Retire from a job but never retire from Life

I have overheard many people chatting in the supermarkets,talking about their retirement.There have bee nvarious points of view on it ,some have said that they are `bored`,..well thts all well and good,but for those who are bored there is a million and one hobbies that you can pick up along the way,and a lot of them dont entail a lot of capital either.I am not too sure whether im right when I say this,but its just my opinion,there are a lot of males who retire and then wonder how to fill thier time in,as usually the domestic chores have been done for years by the female.Often its resented if the male treads on the females toes,but there are many little jobs that can be done without invading each others space.Yes I suppose that retirement may well leave a lot of people feeling at a loose end and unwanted,but it is up to the individual to motivate,to find something that will capture thier interests again,there are many types of voluntary organisations who are crying out for people to help them.

Am there have been for several years. I have gran daugfhter to keep me busy. BUt I never thought that way I have thought of myself of being a big part of the family. I was sort of forced into retirement to take care of hubby. and when he passed away I was really lost for awhile but I am getting on now and aint gonna lay down and die for no good reason! I hate it when Son -in -law tells me I am old as I dont feel like I am altho now since the operations I havent got all muscles back like I had. I am one of those persons that says I will not be put dopwn I aint old I just look that way LOLOLOLOLOLOOL

Well unfortantly I am on disability due to having ms. I haven't let myself get down about it though. I make myself keep busy doing something. I also make myself do exersices and make myself stay busy. Wheater it is from being online or out with friends or family. Or reading a book. I decided a long time ago not to let this get the best of me. I also pray to God a lot and read the bible every night.

hi zandi yes its so upsetting to be forcibly retired from a job you love and coworkers that seem like family and for what, because I was 79, she said that as tho it was a crime, you know after all you are almost eighty she said, the works too hard for you, I had never complained, anyway when I first came home I was so depressed and thought my usefulness was over but I found my lot and friends who are not shocked that I am now almost 82 on mybirthday in November.I really think mylot saved me from a very bleak existance.

Tha's a very good discussion dear. I really appreciate this discussion. Your discussion has forced me to think what will I do after my retirement. It is the first time I am thinking about this. Firstly, I would say that it is the duty of youngsters to congratulate the efforts of all those who retired and to help them integrate among them. There must not be any discrimination or barriers. More social activities must be organised for retired people. This will help them to express themselves and to be helpful. I really think that this is becoming an issue these days where retired people loose their self-esteem. Thanks for starting this discussion. I will work on this and I will try to bring this issue as a discussion in my community centre where much can be done for retired people. I think we must all think on this topic and support retired people.

I don't think I will ever retire. My job doesn't really require me to (not even when I'm old). I belong in the IT industry and as much as "new" is a very important adjective, "young" doesn't attract many opportunities. The industry prefer people with experience and as long as you're up-to-date with the technology then you'll still more likely to be sought after even after 50s. Personally I think that the reason why people become "worn out" after retirement is because they practically lived for their jobs. I don't think that's a healthy predisposition unless you ARE working on you :)

My s/o is retiring early next year, he is taking early retirement, but after 25 years he is ready for a change. He will be staying active as he is already looking at other options for a 'new' line of work. He also wants to buy a house, so we will be keeping busy with that too. I think that the ones you refer too are the ones that work until they are 'retirement' age, 65. I don't really think it has to do with a 'younger' society but more to do with the persons age and personal lifestyle. Many retirees, at age 65 or older, stay active through volunteer work, community services, etc.

I think everybody has a different view to the retirement. It's still a long term for me to retire. If one day I am retired, it won't be the end of the world for me. On the contrary, I feel free and finally I have enough free time to do what I want. That's so exciting:) Probably at that time I will spend more time on painting, cooking, watching movies and TV series and playing computer games. I love China

I fully agree with you yes it happen to most of people who gets retired from their jobs . And when I study the behavior I find that disruption of routine is the cause behind all such people. And I really feel very sorry for them...... even I feel hurted seeing them falling in depression low self-esteem and tension. But I think if they do have something interesting to do after they retire they can be saved from the bad effects of retirement. I appreciate your forward thinking... Take care Ganesh

that;s good point of view. the attitude controls everything. no matter uselessness,worthlessness or something what, that's all depend on yourselves. why its happened, coz you think it should be like that. you mind is full of such bad think, and it will become like that.

hi there,my husband is retired a long time coz of his diabetes means" early retirement" in a private insurance.so since this year he would like to enjoy his life in Philippines.we just bought a beach property and enjoy his life there everyday to touch the sea water before going to bed and after bed thats what he wanted a long time.thanks for the interesting topic.

