How are you as......HUSBAND/WIFE?

@dong1970 (1573)
Philippines
September 4, 2008 7:47am CST
Marriage is a lifetime commitment,Each individual has a unique personality in dealing with their partners.In my opinion,I'm trying to be a good,responsible,loving husband.We are not perfect sometimes we do mistakes that hurts our partner.The most important thing in a relationship is if GOD is the center of it.GOD provides us a good,loving and responsible partner
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27 responses
• India
4 Sep 08
Your views are valuable I think in Indian society. in the western society the culture is different and they take the marriage as casual as mere meet and gone. In our. I am itself is a respected husband and my married life is so sweet that I do not want to remain out from my family until it is unavoidable. I am living a lovable life at my home and we are happy a lot. No doubt there are mistakes but these can be ratified also. Have a nice day and comment also.
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@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Sep 08
sweethomecatring you are wrong not all of us in western societyh take marriage as casual, most of us are true to our mates and stay married. so please do not be unfair here. some not all of us.
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@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
4 Sep 08
[i]HI dong, I agree with you! It is very inspiring and motivating when we out God as the center of our relationship , any type of relationship! We are fresh in this marriage life and there are many challenges really, we appreciate that both of us are open and willing to resolve it right away, once there is love and trust, things aren't hard to fix! As a wife, I am trying my very best to be a great wife to my husband and overcoming my flaws also isn't easy but I know with him, I can do it![/i]
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• Philippines
5 Sep 08
ive just get married this year, barely 5 months of having my own family with me being a wife and a mother.. im at the stage of coping this change in my life and making my best to go through with it.. i can say its kinda hard having a husband to give all his needs and a child to take care with but it is one of the best transitional change ive had experienced.. my life is not perfect but im contented especially when i see my husband happy with me.. maybe i will not be the most wonderful wife and mother to the world but for my husband and child "I AM!"
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• India
5 Sep 08
every relationship takes its own time to settle and bloom !! enjoy the journey!!
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@poona_m (336)
• India
4 Sep 08
I believe I am successful at my attempts of being a good wife. My husband seems to be very happy with me. We have known each other for 13 years before we decided to marry a year and a half ago. That has helped me in becoming a good wife. having known each other for so long really helps as we know each others likes and dislikes, understanding each others priorities etc. My husband loves eating and I love cooking. That has really worked for us as we compliment each other. Also his passion to make our relationship the best ever makes me love him all the more. There are things about us that is exactly opposite to each other but in our case it really works on the principle of "opposites attract". I am a house wife and a stay at home mom. I take good care of the house and my kid. A good caregiver and house keeper I believe my husbands loves coming back to home after work and when I welcome him with my home made recipes he just loves it. Like any good wife I give him lots of love and more than that respect. A healthy baby is the proof of how happy family we are.
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• South Korea
4 Sep 08
this is just too beautiful...iv liked someone for a while, but find it a one sided love...was wondering what your situation is like , and also another girl i'v like have feelings for her for the past 5 years...but i don't feel ready for suchand find it hard talking with them. one of the two, it's so painful.
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@icegermany (2524)
• India
4 Sep 08
me and my husband are really very happy. thats true that god should provide us a good partner and i am in one of the lucky ones and i am really very happy with my husband. i always wanted a loyal husband and i have got one and he is really good in character, nature and attitude. sometimes when i get angry i yell but in case of my husband he will never do that and this kind of small things tends me to think that i am really lucky and i feel that comparing to my husband i am a bit bad and really dont have patience and i react for small things. there were problems sometimes between us due to our other family member thats my inlaws, it usually happens when we r with my inlaws they always create something and by gods grace we are alone in germany for 3 yrs and we are happy enough and i am really worried once i go back i need to stay with my inlaws and they always create some problems between me and my husband. you will not believe when we go for a short time in a vacation to our place they even dont leave this oppurtunity and they create some mess and i really hesitate going to my inlaws place.
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• South Korea
4 Sep 08
i admire your husband and the story is touching, well every marriage is perfect with a little deviations...no marriage has no deviations i am sure of , like the external matters(inlaws) will always be an issue in every marriage
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@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I think your wife is lucky to have you. You try to be a 'good, responsible and loving' husband. That's great! In looking for a partner, you should also ask God for it. Ask Him to give you someone that fits you, someone you could love unconditionally and someone you could live for the rest of your life or someone you want to grow old with. Good day and let God be always on your life!
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@rainmark (4302)
4 Sep 08
As a wife i do my best to be a good and responsible wife, except being moody,coz my husband always teasing me and making fun on me, sometimes we look like kids, I do look after our baby 24/7 that's fulltime, until he get bigger so i can find a job,i make sure the house is clean and smell nice,provide his needs in and out:)happy myloting.cheers!
• United States
5 Sep 08
My husband and I have been married for 36 years as of August 20th. Listening to each other and discussing issues are a important part of a relationship. Supporting each other when things come up is also important. I have had a lot of surgeries over the years and my husband has always stood by me. I am a bit moody but for the most part I try to be in a good mood. I take care of making my husbands meals and fix his coffee for him. I also fix up his meal for him to take to work.
