Would you stay if your loved onel begged you to stay?

@Jenaisle (3803)
Philippines
September 4, 2008 1:12am CST
You have this relationship and you love him so much, but he's been hurting you several times. (No third party involved). Would you stay if he begs you to stay and give the relationship another chance? Forgiving is a grace, and why not forgive a person whom you love so much? You both still love each other. You can forgive your friends , why not him? Would you stay?
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@klaudine (3651)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 08
How does he hurt you? If he did small mistakes, by being ignorance or too insensitive I think it is okay to give him the second chance, especially when there's no third party involved. But if he has been abusive, verbally or physically, you don't have to do that. Yeah, you love him, but by letting yourself getting abused means you don't love yourself. Love yourself first by giving a chance to yourself to be happy. And after that you can give him a second chance, seeing if he has changed or not. If he's not, leave before everything get worse
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Thanks for that invaluable advise. They are very enlightening. I agree with what you said. Indeed , they are very true. More power to you.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Point well taken, yes both sides should be considered. Thanks for your responses. All the best.
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@klaudine (3651)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 09
Another BR from you jenaisle? Thank you very much. I really appreciate this. *hugs*
• India
11 Jan 09
i would surely give him a second chance .as he is my loved one.but i will see to that he doesn't repeat it next time .once i have experienced this situation when i was doing my engineering.one of my friends started teasing me and it continued for a month.i beared for the sake of friendship . but one i broke up with him.he said sorry to me said that he will not repeat it again.till now we are good friend,,,happy myloting and have a enjoyable weekend.....
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
That was some experience. You too, have a happy weekend. Cheers.
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
10 Jan 09
Your partner shouldnt need to beg you for anything and if my relationship was that bad that they needed to beg then I think it is time to say goodbye!
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
How right you are. Thanks for that vital input. Happy mylotting.
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
4 Sep 08
no. i don't think i could continually turn the other cheek. if he's hurt you several times, why does he do this? is he a mean person? immature? of course, i don't see where he has hurt you physically. if it was physical, no, NO WAY ! it's totally up to you, of course. but, the time will come when it's the last straw. it's not always about how much you love him. it's about how much he loves you....and the actions he shows you.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
These are unintentional. The perception gets the better of the other person. Like when he comes home late, because of a meeting - when it was your birthday..etc..perhaps understanding should be in place. Thanks for your organized analysis of the situation. All the best.
• United States
4 Sep 08
i would stay since you do love him so much.i would forgive him one more time and let him know you mean it that if he hurts you again you can't stay.i mean if he truely does love you he won't want to hurt you but sometimes people make mistakes.i hope things get better and work out for you.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
You're right. Sometimes we hurt the person we love unknowingly or unintentionally. We cannot be hurt by people we don't care about. Thanks for your significant contribution. Happy mylotting.
@medicguy (307)
• Pakistan
4 Sep 08
Yes, we all should give someone a chance. We are bound to make mistakes, it is this characteristic that makes us humans. As long as if both the partners love each other, they should learn to tolerate their partner's shortcomings as well in order to establish a healthy, long-lasting relationship. Forgiveness is the best attribute one can possess.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Wow, full of wisdom. I like what you said about "forgiveness being the best attribute that one can possess". Indeed, both partners should have a forgiving heart because no one is perfect. Thanks for that vital contribution. All the best.
@magna86 (1787)
• India
4 Sep 08
when we both love each other so much then i would give him one final chance!! any person for that matter!! if he /she feels and realises his/her mistakes then it is ok to give them another chance!!
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Touche' , thanks for that vital input. I totally agree. All the best.
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
well it depends on the situation but if she cheated on me why would i stay?
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
Yes, of course, cheating would be very hard to overcome. But if the reason is not cheating, then the person should have a second chance. Thanks for participating.