a break.
@morgandrake (2136)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Periodically, in my life, I tend to lose friends. I lost a bunch when I entered the lodge system; fortunately, I gained some at the same time. A couple of years ago, I lost some of my oldest friends when I started to go to college---they didn't see why I felt it was necessary to go to college. I have lost many of my "writing friends" as I became an actual freelance writer (several of them were still in the stage of just dreaming about getting a big break, and did not want to work at it). In the end, some come and some go; I have gotten used to the fact that as my life changes, so does the stable of my friends.