how do you discipline you child?

I'm like you. If my child is told to do something or not to do something and she disobeys, I tell her again. If she still disobeys, she sits on the stairs and looks at the wall. Usually that works just fine but in some rare instances when she wants to be totally defiant, she will be brought up to her room with a little slap on the behind and told to stair at the ceiling. She know's that when she goes to her room, she's really in trouble and she'll be in there for a good 15 minutes. She hates that. At least on the stairs, she's off in 5 minutes. When she has finally settled down, I go over and ask her what she did wrong, then I ask her what she could have done or said to keep herself from being in trouble. Once we talk about the situation, I give her a big hug and a kiss and tell her I love her and then she's aloud to go have fun again. This system seems to work best and I haven't had to spank her in over a year! I don't think there is anything wrong with spanking as long as it's on their behind. Slaping their head or back or anywhere else is abuse. I think more parents have to start spanking and discipline their children better so we stop having all these delinquents running around thinking their $hit don't stink.

when they were younger it depended on what they did..sometimes it was a spanking, sometimes it was time out in the corner, sometimes they were grounded to their room and I would take all their toys out, on occasion when my son was in the terrible 2 biting stage I'd bite him back...and on other occasions still I would slap them in the mouth..... NOW..its grounding and taking away privlages like computer, phone, video games etc...but its never necessary with my daughter and my son its only about 1 or 2 times a yr...

I think spanking has its place, but shouldn't be used for every small thing. I slap my son's hand when he reaches for something he shouldn't, like the hot stove. I haven't spanked him, but I would for something serious- like safety issues. Doing it all the time would be pointless and would not teach them. My son is almost 2 and he understands when I explain things to him, which I think is much more effective in getting him to follow rules than spanking or time out. He is a bit young for time out, but even as he gets older, I probably won't use it much.

I think every child is different but I know in my case timeouts and talking did not work for my oldest. I asked my Pediatrician what he would recommend and he asked if we spanked. I said no. He then told me that he feels spanking is ok when the child is endangering himself or someone else. So that is what we try to do now and it seems to work for the most part.