Hi Zandi, I suppose it depends how one regards retirement. Like in your case, you choose to retire - it's therefore a pleasure. You'd have planned the activities you'd want to do or programs you want to participate; and you are looking forward to it. Some look at retirement as a process of life (forced retirement?),I suppose.- going to office until the last day of work, and then brooding each day, with nothing to look forward to. As they are so used to the routine of 8-5, Mon-Fri working weeks, they are at a loss as to what to do with so much time on their hands. I'm really looking forward to retirement - there are so many things I want to do, that I don't have the time to do now. Books unread, booksales to go to (never enough time to browse), learn cooking, travelling...and of course, the internet.

It's a long way to go from here to retirement, well it's now to plan better then not to plan later in life. Sometimes it hard for people to retire and stop working and working, as lives all over the world became so stress they need to work to earn a living. When they grow old, they don't wanna stop working they do work like doing volunteer job. Retired and doing a wonderful things and find things to do like finding hobbies to do to kill the time.

hi,zandi458,i think it's a good question on mylot. when i retired, i would like to join a volunteer organization not only to help people but to meet more friends never met on working days. perhaps i'd like to travel different countries to find how the people live there, the views and the sky. i expect the day dream come true.

Your body stops working when you stop using it. Your mind will turn to mush if you don't use it and try to learn something new everyday. When you retire you have to find a hobby or some work that you enjoy doing. Find something to get up for in the morning. Help other people and stay active. Maybe even take up ballroom dancing or a musical instrument.

My husband was forced to retire early because of his health. He worked as a janitor in a university for 38 years. Now he has been retired about 4 years. I see his health failing even more, his eyes, his joints, his mental state since he retired. He keeps very busy doing a few odd jobs for people actually on a pretty regular basis, but he really misses going to work. If we sleep in till say 9 am, he will complain he doesn't feel well because for 38 years he got up at 4 am to go to work. He was very happy working. I am disabled so we both collect government pension, and sometimes it's tough financially. I think he wouldn't be so depressed if he had been able to retire in his own time. It was very tough on him to be forced. Even though he gets checkups regularly and takes his necessary meds, he is definitely not the same person he was when he was working. I agree that life is not over. I think hubby would agree too, but it does make for a big change and one needs to be mentally and emotionally prepared to make the step of retirement.

[i]HI zandi, I guess like other people, I love to enjoy life when I will retire, like just spend time with hubby and family to have trips, visiting nice places every now and then and enjoy the beauty of old age! LOL! I want that time, I will not worry about anything! I wish! LOL!I want to do everything that I want to do this time so that when time comes that I will retire, I will not feel like I am useless, I will just feel that my time is over and this time is for me to recall my past and enjoy the moment![/i]

It is important how the people who retired think about themselves. Family can help them get rid of the feeling of uselessness, but others cann't. But if this person tries to get out of the feeling by himself, I suppose this is the best way. There are always a lot of things to do even for retirees, such as joining clubs which are set up for them, going out to be a volunteer,etc.

I do not believe that retiring from job is retiring from life. I have seen many friends who have retired from jub but they are still active in one or the other field. Mere retiring from the job does not render a person useless. Some time retired life is more interesting. I think after getting retired from my job I will under take some social networking to keep my self active and thereby I will be earning also. At least I will be busy with my lot a lot.How about you please comment.

Hi zandi458, My sister retired 4 years ago and she has not stop, she is so busy, she out all the time going theatres and seeing show in the west end of London and runing aroun he grown up childred, she is more busy then when she was working. I have to retire earley because of my health but I do a lot gentle execise and I have learned how to use the computer, that was my biggest achivement and I keep busy all the time and I go out quite ofetn too and meeting new ffriends at my age so its all good. Tamara