Different Name... Different Life...

@aseretdd (13731)
Philippines
September 4, 2008 1:53am CST
I wonder... If my life right now would be different if i was given a differnt name... or will it still be the same... My parents were suppose to name me April... because i was born in that month... but my paternal grandmother insisted that i be given the name of a saint... my grandmother won... now i wonder... can our name influence the life we led... or the life that we have righ now?... What do you think?
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@Shaun72 (15964)
• Palatka, Florida
4 Sep 08
That souns like me my name was suppose to be Deanna but my mother decided when I was born to name me Shaunee. It a alright name there is a actress named Shawnee Smith. There have been lots of times I ished I had a different name at the same time everyone knows me as Shaunee or Shaun.
@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
I like the name Shaunee... because it sounds fun and is quite unique... and Deanna is a common name... so i think your mother made the right decision in giving you Shaunee... here in my country... Shaun is a male name... so i first thought you were male... Thanks for the response...
@Shaun72 (15964)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Sep 08
That is understandable I just shortened my name here in mylot because a lot of people call me Shaun as a nick name. Here in The United States there are a lot of males and females that go by the name Shaun or Shawn or Sean. I went to school with a few girls that went by these names.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
I had several male students with that name too... but the spelling is mostly SEAN rather than Shaun... and it is only now that i learned that the female version of that name is Shaunee... sound very nice...
• United States
5 Sep 08
Interesting topic. Simply put, my parents already had three boys. When it was my time, they were of course hoping for a girl. Well, much to their short disappointment, I showed up as a male. My name was supposed to be Davida, so, for my parents, it was not difficult to make the change to David, being named for my grandfather on my father's side of the family. When I tell this story, sometimes my friends like to return the 'a' to the end of my name.
@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Good thing the female name was not that difficult to change a male one... if would have been difficult if they intended to name you Chloe or Lavinia... from my own experience... it is so difficult to think or choose an appropriate name for my daughter... so you are quite lucky in that aspect... Thanks for the response...
• United States
10 Sep 08
Yeah, lucky me. Fortunately, I do not tell this story to everyone. Some of my friends like to refer to me as Davida and then I tell them the story. Talk about the 'ol foot in mouth disease! LOL. Obviously, a great discussion. Thanks.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Thank you for appreciating this discussion... being called Davida is not at all that bad...
• United States
14 Sep 08
I think your name can influence your life to a slight degree. I think if a person is named a name that they get teased about then they will become a different person then if they do not get teased by their name. My maiden name was Vickers, now I was called Vicks vapor rub, cough drop, and other vicks product. I think that influenced me on my self esteem. I treat people differently because of my name. I have a twin, my name is one letter off of her name, we do not look alike but no one ever tried to get my name right. I try to pronounce peoples names right and use to get mad at people I worked with when they did not even try to get a patient's name right. Yes I am a different person because of my name.
@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
15 Sep 08
Well, that is so true... i know of some kids who were teased throughtout their childhood... and some grew up very shy... while others were quite bitter... so the name can also affect one's life or future... it is just sad that you had to go through that when you were young... Thanks for the response...
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• United States
20 Sep 08
Your welcome
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@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
yes i believe that our name somehow can influence the of our life...like me..my name is iraida..which is very foreign and far away sounding name...people find it hard to remember my name, find it hard to say it...maybe that is why i am aloof and just like to be left alone most of the time because i hate to introduce myself to other people because of my name.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Your name is really quite foreign sounding... and difficult to pronounce... what does it mean?... and what prompted your parents to give you that name... but have such a name can be an advantage... because it is so unique... and i don't think people will easily forget that... Thanks for the response...
@adoremay (2065)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I believe my name has nothing to do with what is happening in my life right now and even to my future.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
That is a pretty strong conviction... a lot of those who responded to this discussion feel the same way... Thanks for the response...
@youless (105076)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Sep 08
April is a lovely and special name. There is a candidate called April in America's Next Top Model:) I think our names won't have a big difference on our life. After all, it's a name. If a name can give anybody a successful life, then I am afraid all the people will have the same name:) I love China
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I remember that candidate in America's Next Top Model... but i don't think she won... and i agree with you... if name is a major factor in the success of one's life... then a lot of people would have the same name... and that in not really a good thing... Thanks for the response...
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
5 Sep 08
we i think you are who you are thats just like saying what if i was born a different color will my life be different.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Skin color is so different from the name we have... because we can actually change our name through a legal process... but changing skin color is a totally different thing... close to impossible... Thanks for the response...
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 08
Hello aseretdd, I am not sure about this. I just saw a discussion about how name can show your personality. I was supposed to have a different name too when I was born but ended up with my name instead Name plays an important role in our life as people can easily recognize us if they know our name. But, I don't think it can really influence who you would be... I wished to have a different name before but now, even if I have a second chance, I still want to have the same name...
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I feel the same way... when i was younger... i wished i had a different name... something more elegant or unique... but now, i have come to appreciate my name... and if i am to live again... i would still choose my current name... Thanks for the response...
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• India
5 Sep 08
i think definately different people will have different name and all of them having different life......so name and life is not the same according to me what do u feel about this .name doesnot matter for all the factors
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
There are indeed a lot of factors that affect our life... and our name is just a small one... so i think it is definitely the choices we make in life that matters... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
@LittleMel (14033)
• Canada
5 Sep 08
no I don't think so. It's not my name that affects my life, it's the choice that I make, it goes for all of us. The choice we make will affect each other's lives. If parents do not make the right choice when raising their children then these children grow up becoming criminal and so on. When they get older they may realize they can make the choice to be good, but it will take them time to get to that point because when their mind is young they were not taught what they supposed to learn. It's not easy to make the right choice, but name is not why we live the life we have now or any time in the past or future.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Parents do play a huge part in how kids will turn up into adults... and the choices we make are also a part of how our future will be... but certain aspects are affected by our name too... and that can make a difference... depending on how we let it affect our lives... Thanks for the response...
