Does your mood affect how you treat people?

Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
September 5, 2008 8:14am CST
I have noticed that some of the friends I have on MyLot can behave in two different ways when responding to my discussions. Some days they are good natured and ready to have a good time and other times they seem upset no matter what the subject is about. Do you have friends like this, whether they be from MyLot or peole you see? I try to ignore them when they behave like the whole world is out to get them. How do you handle it?
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@baileycows (3668)
• United States
5 Sep 08
Certainly because that is because I am weak. When we have ill feelings or don't feel in the mood. We need to make a conscious decision to not take it out on others. How we react can change others perspective. We should be conscious that they did not do it to use and do not deserve our negativity or problems.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
5 Sep 08
Wow kudos to you for teling it the way it really is, LOL! Honestly I didn't realy think too many would be this honest. It can be hard sometimes when you are not in the best of moods. Other peoples comments can seem like they are solely picking o you, but as you stated, we must remember that they are not starting war with us, LOL
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@rshartist (161)
• United States
11 Oct 08
Yes, I do agree with you about people's mood do affect how they treat others. They should keep it in ther mind that they should treat others way they want be treated. When I am in bad mood, I often tell them that I am moody and request them to take it easy with me that was a plain honest. It is best take a break and let moods change first before do anything that require emotion involved.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
18 Oct 08
Or we could just take a nap, LOL! I only feel moody when I am tired so when the mood comes I snooze
• India
21 Sep 08
hi yes it is but obvious that if i am in not good mood i may not show the interest in someone's matter. I may behieve ruddly if i am tense. viki
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
21 Sep 08
A lot of people say that they become rude when they are in a bad mood. It seems to be very common.
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@gtdonna (1740)
6 Sep 08
Yes I have friends who behave like that. When notice the mood shift, I am like "Cool it, what is the problem? You can't go around taking out your anger on innocent people". This usually works to calm them down enough for them to say they are have issues or just a bad day and then I try to see how I can help them. I would never ignore someone who needs reaching out to...I just can't do it.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
9 Sep 08
Thats a good way to look at it! No one just acts like that, they usually have some issues. Good for you for trying to help
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
6 Sep 08
not really. i only give it to people when they make me sick to shut them up. by the way...check out my ehow page...i am fifileigh on whow, and tell me what my articles there r like
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
9 Sep 08
LOL! thanks for the warning !!
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
Yea. It does.. sometimes. It really depends on my mood and on how irritating the person is. If I am in a bad mood or feeling moody and my friend is behaving in an irritating manner, I'll surely shout at him and asked be left alone. This explains why I rather be left alone when I am not in a good mood. On the other hand, I never vent my anger online. If I am in a bad mood, I would be watching anime (to cheer myself up) instead of being in mylot.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
6 Sep 08
At least you know how to remedy your mood
@valanthe (50)
• Poland
5 Sep 08
My mood sometimes affect how I treat people - when I'm in bad mood I becoma snappy and introverted and I want everybody to leave me alone. Fortunately (for both me and my friends) it doesn't happend offen. And if I know that I had hurt someone with my behaviour I apologise to them when I'm in better mood. When my friends treat me strange I usualy just ask them about it. And if they don't want to speak about it I let them be knowing that they will be back to their normal selves in some time.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
6 Sep 08
Very positive attitude to have. If you break it you fix it, LOL
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
5 Sep 08
I am an impulsive person and most of the time, I let my emotion get the better of me. Bad habit though, so I am trying to change it. We all respond to something based on our emotions. Sometimes being subjective ruled over objective. Being bad mood may cause unwanted situations at times but I always make it a point to apologize to the person I have difficulties with and that is one thing I am proud of. Although I am impulsive, I know when enough is enough and when to accept humility.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
5 Sep 08
Well one may be a bad habit but the other is an asset. How many people do you know who can say they were wrong? My own mother is still to this day not able to, LOL! So hey you are better off than maybe you even knew.