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• India
5 Sep 08
It's indeed nice to have a relationship on solid trust and patience.
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• Philippines
5 Sep 08
Hi There Sunshinelady, I'm really impress with how long have you been married. :) Congratulations. I hope you will have more wedding anniversaries to come. You are a model for us new couples. :)
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@nini89 (670)
• India
8 Sep 08
Yes marriage is lifetime commitment but every couple doesnot commit it. In my life I was a good wife and my husband was a good husband. But he GOD in between did not allow us to be a life time commitment as my husband had gone for heavenly aboard of 29th May 2008 due to cardiac attack. I could not save him, now i and my two children without my loved one wander in the night for his love. I can make out his presence. But we cannot see. All about faith and i leave it to GOD. Have a nice day and mylotting.
@ayessa (1584)
• Philippines
7 Sep 08
As a wife I was trying to do my best to give what my husband needs. Though sometimes I am not that good in performing some of the duties of a very good wife I think it just one way to tell us that it was one of our human nature to not to be a perfect one to our partner but I can say that even I am not a perfect wife I am a good partner to my husband and not just as a wife but also as a good friend of him.
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@bellis716 (4804)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Amen. I can't add anything to that. Leaving God out is the root of the world's problems.
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@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Both for my husband and myself this is our second marriage. Both of our first marriages ended after becoming quite unhappy. We have both agreed that finding one another was "serendipity" and that we would both go through a miserable marriage again if it meant finding each other. We have also said that the whole goal of our marriage is to make sure the other is happy and always feels loved...once you don't have that then there really is no point to being married. I know alot of people stay married because of their children but we both divorced with small children and they are all much happier now and our relationships with our exes are actually quite civil.
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• Pakistan
5 Sep 08
mmm.. i think m not that good.. coz i tend to be very egoistic... my ego overcomes my love... and i hate responsibilities... altough m still not living with my husband, i will be living with him in oct.. still i am afraid of responsibilities attached to this realtion.... plus i have another very bad habbit.. i can not express my feelings to him in words... its reallly difficult for me... i think i can not be a good wife
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• Philippines
5 Sep 08
As a wife i can say that i'm not perfect but i'm trying to do good as much as possible. I am lucky because my husband is much understanding with my mood swings. I trying to be the good wife i am now because in a few months, i'll have another role in the family - that is to be a mother. Happy mylotting to you! :)
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• India
5 Sep 08
indeed i agree on this ..!!:))
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@salonga (27819)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I am committed to my marriage and so is my husband. We are both Christians and hence we built a Christian home where Jesus is the center. This is the key to our strong relationship. Yes it is no doubt that we love each other that's why we entered into marriage that bonded us and made us one flesh. But without God in the center of our life, this love could possibly fade through the years or be tainted with unfaithfulness due to temptations around. But we both fear God and this holds us closer together. We both respect each other and our faithfulness remains. We have deep reverence to God and so we adhere to His words and this is the light the keeps us walking in the right path of life. During trials we always lean on God and His love is always there to see us throught. God is the stronghold in our relationship and I praise Him for this.
• Canada
5 Sep 08
I don't know how I would consider myself to be . I would like to think that I am a good wife but I have been depressed for awhile and I am sure this takes quite a toll on my husband and then feel bad that I am not being there for him when I should because I am so involved in how I feel that I can't often be there to see how he is doing . Although I believe in God , my husband doesn't and although I love God , I am not quite sure how I feel anymore . I have been going through a really tough time in my life and have prayed to God but have got so discouraged with life and although I believe God does exist , I don't believe anymore that he is there to help us through each day but more that he will be there for us when we leave this place we are in .
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@sharra1 (6341)
• Australia
5 Sep 08
I agree. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and it can be hard for two people to learn to live together no matter how much they love each other. Marriage is about learning to live together, to share your lives and also to allow the other person the space they need to adjust to this. No matter how much you love your partner, there are times when you make mistakes and cause pain. The only way to deal with these times is to have the courage to sit down and talk about what happened and why it happened. Communication is the vital key to making the relationship work. I have a wonderful, loving partner but we are very different people. I have learned that sometimes the simplest of misunderstandings can cause pain and division if you do not talk about them. More than once I have been hurt by something my partner said because I interpreted it to mean something that he did not intend. It is not hard to do but if you talk about it and discover that what was said did not mean what you thought it to mean then the problem is defused. If you don't talk about it then all these little things can add up and drive a wedge between you that just gets bigger all the time. We are not perfect and we would not want to be but with communication and togetherness we can solve lots of the little problems that can cause relationships to unravel.
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@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Sep 08
We both blew it in a big way and we are currently trying to repair what may not be fixable.
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@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
5 Sep 08
Hi friend,Both myself and my husband are responsible,loving and caring for each other and the family.We too have misunderstandings and fights often but it lasts only for sometime,we both forget and interact as usual normaly.Thanks for sharing.Happy mylotting.
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