respect

Singapore
September 5, 2008 6:47am CST
i am 18 this yr and i have a younger sister who is 4 yrs younger then me. since young, she have been showing some disrespect to me. and as years goes by, she tend to disregard me more and more. i really feel the need for her to respect me. what should i do?
3 responses
@XiaXueYi (85)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
Hate to butt in on this discussion, but does everyone mind specifying what sort of of "disrespect" or "disregard" are you receiving? For me, I'm the youngest of two children, and although there are times I show disrespect to my elder brother, yet there are times when he is inevidently in the wrong, or his logic is flawed, or w/e; yet he has always exerted his "elder power" over me even if he's in the wrong. That's the part about elder siblings I do not like. Just because interests clash does not give you the right to bully, or abuse the power you have, over your other siblings. Not to mention the fact that I'm just a bony teenager and he's a well-built man.
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
i am open to opinions and reasoning with others. what i mean is the basic respect. should more details be talked about if the basic is undone?
• Singapore
7 Sep 08
No really, "respect" is a very abstract thing. You might want to tell me (or us) at least one way in which your younger sister shows you disrespect. Otherwise, there is no way I can give further advice on this.
@Antzon (159)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
I have 2 other siblings at home, one 2 years younger then me another 7 years. They do not show the "necessary" repect to me too however we are a family and we try to let go of this system of giving the "necessary" respect and thus they tend not to respect you because they do not see the need to, however if they go overboard just be firm with them and state your limits, most importantly explain how you feel about some actions that they have done and let them understand it. It will be hard however it will work eventually. Good luck
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
thanks
@Sam334 (125)
• Singapore
5 Sep 08
It's important to give each and everyone the respect they deserves, and it's also important to get along together. While you can try not to be too strict and look fierce all the time juz cuz' you're older or whatnot, it would be useful to explain things to time and become "FIERCE" once in awhile. :D I kinda understand what you mean, cuz' kids tend to be more self-conscious and think too full of themselves, act arrogantly unless you show them who's boss once in awhile. A friend's younger brother always acts rudely, so I tend to remind myself to keep a strict face when he is around to remind him to give me due respect.
5 Sep 08
I hate to say she's a teenager and will probably grow out of it! If it's to do with your relationship though perhaps spend sometime seeing how you could act differently and see if it has an effect?