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@babykeka80 (2089)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I try not to take it personal. Sometimes my mood will reflect in discussions about subjects I am very passionate about. I try not to reply to discussions that will lead to strong debate or even arguing such as political topics or questions about religion. I prefer to leave my beliefs to myself and family and prevent the dispute altogether. Some days I know I need to put in sometime on my online sites even though I do not want to. These days are probably the ones that you get the upset responses. When your mood is reflected in your responses because of something outside of the online world. It is hard to differentiate the two when you are already emotional or upset about something.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
5 Sep 08
ok I can see this but how about giving your oppinion and not being upset. It is ok for all of us to think something different. I think we should give our own oppinion to others but never get upset that they do not see it the way we do. Sometimes different upbringings or cultures will put a different way to view a subject in diffrent people. It doesn't mean you are wrong or the guy who has a different oppinion is wrong. You both are right for yourselves. So leave your oppinion and don't worry about the debate. That is your right and you should use it. If someone becomes upset or tries to debate whether you are correct or not, just know that they are exercising their need to control, that is their problem not yours or mine. LOL, a novel this has become!
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• Philippines
5 Sep 08
All people comes with different moods everyday, whether it is caused by a bad impression when they woke up or something elses ruin their day. Some could manage to coop them up and their are some who is just showy in their moods whether they are online, or at the neigborhood.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
5 Sep 08
I am not sure I agree with this. I do not wake up moody or when I do, I cerainly do not hide it. I think you have to choose how to deal wih your daily trials from waking to sleep time. Why carry all of that weight on your shoulders or even pent them up inside just to explode another day. Relaxing is the key for me. I just ask myself, what is the harm in what happened? Usually thre is no harm so there is no need to get upset. Although I know there are times we can not help this, like the lossof a loved one. I am more specifically talking about the way we react to others just because we are grouchy. Why take it out on everyone? Don"t worry Be Happy
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
5 Sep 08
I have know people to act like this. Sometimes they are unpredictable from one day to the next. I haven't had too many problems here on myLot though. People are pretty caring and then some people have some harsh opinions. I believe that it is what this site is all about. There are going to be different moods and personalities and I just accept them as they come. I usually try to be patient with people in my personal life. Somebody could just be having a bad day.
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• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
5 Sep 08
Yes thy could be having a bad day but they have a choice of whether their day is bd or not. It is all in our attitude a to how we deal with situations. We can be light hearted about most things or we can just treat every aspect of our lives as gloom and doom. I choose to try to take everything as lightly as possible because in th end, the person who ismad is the only one suffering, unless the rest of us let them bring us down also. Good attitude to have by being patient. Never take it personally
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I have my good days and my bad days when things aren't so rosy but I tend to sometimes stay away from mylot when I am on one of my moods otherwise my responses aren't up to par and I feel I didn't do my best.. and most times regret my post/comments the next day..
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
11 Sep 08
Oh yes, I have had days were you wake up wishing you hadn't said what you said! I try not to do that now.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
17 Sep 08
My mom looks at it like this..If it isn't something you would say to or in front of your grandmother then it shouldn't be said or wrote..lol
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
17 Sep 08
Your mom sounds like mine but I say if you are not saying something to be mean, who cares if grandma is mad. I love grandma but she is from a different time and I think that it is just like lying to her when I hide who I am, LOL!
@msedge (4012)
• United States
18 Sep 08
My mood would really changed if someone got me offended.I would feel like it will ruin my day until that person will be out from my sight.My hubby always understand me.And do also understand people's mood.So if a friend is not in a good mood i will try to understand her/him and it would not definitely affect our friendship.
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
21 Sep 08
Forgiving is good for you because when we become upset at others for their bad attitude, we usually are theones ho suffer the consiquences. So good for you! A lot of people wouldn't be able to forgive.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
28 Oct 08
I agree
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
13 Nov 08
It helps if we remember that most things said online can be taken any way. It is hard to read emotion from a computer, LOL! You can say the same thing in different tones of voice and the meaning changes. With the computer that isn't possible so it is hard to see were people are coming from. Maybe we get offended when something is wrote but the writer did not intend it the way we took it. WOW the drama of online communication, LOL!