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
4 Sep 08
The name is not likely to make a difference because its still the same you. People tend to think a different this or that can change their lives and forget its still them and their own character there to deal with. The real cause is the character and not the name or anything. If you tried praying like the saint nd doing less to cause yourself trouble things might be better. Prayer and God do make a big difference. The saint knew that and so became one.
@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
My religion teacher once said that we are all candidates to be a saint... it is up to us if we want to be one... so no matter what our name is... if we live a life like Christ did... we will eventually become a saint in our own right... but in my... i don't think that will happen... Thanks for the response...
@texmama (62)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Ohh yeah... My given name was absolutely a horrible name. I won't even post it here! I was teased mercilessly and changed it legally when I was old enough to do so. I definately think I would have had a different childhood if I had had an acceptable name.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Children can be mean at times... and i am so sad that you had to be a victim of teasing just because you had an odd name... good thing you were able to change it legally... and you were able to move on with your life... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy your stay here...
4 Sep 08
You'll be amazed to know how much your name can influence your life. Parents sometime give the strangest name to their kid not knowing that it can have serious repercussions. I hope your name hasn't made your life difficult, if it did, you could change it for something else. Good luck...
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
My name did not make my life difficult because it sound really nice and a lot of saints and great people have my name... so i did not really think of changing it... but i just wonder if i was name April... if my live would be the same... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
4 Sep 08
[i]Hi aseretdd, Hmmm....maybe we will have the same life..I am not sure either..LOL! But, the personality and attitude would be the same so most probably, it will still bring us to what we are right now because of the same traits...ANyway, I am also open for a contrary opinion..LOL! It's nice to talk about! I have also that saint name which was insisted by my Grandma during my baptismal and they added it to my name, when I enrolled COllege, I had to remove it since it was not part of my name in my original BC![/i]
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
We have the same experience... during my baptismal... i have the Maria name... but that is not in my original Birth Certificate... so i stop using it when i reached high school... there were suppose to be three Marias in my family... now... there are only two... Thanks for the response...
• China
4 Sep 08
Hi there! Well, I don't really feel the name would be so powerful. Only when I hear extremely strange names would I sympathize them. For example, one of my friends' friend's name sounds really like SPERM in Chinese. i just can't imagine how could SHE survive this, especially in traditional China. And I also believe if she could survive this, she could survive anything else in this world. So, don't deny yourself for a name, it's probably only a tag in your life. Good day!
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Oh my... sperm for a name is not a very nice one... she would be the object of a lot of jokes among her friends and collegues... but like you said... is she survives all those nice and not so nice jokes... she would be a very strong person... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
@nengs10 (3183)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
My name would also be different. My father has a different name in mind for me. It was not realized because he was away the time I was given my name. I think, there's nothing new actually if my name will be changed. I'm not also sure if there would be influences in it.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Too bad your father was not able to give you your name... but if you were to choose... do like your current name... or the one that you father should have given?... Thanks for the response...
@subha12 (18449)
• India
4 Sep 08
I am not quite sure in this fact whether a name can truly influence the life. atleast totally. i never liked my name. But i think having a nice name makes some changes in life. But there is saying that a name is name. by whatever nmae you call arose, it will be rose.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
That is a nice saying... "Whatever name you call a rose... it will always be a rose"... this is the first time that i have ever heard or read that quote... it kinda say that whatever your name is... you will always be who you are... Thanks for the response...
@sacmom (14249)
• United States
4 Sep 08
Hmm, I don't know. However I would have to guess it wouldn't make much of a difference, if any, so long as the name wasn't something drastically different where it might have caused issues for someone. My parents planned to name me Kathleen June, because I was due in June. But I ended up being born in July instead so they named me something else. This name was still common enough so I didn't have any issues with my name growing up, other than it being a little plain. LOL
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
My name is also quite plain and very old fashion... if i were made to choose then... i would have chosen the name April... because i have never met a person with that name so... i think it is quite unique... but as time passed by... i came to love my given name... because a lot of great people have the same name as mine... Thanks for the response...
• China
4 Sep 08
People will be influenced by themselves. The name is just a signal, but the more important thing is that what is the good wishes for the given-named person. We don't have a chance to select our names when we are just babies. Of course we can do when we grown up. But for myself, I will keep the name. Because it is a very cherish memory and it will never happen again. My grandfater named me when I was born but he is passed away now.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
My grandmother who named me passed away 10 years ago... and i do appreciate the name she gave me... but i just wonder if my life would be different if my parent stood their ground and gave me a different name... will there be a great difference... or only a slight one... Thanks for the response... welcome to mylot and i hope you enjoy every minute of your stay here...
@drannhh (15237)
• United States
4 Sep 08
I am pretty sure that if I had kept the name my parents gave me I would be nowhere today. There was a huge battle in the family when I was named with some wanting one horrid name and others wanting another. So when I got old enough, I just changed mine to what I wanted it to be. Now that is who I am. I don't even know that other person. I don't know why people keep names they don't like.
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@aseretdd (13731)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
It is good you were able to change your name to that one that suits you... i thought of doing that... but changed my mind because of the difficult process... red tape is so rampant in my country... and in the long run... i learned to love the name that i have... a lot of great people in the word has the same name as mine... so i guess it's okay... Thanks for the response.