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
3 Dec 08
ha ha ha ha ha... I would say that happens to me some times. As in, lousy mood getting in the way I deal with people. That is why, when I am in a lousy mood, I prefer to stay away from interaction till I get into a better mood. Coming to mylot does help to some extent. But nothing beats a good tub of Chocolate Ice Cream!
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
30 Mar 09
All righty!!! I love the chocolate too, lol! I think that is an excellent idea
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
14 May 09
Yeah! It really helps! Now, reading this post again, I am craving for some!
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
7 Sep 08
yes i have that in real life. in mycase its affect so much.specially if i am on 100 degrees high i cannot control my mouth.if people know about me yes they just lef and accept me but some needs to learn about me.
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
9 Sep 08
I guess heat can do it , LOL
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
9 Sep 08
i guess so
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
6 Sep 08
NOt really ^_^ I wun let my mood affect everything that i do ^_^ As far as i know, in mylot, i have always been in a good mood because it's my relaxing corner, talking to frenz ^_^ In real life, i will also try my best, not to let my mood affect other ple, because they are innocent and i dun wanna them to be scare of me just because i hurt them with my words when i'm in the wrong mood ^_^ ANd if i'm not in the mood, i will usually tell them 1st, so that they will know their limits if they wanna do anything ^_^ BUt i do have frenz whom behaved like the whole world owes them something, and most of the time, i will be scolding them and arguing with them.. lol
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
9 Sep 08
Its good that you try to control your mood and stay away from others, LOL!
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@savypat (20245)
• United States
9 Sep 08
maybe so, maybe so.
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@Ritchelle (3795)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
my mood affects the way i treat people. they know that if i'm not uttering a word they are treading on dangerous waters. it's not being proud of this trait but that is who i really am. i try not to talk for i may utter words i'd regret so...
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
4 Jul 09
It is good that you are able to say nothing at all instead of something that may be regretted later. I know I have said things to others then wished I hadn't.
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• Germany
13 Nov 08
In real life, when i'm moody, i don't like to talk much. And i will get less interactions with my friends. I try not to affect them when i'm moody. But i think the most persons that affected by me are my husband and family members. It seems unfair for them.
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
13 Nov 08
That makes sense LuLu. They say we take out our aggression on those that we love the most. I guess it is good we do this because they will still love us back when we are done.
@Hatley (164232)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Oct 08
hi cmathias I havent really noticed this that much, but I have seen discussions where my friends were really hurting and of course they are not going to be all lovey dovey with you when they just found out their husband is cheating them, or their' adult son is misbehaving, they are going to sound like they are in physic pain,and I cannot fault anyone for that. I am moving soon away from all thats familar and from my best dearest friend,so I am not going to be real happy dappy tonight at all. I know this move will probably be for the best but thatdoesnt stop the hurt from b eing there and missing my friends at all. Even to throwing out keepsakes because we cannot take everything in just one truck. This hurts, and its hard to p retend it doesnt. so how do I handle it, like I am handling myself right now, I give them room, I forgive them as I know how it can be.
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
13 Nov 08
I except that people show pain. I guess what I am saying here is that no matter what your pain is, it isn't other people's fault, unless of course they are the ones who injured you emotionally. You can be upset and say it without taking it out on others but people have to choose to do that. A lot of the times innocent people are the target for others pain, frustration, anger, sadness, etc... In my experience, when you begin to pick on others because you had a bad day, you only increase your pain because it fuels the fire. In a perfect world, people would realize that and deal with it differently, but of course we do not live in Utopia so I guess we just try to get by the best we can. I hope everything worked out for you Hatley. Here is a smile for you today
• United States
10 Sep 08
If a so called friend treated me rudely just because they were having a bad day and they didn't apologize to me right after, then they wouldn't have me as a friend.Most of my friends say right upfront, this is a rant or I am really p*ssed off and then they vent. That way I and anyone else knows that their rant isn't aimed at us.
• Armed Forces Canada, Europe, Middle East
11 Sep 08
It is a really good idea to do that!
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